If you had a son who you knew beat up his girlfriend occasionally would you ever do something about it? (Page 2)

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My mom's stepson beat up his girlfriend today in the street and the cops ended up coming and she said "everything is cool" , so the cops left the situation alone But she told my aunt that my stepbrother slapped her, pulled her hair, and knocked her to the ground and kicked her She said she didn't tell on him because she loves him and she didn't want him getting arrested  This has happened many times before and when my mom hears about it she just asks what's the problem and if the girl was being a bitch or something  She also tells her stepson to be careful or he can get locked up she said no girl is worth that Do you think my mom being a woman should step in more or should the victim be expected to take action and watch her own back Also the girlfriend has no family here, all her family lives in another country

LEADFOOTboi · Answer

your mom is of the "my angel son can do no wrong" mentality... she's an enabler of that guy, and that's wrong... no one should be hitting womens... even worse that she has no where to go for safety except the streets...
if my son was doing this, i'd BEAT HIS ASS... and let the coppers arrest him for his evils

genericname85 · Answer

i'd consider myself a failure as a parent. i've studied a bit of psychology but basically if your child is not socially adjusted at the age where they have partners, you fucked up in their first years. there's not much you can do. actual psychologists have no actual ways to deal with that, so you as a parent will have even worse chances. they mostly will naturally adjust at around the ages of 28-30. untill then, all you can do is try shit and hope but probably nothing will help anyway.

Agape93 · Answer

Ohhhh yeah. I’m sorry but if a child of mine puts his hands on his partner like that, I’m giving him a severe beating. He will learn his fucking lesson, or I’ll do it again and again.

ColHathi · Answer

That's messed up. Poor girl.

I don't know what I'd do, but I'd ofc try to do something about it, even if it means prison for him I think (I don't have a son so who knows how I'd really feel if it came to that). Of course it also depends on the girl, because if she keeps standing up for him, there's only so much that I can do :/

Frankly fighting him wouldn't be out of the question either, but I'm not a fighter and I'd probably just get my ass kicked too.

tofamous · Answer

I would confront him and challenge him and regardless of his response I would knock his ass Out Some People would say Brian you are violent , No I believe you address Physical aggression with physical aggression This is another reason why I feel that especially females should have personal defense running.. It is not a question of if the enemy is coming it's a question of are you ready when it arrives. Maximum efficiency with minimal effort

CasaNorba · Answer

depends what age gap he is. if he's young and still under my custody I would fo anything it takes to remind him I did not raise a toxic loser.

but if he's old and out on his own then on his own he is. but he better not think about contacting me if he needs a bail

Medlife · Answer

Anyone touches a female in anger needs to have a good reason. I have a daughter and she has been raised properly. U dont not mock or belittle anyone no matter sex or race. But if anyone touched her id be going to jail for murder. Facts...

purplepoppy · Answer

Being family is no excuse for turning a blind eye to violence

Anonymous · Answer

Well no kids yet.. but I have a brother who is a little bit younger. He slapped his girlfriend in front of me. I took a broom and I whooped him really good. I also adviced his girlfriend to leave him. No one can touch you, beat or slap you. He did anger therapy and now he is ok.

martinxdenver · Answer

I won't, and even of it's a must that I must do something, Before doing anything, I'd ask him what she did to him, and I'd ask her why she's still with him. And the thing I'd most likely do at the end is leave them alone to solve their problems and grow independently.

Kiss_Me · Answer

I would envision a future conversation going something like this...
"Grand Pa, Why do you walk with such a bad limp?"
"Well, your Grand Pa made a bad decision one time and hit his girlfriend and her family found out..."

LivingExample · Answer

It sounds like he is an adult so his Mother does not have much control over him. The biggest thing his Mother could do is if he lives with her she could tell him she is going to kick him out if he does not stop hurting his girlfriend. If he does not live with his Mother the girlfriend needs to get far, far away from him before he hurts her she seriously.

