It's been 7 years & my boyfriend still hasn't proposed? What do y'all think? (Page 2)

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You guys, I feel sad. It's been 7 years, no proposal. He disappeared for 2 years yet randomly came back & he continues to act like I'm his wife, having me do everything wifey like for him but without the ring. Sure, he's great, were in love, happy, he gives me money & buys me stuff but I want a marriage commitment. Is that asking too much? He's almost 50! I'd think he would wanna settle down by now... What do y'all think?

ValleyofDrakes · Answer

If you want to be married why don't you propose to him? Why put all the responsibility for something you want on someone else? That makes no sense.

I always say this. If you want something done right you gotta do it yourself.

There's no reason for you to be concerned.

Elsa143 · Answer

BREAK UP. Why did you let him come back after he disappeared? He's not trustworthy. He's clearly taking your advantage by making you do wifey things WITHOUT GETTING COMMITTED.
7 years sounds like a big insult. If he really really loved you, he would have proposed within a year or two.

AllieOops · Answer

I think that asking such a simple question, that you most likely know the answer to, is getting so many responses. That you got in a rut and are putting up with it is obvious. I have to imagine that half the questions on this site are not even true and just put out there to see the responses.

ohshee · Answer

Tell him you have been thinking about it,, and tell him you have been wrong for treating him like some on else's husband tell him you want a divorce then tell him you want to start over and this time it's his turn to ask you to be his wife lol I don't know. Hey it's worth a try if anything he will say WTF And it's good for a good laugh

potatoiswhoiam · Answer

Not all people want to get married. We all see love and commitment in different ways. Some couples never actually get married. They choose not to.. have you ever discussed marriage? Do you know each other's views on marriage? Throughout these seven years has the future been discussed when it comes to marriage and kids? If not, you don't really have the right to expect something he might not wanna do in the first place.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I don't think it's that big of a deal. One of my older sisters didn't get married to her boyfriend until she had her 3rd baby. And they were together since she was 16, so they got married many years later. You could talk to him about it if you want a marriage and see if he also wants to marry. If he doesn't, then I wouldn't worry about it too much since things seem to be fine the way they are, even without a marriage.

Dali-chan · Answer

It means you’re a forever girlfriend, and you have to move on. Men know till the beginning wether they would like to marry their girlfriends or no, and yours doesn’t want to marry you. Chances are that he doesn’t wanna propose cause he maybe still think that he can upgrade to a hotter girl, when he’ll get a better job, that’s how most men are, sadly.

SjE78 · Answer

communicate with him, maybe he's not sure if you want to get married, these days not many do... and not many realise that if they just talk to each other they might find they know what they want to know about them... but something that should have been found out during the early part of your relationship as to what you both wanted out of the relationship...

hahahmm · Answer

He has no incentive to marry you when you give him everything. And if he makes more money than you he’s got a LOT of reasons to avoid divorce... women file divorce in like 90% of cases.

Unless he explicitly told you, “do XYZ and I’ll marry you” you’re out of luck.

BensGlory · Answer

Why dont you propose to him? I mean I know the man has to do it but still, and if he say no then you know where you stand, if you don't like it then move on, maybe he doesn't want marriage and my his age now, sounds like he doesn't want kids either unless he's already been marriage before and already got kids which could be the reason why he doesn't want to do it anymore

Corerue · Answer

Well if your age is correct on the profile. You are 29 and he is 50. Probably doesn't want to be hitched this close to retirement. And honestly marriage is just a piece of paper. If your happy and in love. then why ruin a good thing?

Marriage can take the fire out of the relationship since once the ring goes on its like the chase is over. 🤷‍♂️

Just one man's perspective. However how are you OP assuring him you are the one and only girl for him? If I may ask.

pleasestopthis · Answer

Maybe he's not interested in marrying as he already gets the good things of marriage, it's been long enough. And he disappeared for two years... he's got some nerve.
Has he ever married already? if so, he probably doesn't want to deal with failure and spending a ton of money in case of divorce

bluetoblack99 · Answer

“He gives me money and buys me stuff”.

If you rely on him for money then I don’t respect you. Yeah he’s older but if he is going to pay you like a whore than don’t be surprised how he treats you.

Seriously why would he marry just so you can get alimony after you divorce him or worse inherit his money if he passes away early. He isn’t stupid.

VV3ZZY · Answer

Fuck Dat, he dissappeared for two years? Dump his ass. I'd say 3 years is the max time before I would propose.

Anonymous · Answer

i asked the woman i love numerous times if she would marry me and she has yet to give me an answer. every time i ask she dodges and avoids the question. and i been with her for over 3 years

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I think he is completely content with how things are already and will never ask to marry unless you lush the matter. Pushing the matter will either force him to propose or make you single. Chances are he has zero intentions to marrying anyone judging by the amount of time already passed.

RingOfFire · Answer

He's never going to marry you UNLESS POSSIBLY you tell him marry me or its over. That MIGHT get him to do it. He wants the wifey thing without the commitment. It's pretty common with guys. Only way past it is to make him put up or get lost. And you have to be ready to go through with it or it won't work. If you give in, he will never do it.

tofamous · Answer

Sounds like you have some problems sure you wanna hard commitment like that you're not being Fed Then disappeared for 2 years And are you sure you wanna risk this, I'm just saying sounds like a major heartbreak coming down the road. If I had a choice between being misible or lonely I would choose to lonely. But that's just me, It is not easy to make decisions like this But Then I have to ask myself, what is in my best interests

havingfun101 · Answer

You're fortunate to have a boyfriend; marriage, cohabitation and childbirth are at all time lows.

Anonymous · Answer

I think he's smart. Marriage is a trap. If you're already together and living as if you're married, then what does that piece of paper mean? It means you can cheat, treat him like shit, get lazy, and take his money anyway if he gets tired of your shit.

Marriage is an outdated ownership contract, anyway. This isn't the 1940's, and we should all just move on from those antiquated traditions

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