If I ever had a boy, or even my nephew, or some relation, that beat on a woman, well, we would have a "Talk" and maybe he would have fallen down, a few times, and maybe accidentally ran into something. . . After our 'Chat' he would have a new respect for women. . . There is NEVER, EVER, any reason to hit, or abuse a woman or child!!!
This is domestic violence, it's abuse, it's illegal and you should not condone it by remaining silent.
It's difficult to intervene, because it sounds like the girlfriend is still in a state of denial, she believes it's ok and he'll stop doing it. But it's not right, it's not normal and she needs to hear that.
If I had a son you beats up his girlfriend and I find out about it. I would beat him, make sure he apologizes to her and if she feels the need of him apologizes infront of her parents too (cause she had to tell her parents lies about her bruises, etc) Then he will do that too.
And then I would force him to explain this behavior and get rid of it with therapie, my help and so on.
His mom is clearly not thinking of the long term consequences of her sons actions. I would have told the police what happened and demanded they took him into custody. Because it's the only possible way of ensuring things don't worse and I am not a party of what can potentially happen next. If he ends up putting hid hands on her again, his mother does bare some responsibility for it. Because she made the choice to protect her son when his actions where clearly in the wrong.
I detest wife beaters, men who do this reek of insecurity and weakness.
The evident problem in this particular case is that his mom appears to justify domestic violence is certain circumstances "Was she being a bitch or something?".
If his family started to distance themselves from him, make it clear that they won't entered him if he is actively beating up his girlfriend, he might think again. At the moment there is no consequences or deterrent to make him change.
Her step son sounds like a total douchebag. However she’s just as guilty as he is because she condemns this behavior. I’d have a talk with her to explain to her this is wrong and needs to be changed. Domestic violence is a serious fucking problem.
I don’t have kids. But when I do, I know I will be raising them to be decent human beings. She shouldn’t be defending his actions. He’s old enough to know what he’s doing, which means he’s old enough to face the consequences. I’d be quite disappointed in him if he were my son.
Yes, I will, even though it pains me to have to do it. Being a victim of abuse myself, I will not tolerate this behavior from anyone, even more so, from my own kids. The poor girlfriend is also someone's else daughter, imagine a parent's pain when they knew their own daughter is being abused.
The guy will kill one or all them eventually, domestic violence is a huge problem. I know if it were my family I would take some sort of action step. God forbid if something happened. I couldn't live with myself knowing I stood by and did nothing.
I don't care if it's my own flesh and blood. If he is my son he got tought not to do such things. So if he still does it and I catch him doing it, I will drop him off at the police station myself and press charges. Same for my daughter or any other family member. There is no room for such behaviour, abuse is abuse, and I don't tolerate it.
Also mental abuse, it's not just physical. My kids will know that it is not ok. And so will all the people around me.
Dude your mum is a psycho. And so is that step son. Honestly if i found my son was an abusive bastard let's just say he would be crippled for the rest of his life. I cannot stand abusive people. And well love turns to hate if something truly bad happens and that would be it.
I would kill my son! I didn’t raise him to be like that and I don’t think with his personality he could be that low or enraged. He has never raised a hand to me let alone much of an attitude. But he also knows he never too old for me to backhand if he gets disrespectful (sorry not sorry but I was a spanking parent as I was raised... I just never used a leather belt as my dad or wooden spoon as my mom did, only my bare hand)
Probably depends on his age. If he is still a kid I'd put him in therapy and force him to not see any girls and take everything away that he enjoys. If he is an adult is either let the cops know or show him how it feels to fight someone who knows how to fight back. Give him some MMA gloves go in the backyard and teach him a lesson old school.
That stepson is a piece of shit. As a cop I have no choice but to have my son arrested in a case like this. Even if I was not legally bound to do so, I would beat the crap out of him, knock some sense into him and tell the girl to leave. However, if I ever have a son, he will be raised better and would never hit a woman because he would know what I would say and do to him.
My first impulse would likely be to kick my self in the butt repeatedly until bleeding for being such a lousy role model as a father, before doing the same too his ass for being such a lousy human being. I'd like too think I'd at least try too overcome that impulse, and set up a family counseling session with him too see about straightening us both out. Until it happens, Zeus forbid, I'll never really know. Hope it doesn't.
I would be like my parents my father never hit my mom and she raised me to never hit women if it comes to that point it's better to break it off and leave the relationship if my parents would have seen me beating my girlfriend I would have been looking for a new place to live
Yeah this isn't ok, some people are into this sort of stuff so talk to the girlfriend and tell her something that she doesn't have to take this and that you have her back if she would to report him.
Though if she tells your stepbrother, you might need to defend yourself cuz he doesn't sound like the nicest guy
your mom is of the "my angel son can do no wrong" mentality... she's an enabler of that guy, and that's wrong... no one should be hitting womens... even worse that she has no where to go for safety except the streets... if my son was doing this, i'd BEAT HIS ASS... and let the coppers arrest him for his evils
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If I ever had a boy, or even my nephew, or some relation, that beat on a woman, well, we would have a "Talk" and maybe he would have fallen down, a few times, and maybe accidentally ran into something. . .
After our 'Chat' he would have a new respect for women. . .
There is NEVER, EVER, any reason to hit, or abuse a woman or child!!!