Starrr01 · Answer

Well I wouldn’t raise my son to do that and if he did I would talk to him about it. Or get him help because maybe there’s something wrong with him. I would just think about if a guy was doing that to my daughter

lucky840 · Answer

I'd move her in with me for 1 to see if she fuckin with him to piss him off that bad, and 2, wait for him to try that shit in my house and beat the shit outta him and show her how to do it next time he wants to do it when they are alone.

Anonymous · Answer

My dad would of kicked my ass (back when he could) for doing something like that. My mom would of had me arrested even if she didn’t see the whole incident. In fact you pushed the chivalry bullshit way too far and literally raised me to kiss girls asses which I hated them for.

EmmaMary · Answer

He would be incarcerated faster than he could say his own name.

Lily654 · Answer

I would obviously stop him. I didn't raise an abusive son, so if he goes around abusing girls, then he's gonna regret it. No one should ever abuse someone. I would turn in my son, family or not.

Simplegirl55 · Answer

I will home arrest him and give him professional help you can't beat someone

Prof_Don · Answer

I’d definitely have a stern talk with him to figure out why he is beating up his girlfriend. Who knows, she could be neglectful / abusive towards him and that isn’t being seen by outsiders.

But no way would I do absolutely nothing!

Bluemax · Answer

If it were my own son and I saw him in the act of abusing his girlfriend, I'd put his goddamn head through the wall. If I heard but did not see him abuse his girlfriend, I would report him.

cjgsu · Answer

Yes!!! I don't have a kid but if it was my brother I would tell my mother and let's just say he don't want moms 2 find out.

Anonymous · Answer

It happened few times before...

WTF, she has death wish or she is illegal immigrant?

That, 'but he loves me' BS...

Then why she keeps triggering, that beating?

Not saying that it is her fault, just he doesn't want him arrested, but likes when he kicks s*it out of her?

He will not stop until she does something about it and some family members involvement can make it all even worse for her...

Owen_9527 · Answer

fistt , i'll go get the reason why my son always beats his girlfriend.
if my son has problems like the stepson above, my son and his girlfriend both have serious problem. i'll conmunicate with my son to help him. but if he continues on his behavior. maybe i will never care about him and his girlfriend. cuz they will get bad ends maybe death on the streets. i'll abandon this kind of son.

imlost_gb · Answer

watch him turn on his mom one day and beat the crap or him beat the crap out of you, or vice versa. sometimes it takes something like that for them to wake tf up

8lutty · Answer

why would he do that? could he change? and if worst come to worst, that my boy do that bc he love it and doesn't want to change, well... I dont know what to do other than help the girl get away from him if she want that, but I will also protect my son from the law...

Squirts93 · Answer

This is what the police are for. If there's a situation where you can commit battery and nobody does anything, it will never get better. That person needs correction.

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

I wouldn't do anything if my son beat up anybody.

The world is a warzone and a moron-fest. Why would I do anything about my son being better than other people?

What I'd take action for is if he loses a lot of fights.

Twinrova · Answer

If I was her and I saw what transpired, I would tell the police officers to take that scum off to a jail cell. I'd tell my son not to seek me out when he gets out of jail, because I wouldn't want to associate with him any more.

havingfun101 · Answer

Only someone like him would want an illegal immigrant in most cases. We get what we deserve and your mom: she's just being a woman.

John_Galt · Answer

no cops needed... just gather up a few male family members and jam him up somewhere! If one good “talk” doesn’t do the trick. Then sure, call the cops.

Lynx122 · Answer

I'd beat the shit out of him instead and tell her to leave. Like that scene in Good Fellas.

Hannah_le · Answer

If it was self defense I wouldn’t care but abuse? I would whoop his ass n then send her to her family then if he continues send him to jail. That’s not right to downgrade people

pleasestopthis · Answer

Of course I would. I don't think your mom is doing that boy any favor. He sounds like an extremely spoiled child with no sense of responsibility, he'll probably end up in jail someday.

