I have one pic of an ex, by himself on his motorbike. It's a great pic I took and it was a great day and it's a FABULOUS Harley. THAT, I could understand. ONE picture on a public site.
But pictures of the TWO of them together and NO pictures of the two of you? Anywhere?
Something is wrong.
Six months isn't a long time. The fact that he's moving to ANOTHER COUNTRY after only six months is rather shocking in and of itself.
How long has it been since he's broken up with this other person?
I think there's unfinished business and you need to speak to him. Sounds like you're rushing to visually acknowledge the relationship and he isn't. If his friends and family still see his ex on his social media, it sounds like he hasn't told them he's with someone new and that is living a lie.
What other lies is he telling YOU?
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You mean he has his ex on his profile pic or just somewhere on his profile? First is odd and something you should comment on, second is a whatever for me.
I do not really get you, you barely use social media you say and yet you are bothered by this. Personally I will never have a profile pic with myself and my partner (or anyone else for that matter), especially pics with the partner is very cringe to me. So I would say you should not ask for him to put a pic of you two as his profile pic.
But tag him in a pic you post and see if he accept this tag. If he does not ask him about it and see what is up. He probably did not think about this at all.
Talk to my girlfriend, had similar issues. I didn't have pictures up, but they were all over the place. It's called cleaning up the physical and emotional space after prior relationships and being available for next. If he is well disconnected from her then that's good. But is he moved on emotionally? How long was he with her.
I think you'd be well versed to realize you may have battles ahead. It may cause issues to raise this but you should.
I don't want to be projecting my issues onto your scenario, but something doesn't sound right... leaving his world after only 6 months to be with you, but he's got the old world coming with him.
It's cause for concern, at least a little concern, but definitely confront him first before you make up your mind on how to feel about it.
It could be that he just doesn't really spend any time looking at his own profile, he might add new shit, but he doesn't actually look at the whole page long enough to think about totally revamping the whole thing from scratch.
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He may Be Moving to Be with You to Leave HER Behind But... He still has NOT Moved ON from Her. Wait until he is There. Then approach him. He may NOT be Ready to Explain You just Yet on Social Media. xx
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I don't think social media is very important, but. . . what does he have listed about relationship info? Does he mention you on his FB posts?
Sounds more like he also doesn't bother much with social media, where he doesn't pay much attention to updating things.
He may not have cleared out those old pics because he can't be bothered to take the time, and probably hasn't uploaded new pics with you because again, he doesn't see social media as a priority.
I moved countries and married and have a family. I used to post updates and keep the family in touch over a bunch of trivial stuff that nobody would really care about, when you think of it... But now, I only use social media for memes and jokes and stupid crap. I don't often post family or couple pics. It's not that I am trying to hide anything or such. It's just I can't be bothered anymore.I can say from my own personal experience that if he is really moving to you in a whole other country, you should not be worried. I know how hard this decision is, personally!! This is probably the hardest choice I ever made.
I don't know what your guy is like, but personally I don't know how these gadgets work even. I could have probably made the same "mistake "
I was on Instagram or chatter or something like that with a picture even, and I didn't even know it myself lol. Finally I got into the account (or whatever) and deleted itI would worry less about his relationship with others like his ex and what they were like and how he interacts/interacted with them and focus more on what makes your relationship special. If what you want to make your relationship special is a lot of Facebook pictures and posts, then focus your energy on that. But do it on your own page, and please don't do it to try and emulate the relationship he had with the person he's no longer with.
Well, is he still updating them? If it's mostly just old stuff and he hasn't added anything (or even not much) since you started dating, that may be why; he may not think of Facebook as something particularly important.
This is why I don't use social media. LOL. This is why!! I think people put wayyyy to much emphasis on it. I always hear people say, "if he doesn't post me on social media, it's not real." If being social media official is your way of gauging if a relationship is real or not... that's a red flag. I'm not talking about you... I just mean in general.
There's lot of reasons why this can be:
-Maybe he isn't on social media 24/7 and doesn't pay attention to the images that were posted in the past.
-Maybe he wants to wait a bit more to ensure that you will last. It's embarrassing to be in a relationship, have it end quickly and then having to change your status/remove your pictures because its over.
Those are a few examples... but you really shouldn't care too much. It's social media after all. If he treats you well in real life, you do things together and you enjoy each others company, what's the issue?I wouldn't necessarily be concerned, I wouldn't remove the pictures with my ex, but I would definitely be adding ones of my girlfriend.
You should be honest with him, tell him that it bothers you. If you were in a real relationship then you should be able to have that conversation
So... he's moving to a new COUNTRY for you... but you're getting worked out over a PICTURE. Yeah, makes perfect sense! I mean, why accept a simple reality when you can complicate shit and imagine the worst case scenario? :)
My ex (we are still very good friends) was like this. He honestly didn't realise. He's not into sm and prefers to be as private as possible - hello was raised that way, his whole family is the same.
I asked him straight up to make it clear we are together and publicly acknowledge me. He did.
No problem. It's not insecure to want acknowledgment. This is your relationship expectation and it is reasonable and valid.Seems like he might not be over her yet. How long has she been an ex?
Tell him about what is bothering u... If he is still involved with his ex then ur relationship is probably in danger... No offence 😊
If someone is still involved with their ex, I refuse to get involved with them. No exceptions
I'll always love my X I never left her. Does that mean if she phoned one day and got back with me I would? Of course not. But that time in my life holds great feelings.
Noo you are right. It is pressure to put both of you but at least he has to remove old girlfriend post.
Go talk to him about it.
I know for a fact that no matter what we say you're still going to let this issue bother you.He probably just doesn't care about Facebook. My profile Pic is probably still 15y me.
nah you dont deserve to be treated like this. Tell him to post pics of you two together or break up.
You just need to tell him how you feel
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