I was in love with two girls at the same time, but only having sex with one of them. I’ll call them Ani and Bree. I’ve known Annie For about eight years already before I met Bree, and we had had a bit of a long distance relationship, writing each other letters and seeing each other when we could. I met Bree I met Bree and fell in love with her, and we started dating. I had a weekend free and went to go visit a friend of mine and I was calling some of my old friends as I was driving the three or four hours to my friends house, and one of the people I called was Annie. She also had the weekend free and asked if she could come along, So we met up at my sisters place in San Francisco, and took Ani’s car down to Monterey. On the way we just had a real blast listening to music and chatting and catching up. There was no intention on either of our parts to hook up or have sex or anything, but of course we love each other. But I had a girlfriend. Oh, and Annie had a new boyfriend, also. Long story short, one thing led to another with a couple adult beverages, and we end up pashing up pretty hard, But it got to the point where she was taking my belt off, and I stopped her. “I can’t cheat on Bree” I said, And Annie said, I don’t care I have a boyfriend but want to have sex with you and I love you don’t you want to have sex with me? And the truth was I did, But I really didn’t want to hurt Bree or betray her trust. So I stopped, we stopped and just went to sleep. We did cuddle and kiss a bit more. But no sex. This led to my realization that I am polyamorous. I was just so confused how something that felt so right could possibly be wrong. I really truly love Annie, and I really and truly love Bree. , But I really didn’t want to hurt Bree or betray her trust. So I stopped, we stopped and just went to sleep. We did cuddle and kiss a bit more. But no sex. This led to my realization that I am polyamorous. I was just so confused how something that felt so right could possibly be wrong. I really truly love Annie, and I really and truly love Bree. Loving one person doesn’t mean restricting love for another person. It doesn’t work for anything, any other relationships. It’s not like you have to choose whether you love your mom or your dad, whether you love your brother your sister, whether you love one friend or another. Whether you love one of your children, or do you love the other child? None of those makes sense, and neither does monogamy. At least not to me. This was just starting out, and the more I look at it the more I see that monogamy has a lot of roots in insecurity, fear, and other things that I do not consider to be very loving, healthy, or reflective of what I believe to be true an actual love. It is more about being selfish, possessive, and insecure. I don’t mean that to be an attack on anyone who chooses monogamy, everyone is free to do their own thing for their own reasons. That’s just my perspective on it, from my own personal values.
Templates and stereotypes are everywhere. If a person says that they love their mother, father, grandmother, grandfather, uncle, aunt, and about 20 other relatives at the same TIME, then no one is surprised! This is the norm! But once a person declares that they love more than one sexual partner, that's it ! he is either a womanizer (whore), pervert, maniac, and so on. Where is the logic? Man is a social being and his ability to love is not limited to one partner. Religious sects have drilled monogamy into us, but nature still takes its toll. All jokes about lovers, all problems due to the presence of other partners, most divorces, jealousy, and so on. But why not recognize the nature of man? Why do people pervert themselves so much? If you like one partner or soup, then eat it all your life is your right. But why do you condemn those who want diversity? Why do you judge those who want to love as many partners as they want? Why should one refuse when another appears? Why should you tear yourself apart if you can be whole? This civilization is sick (((
Yes. I fell for a friend and coworker of mine, and I'm married for over eight years. I didn't intend for it to happen- and neither did she. We didn't sleep together- but feelings are mutual and very strong. My wife knows about it. I love my wife and I never kept it a secret. We just talk and get through it.
Love is a weird thing. I think we try to compartmentalize it. Describe it. Music. Movies. Books. Poems. Since the dawn of mankind, we try to place a purpose or meaning to it.
I've learned to just embrace love and enjoy the fact love is there. It comes in so many different contexts- Seeing my wife read a book to our children for bedtime. Hearing my daughter call for me when she's scared. Seeing my friend smile nervously when I say hello to her at work.
Life is too short to figure it out. Enjoy that you have it.
You kind of end up pre-programmed as to who you're attracted to. If somebody pushes enough of your buttons, you're hooked. And there's probably thousands of people who fit that criteria, so if you meet them, and you don't shut down on purpose, you can fall in love with more than one person. I've been there, done that, and it gets messy and hurtful. So, if you fall in love with someone, it makes sense to consciously avoid getting too close to someone else when you recognize who that person could be for you.
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I know 2 of my classmates which i was close to them, i know the first one 2 years ago and she was and still in love with me but i rejected her because i was in love with the other one and the other one was making this signs of loving me but some problems happened to her and she told me to not talk with her for a while and i was ok with it, the first girl after i rejected her she didn't give up and trying to make me fall in love with her, and I'm here confused about choosing one of them because the first girl is too beautiful and the second girl is beautiful but not as the first one but she has a nice personality which i like, the first one trying her best to make me love her and the second one is shy to say it but it's too clear to everyone that she loves me, and i love the both of them and don't wanna lost one of them.
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And i forgot to say that they don't know each other
I think I am for a long time. I loved a girl, it's my first love but thinks didn't really went out well because I was hot tempered. So she stopped speaking to me. Slowly me and my best friend became close and she proposed one day and I had that feeling on her too. I felt happy. But I still think of my first love and the worst part is I have no idea what I feel about her. All I know is though she hurt me so many times and almost once broke my current relationship it doesn't seem to change my feeling on her anyway. I don't know what it is.
Yeah I have been there. Back in my younger days I cheated a lot... often had two or even three girlfriends at a time. Did it in secret.
Grew out of it in my mid 30s.
I've had threesomes with two girls and me but never a "polygomous relationship." One of the kinkiest things I ever did was a threesome with two sisters.
I had two girlfriends for a while, and they knew about everything. I wasn't really in love with either one, really - we were really just enjoying each other's company for a while. I'm not sure I could be in love with more than one girl at a time.
No I am loyal to the girl I’m with but most women hate me maybe it’s because I’m in Washington and I’m on the right and Washington is a navy blue state
No. Because love has to be reciprocal. And if the first one accepted my love and decided to love me back, then I wouldn't even be talking to the second one.
No but it is possible. Love doesn't exclude, you have to be consciously disciplined for any exclusive relationship.
I think I'd have a threeway relationship at most personally.
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Yes I was seeing two sisters non-exclusivley. Got kinda messy when they found out and they started competing with each other not because they wanted me but just to beat the other.
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