MelissaMarie9614 · Answer

Heck yeah! I would help him and/or even get help for him and then the girl would have to end things between him and her. I would hate hate HATE to see him do something like that and HATE to her get hurt as well! He would have to be taught a lesson.

Cherokeehp · Answer

I’d tell her to leave my son immediately and then I’d have to disown my son.

just_a_potato · Answer

That is not how I raised my son. He's going to face hell the moment I find out he is abusing a partner. Not on my watch little bitch.

katiesmuff · Answer

You bet I would. There is no place for physical violence in a domestic situation such as what you mentioned.

19magic · Answer

I would talk to the girlfriend and see why she feels this way and talk to the police, there's no excuse for his behaviour

kemo56 · Answer

I'm afraid I would take a couple of friends over and say it's time that you moved on I would want enough friends so it wouldn't be a fight it would be a strong suggestion and he would leave right then

wkozak · Answer

It's not love, he must be arrested for that, he doesn't have the right to slap her because she is his girlfriend, he must get a psychological treatment

RawIronhide · Answer

If it was my son especially I'd ring his little fuckin neck and give him two bruises for every one he gave her.

Hangry22 · Answer

The girl should watch her back and report him to the police. As a mother, i would talk to him about it and not support his actions.

chapawapa · Answer

I would report him to the domestic hotline... Not only does his victim need help and therapy so does he.  He can kill someone and land in prison

Arabella_Rose · Answer

listen how your child behaves is a reflection of how the parent raised him. there is a good chance that if your son is abusive, the parent was also abusive. Stop shitting on the son and see how the mother and father raised the kid

FriendlyEnigma · Answer

Oh i'd beat his ass so fucking badly- i practically grew up under strict standards from all my mma coaches, they taught me how to act right. If i ever saw that shit from him, i'd honestly pull his ass to the side and set him straight..

Ad_Quid_Orator · Answer

I'd start with telling her parents and talking to him about it. I'd like to say I'd take legal action if it continued but I'm not a parent so I can't say whether I'd be willing to take such measures against my own flesh and blood TBH.

Bananaman177 · Answer

She loves it, otherwise she wouldn't be with him.  Nobody can save you from a trap you keep deliberately sticking your foot in.

Berethor · Answer

It sounds like a difficult situation, maybe she is into BDSM, nowadays it's hard to know. :)

Deformate · Answer

Are you your mums stepson or are you talking about your step brother? It sounds like you may be talkong personally.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

It's a stepson, not even blood related, I'd disown the little shit and beat ten shades of shit outta him

slatyb · Answer

The girl needs to end the relationship immediately and seek counseling. The stepson needs help immediately before he ends up in prison or dead.

worldscolide · Answer

If i knew he beat is girlfriend... I would put him in the hospital my self. Give him a taste of his own medicine. The mother should ABSOLUTELY step in. holy crap

Snowman666 · Answer

I would knock his teeth out and beat him worse then he ever has gotten it. We don't hit women in my family. If he did, he would be lucky i didn't kill him.

Pete671 · Answer

I'd disown my son, if the girlfriend puts up with being beaten that's her lookout, I'd offer her shelter though, and keep my son away from her as much as I could,

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

I am confused did he got beaten up by the lady? Thats why your mom told be careful from such ladies? Bc as shown in image the lady is beating the guy.  So asking

DeeToPlay · Answer

There would be a serious conversation going down. If my son was such a coward and lowlife I would have to wonder where I went wrong.

RingOfFire · Answer

I'd beat the fucking daylights out of my son if he did that. A man must NEVER hit a woman unless in self defense. PERIOD. There is no excuse for it.

Anonymous · Answer

I have an abuse fetish so I look at this very differently when it happens to me. But I would never let it happen to anyone else, call the cops on that guy asap

BCA6010 · Answer

If I found out about that, it'll be the worst day of his life.

CuriousCat123 · Answer

I would ground them, apologize to the girl and her family, and make my son break up with her for both of there's safety.

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