A few months ago, I was on a search for a new personal trainer and looked through mutual friends on social media. I ran into this fairly new gym's account where they had multiple trainers so I decided to skim through their page. The most recent photo at the time was one of two guys posing and wasn't sure if they were both trainers there or not. I clicked on their individual pages and one caught my eye. He's attractive at first glance but what really got me was the topics of his posts and how creative and open he was.
I eventually chose that gym to sign up at but I chose a female trainer and have been going for a bit now. He's not a trainer but seems to work with the owners. I haven't seen him in person yet but wondered how I should shoot my shot, or if there's even a possibility without coming off creepy.
Any ideas? How would you feel if a girl randomly reached out or followed you on social media? It works for some people but I'm not sure what would be an ideal way. I'm not very forward or blunt at all so this is foreign to me. We don't work together or see each other all the time so there wouldn't be anything to ruin if things went south but wondered if this could ever turn out genuinely good or if it's pretty much not a good idea. Thanks in advance!
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I'm gonna say it's a bad idea, and in the grand scheme of things, it IS kinda creepy.
Objectively, you're admitting to signing up to a gym because an attractive guy works/visits there. If he's working, you've put him at a predicament since he can't tightly leave if you make him uncomfortable.
If he's there for self improvement, then you're attentions are a distraction from his intended goal and he's back at the previous dilemma, being that he's there for a reason and you're there for him. It's a no-win situation for him.
I'm not saying your intentions are inherently bad, but I do think you've put the cart before the horse on this. I can also say with confidence that if a man were to do this to a woman, she would very likely not be receptive at all.