How do I stop being paranoid about my Bisexual girlfriend going lesbian?

[Anonymous]

I have a girlfriend who is bisexual. Before her two years ago I had three girlfriends who all went lesbian on me so it's kind of just a natural paranoia. How do I stop this fear and worry? We have so we love each other to the ends of this Earth but I cannot shake the feeling that she'll just go lesbian on me like my old girlfriends. The way they did it doesn't help either they were cold and ruthless about it. My current one is a great girl and claimed she would never do that but there just became this point where I don't know how to not be paranoid of this. If you're not a man it's quite a humiliating thing for all your girlfriends to go as being you start questioning yourself and asking if there's something wrong with your self. At least that's my feelings with the experiences I've had. Sorry for any spelling mistakes I'm not in a clear state of mind right now

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I forgot to add that I'm no homophobic being a bisexual man myself

[eyelidsontheceiling]

First of all, accept that sexuality is fluid, and it may change. However, bisexuality isn't a path to going lesbian, it's it's own sexuality all together. Red and Yellow don't make half red, half yellow, it makes orange. Best thing to do is ask her if she's confused with her sexuality at the moment, and if she is, don't deny it or be angry at her, but instead help her figure it out. And remember communication is key. Tell her what you're feeling. Talk about it.

[Asker]

Oui Luis thank you.

[Ogopogo]

More like a path to lesbian and back, and back and forth and so on. This is what some people call the "bi-cycle." Their attractions can swing from same sex to opposite sex and back so dramatically that sometimes it feels like they have chosen a side. Then time passes and they begin to approach a center again. However, choosing a side is a seductive life choice that offers stability and membership. If a person is unaware of both the bi-cycle and the lure of that choice, they may talk themselves into believing renewed interest in both sexes is the product of social pressure or emotional strain. Perhaps it can be for some. But many who have lost interest in bisexuality and shrugged it off have found that for them it returns on a regular basis.

[cjgsu]

Therapy.
U had emotional trauma u haven't healed from

[WesBrewer]

when you are dating girls under 18 there is no solidity in relationships usually, so I wouldn't worry too much anyway.

[Anonymous]

You’re not going to leave her for a man, right? And she’s not sus of you. Have some faith