A girl readded my boyfriend after he deleted her, and he told her I asked him to delete her. Is it a red flag?

[Anonymous]

Before we are together, my boyfriend added a lot of girls on his social media and flirted with them. I was ok with it as we weren't a couple and I asked him to delete those mean nothing to him. Last weekend, he asked me to pick up a phone call for him (he was taking a shower), and I noticed that one girl added him back and accused him of deleting her. He explained to her that I made him delete her but he has to do it because I am the most important thing to him. I don't know whether I should bring this up to him considering I shouldn't look into his phone.

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[CMC93]

No it is not a red flag. I get what you are thinking though.

She re-added him and messaged him because she probably doesn't understand why he deleted her and thinks it is random.

Your boyfriend was just simply telling her the truth, which is that he deleted her and won't add her because you feel uncomfortable. Your boyfriend is doing this for you. Isn't that what you wanted?

That being said, is it possible that you might have trust issues? It's not really healthy to tell your boyfriend to delete girls off his social media. If it were an ex or a friends with benefits than maybe I could understand.

You are right that you shouldn't be looking in his phone. It seems like you don't trust him. It might be a good idea to think about why you don't trust him or if these trust issues are because of something that happened to you in the past.

[Screenwriter]

This sounds like extremely childish shit.
It is not your business who your boyfriend interacts with on his social media. Just like it's not your business who he's talking to on the phone, or texting.
Your forcing him to delete women because he flirts with them online is overbearing. His telling some stranger that you FORCED HIM TO DELETE HER sounds like high school.
If you want to play these games, go ahead. Sounds like a poor match on both sides.

[Mark83]

You got the answer you wanted, so what's to bring up? He deleted her for you and was honest with her about it. So what reason would you have to believe that he wasn't honest with you? The only reason for you to bring it up would be to apologize for looking through his phone.

[Asker]

But he said something to her like "I didn't delete you and I am waiting for you to add me back..."

[Mark83]

But you said she added him back, and he explained that he deleted her because of you... I don't understand.

[Asker]

I read through their messages, on top of his explanation I mentioned in my post, he also explained to her the reason he deleted her is that I asked him to, and he said he didn't block her just deleted her is because he is waiting for her to add him back.

[Mark83]

So obviously he's not as happy as you thought about deleting his friends? In that case, yes, you should talk to him about it. He should be able to keep his friends if he wants to, but set some boundaries about the flirting that you can agree to.

[Asker]

Thanks for your advice. I will talk to him about it.

[Mark83]

Good luck!

[boggboss]

Clearly you missing out information for this to be a issue

[Anonymous]

Get over it and grow up you sound very controlling telling him what to do on top of this you have zero trust in him for you to be going through his phone like you did think this guy really needs to rethink being with you if you don’t stop controlling him and telling him who he can and can’t be friends with absolutely disgusting behaviour from you

[Anonymous]

What’s the problem? You tell him what to do and he does it. Good boy

[Opinion Owner]

*pats on the head

[AlexanderG2005]

Definitely a red flag. I know im just a kid but that sounds like he is up to something again.