This is domestic violence, it's abuse, it's illegal and you should not condone it by remaining silent.
It's difficult to intervene, because it sounds like the girlfriend is still in a state of denial, she believes it's ok and he'll stop doing it. But it's not right, it's not normal and she needs to hear that.
Im just answering your title question.
If I had a son you beats up his girlfriend and I find out about it. I would beat him, make sure he apologizes to her and if she feels the need of him apologizes infront of her parents too (cause she had to tell her parents lies about her bruises, etc) Then he will do that too.
And then I would force him to explain this behavior and get rid of it with therapie, my help and so on.
His mom is clearly not thinking of the long term consequences of her sons actions. I would have told the police what happened and demanded they took him into custody. Because it's the only possible way of ensuring things don't worse and I am not a party of what can potentially happen next. If he ends up putting hid hands on her again, his mother does bare some responsibility for it. Because she made the choice to protect her son when his actions where clearly in the wrong.
I detest wife beaters, men who do this reek of insecurity and weakness.
The evident problem in this particular case is that his mom appears to justify domestic violence is certain circumstances "Was she being a bitch or something?".
If his family started to distance themselves from him, make it clear that they won't entered him if he is actively beating up his girlfriend, he might think again. At the moment there is no consequences or deterrent to make him change.
Her step son sounds like a total douchebag. However she’s just as guilty as he is because she condemns this behavior.
I’d have a talk with her to explain to her this is wrong and needs to be changed. Domestic violence is a serious fucking problem.
I don’t have kids. But when I do, I know I will be raising them to be decent human beings. She shouldn’t be defending his actions. He’s old enough to know what he’s doing, which means he’s old enough to face the consequences. I’d be quite disappointed in him if he were my son.
Yes, I will, even though it pains me to have to do it.
Being a victim of abuse myself, I will not tolerate this behavior from anyone, even more so, from my own kids. The poor girlfriend is also someone's else daughter, imagine a parent's pain when they knew their own daughter is being abused.
The guy will kill one or all them eventually, domestic violence is a huge problem.
I know if it were my family I would take some sort of action step. God forbid if something happened. I couldn't live with myself knowing I stood by and did nothing.
I don't care if it's my own flesh and blood.
If he is my son he got tought not to do such things. So if he still does it and I catch him doing it, I will drop him off at the police station myself and press charges.
Same for my daughter or any other family member. There is no room for such behaviour, abuse is abuse, and I don't tolerate it.
Also mental abuse, it's not just physical.
My kids will know that it is not ok.
And so will all the people around me.
Dude your mum is a psycho. And so is that step son. Honestly if i found my son was an abusive bastard let's just say he would be crippled for the rest of his life.
I cannot stand abusive people. And well love turns to hate if something truly bad happens and that would be it.
Didn't your ex abuse you?
And you left her off...
@JessieBellll Yeah i changed a lot since then. safe to say.
I would kill my son! I didn’t raise him to be like that and I don’t think with his personality he could be that low or enraged. He has never raised a hand to me let alone much of an attitude. But he also knows he never too old for me to backhand if he gets disrespectful (sorry not sorry but I was a spanking parent as I was raised... I just never used a leather belt as my dad or wooden spoon as my mom did, only my bare hand)
Probably depends on his age. If he is still a kid I'd put him in therapy and force him to not see any girls and take everything away that he enjoys. If he is an adult is either let the cops know or show him how it feels to fight someone who knows how to fight back. Give him some MMA gloves go in the backyard and teach him a lesson old school.
That stepson is a piece of shit. As a cop I have no choice but to have my son arrested in a case like this. Even if I was not legally bound to do so, I would beat the crap out of him, knock some sense into him and tell the girl to leave. However, if I ever have a son, he will be raised better and would never hit a woman because he would know what I would say and do to him.
My first impulse would likely be to kick my self in the butt repeatedly until bleeding for being such a lousy role model as a father, before doing the same too his ass for being such a lousy human being. I'd like too think I'd at least try too overcome that impulse, and set up a family counseling session with him too see about straightening us both out. Until it happens, Zeus forbid, I'll never really know. Hope it doesn't.
I would be like my parents my father never hit my mom and she raised me to never hit women if it comes to that point it's better to break it off and leave the relationship if my parents would have seen me beating my girlfriend I would have been looking for a new place to live
Iff he hit her first, id take him out back the woodshed to find him a pair of britches that fit him, just right.
Im old and was raised in the sticks. Look that reference up if u dont get it.
But... yes there's a but... if you can walk lile a man, talk like a man, and hit like a man... you can get your ass whipped like a man.
Meaning that if she starts it, and he finishes it... id remind him to not drop his left when he throws a jab.
Yeah this isn't ok, some people are into this sort of stuff so talk to the girlfriend and tell her something that she doesn't have to take this and that you have her back if she would to report him.
Though if she tells your stepbrother, you might need to defend yourself cuz he doesn't sound like the nicest guy
I'd kick my sons ass if I found out he was doing that shit. Boy is going to the slammer and will learn his fucking lesson.
cool.
your mom is of the "my angel son can do no wrong" mentality... she's an enabler of that guy, and that's wrong... no one should be hitting womens... even worse that she has no where to go for safety except the streets...
if my son was doing this, i'd BEAT HIS ASS... and let the coppers arrest him for his evils