Once I discover their flakiness I usually don't put much stock into them anymore. Like clockwork, they end up asking "how come you don't call me anymore" which usually gives me an opportunity to say something like, "Well, I was counting on you to help me move last month, and you said you would, but you didn't, so I just figured you were mad at me."
They have two options: to be straight up or to make excuses.
1. "You're right, I should have been there. I'm sorry. Let me take you out for dinner (post-Covid), as it's the least I can do." Then I might allow them to stay closer into my life.
2. "Oh it wasn't like that, you just didn't call and give me the exact time when to be there, so I was just waiting for you actually." Excuses (and they're always going to be bad ones) will allow me to feel better about keeping my distance from then on.
With a big online presence, even on here, I don't mind them. I deal with all sorts of people in helping them. I don't care for attention getters though. Can't deal with that.
Depends heavily if you've talked to them and you get signs of depression, social anxiety, stress overload. Everyone handles situations differently. If they are genuinely having a hard time dealing with shit. Which for some people is easier to hide than others. But can show up with things like this.
There are times I make plans with people to do things and even if I don't think I can do it I still try. Even if it's my least favorite thing to do. I only flake last minute if there's an emergency or i'm having a mental breakdown.
I can’t stand them, I try to avoid them at all costs. Most of my supposed "friends" were flaky and inconsiderate. And of the people I've known like that, two-thirds of them were girls. It seems to be pretty common among girls.
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You just put them on the back burner. I can always tell when something's off like that in a person. There are ways I can get them to show me those traits so I know who I'm dealing with.
I have a simple rule.
Flake = GONE My time is valuable. What a display of disrespect to flake on someone.
What i do is test all people and the more you do what you say the more i trust you. The more you dont the more i dont trust you. If i trust you i will help you. So if your flaky you are out of luck i will not do a thing for you
It's hard for me to take them seriously. I try to but always take everything they say with a grain of salt.
Trust but verify. Always.
And rely on YOURSELF.
What I think about flaky people is that they... oooooh look a pretty butterfly wow they just glide...
Flaky people always canceling, and then planning and canceling again, it is very annoying, I can be friends with them but I can't date one.
Flaky people usually have this smug eye contact. Like they're sizing you up.
Sometimes people can have underlying issues, like social anxiety, which can cause them to be unintentionally flaky. They're not necessarily bad people.
I'm like a black sweater when you have dandruff, I'm a flake magnet (, don't go there) for the most part I don't get bothered.
I'm dealing with one now and it's driving me fucking crazy
What do you mean by Flaky 😅
Just observe them. Listen to them. You can tell.
u Once burned that’s it it’s over
I'm flaky. Avoid us at all cost.
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