Hi Osemni,
I'm so sorry that happened, but I'm so proud of you for telling her! At this point, I think all you can do is wait. Technically, you're still together and she just needs some time to think about your relationship. Once she's calmed down a bit, I think (since you said you didn't speak much) you guys should sit down again and talk more in-depth about it.
I hope you express to her how much you love her as a person and as a woman and your sexuality would never come in the way of that love. I know that I'd probably act a bit hurt at first if my boyfriend expressed this to me but I'd come around and realize that I love my boyfriend, and his sexuality shouldn't matter if he still loves me and having sex with me.
I know plenty of bi-sexual guys who absolutely love their girlfriends, so don't worry. :) She'll come around soon.
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Well, I'm sure your girlfriend doesn't want you interested in having sex with men, but that IS the way you are. She'll have to accept you as you are. However, I'm sure you know that this will be the end of your relationship with her as it was.
You can't have it both ways. Either you choose her or you choose to be with men. Maybe you're gay, maybe you re bisexual. It doesn't matter. You've had these yearnings a long time and you need to explore what they mean.
It's unfortunate that you chose to be with a woman and never shared this until you had a longtime relationship.
Your world will come together again. It will be a different world, though. Be prepared for some heartbreak. And see a counselor who will support you through this.
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Uhm... It's reasonable. She must've been shocked. You were together for 2 years and now you told her you're into guys.
I don't blame you, you have been living behind the shadows and I think it's enough now, it's time for you to be who you truly are.
Nevertheless, you must give her time and space. It's not easy!Let her have time alone for a bit. Good for you on speaking up. It sucks and it's gonna hurt for a bit, but eventually you will both move on and find suitable partners.
Are you bisexual or only attracted to men? If you're just bisexual, I'm sure she could work things out with you if she wanted. But it really depends on the circumstances. I hope you're okay and I hope she feels better soon.You did the right thing in being honest and hopefully she will be a big enough person to talk to you about it. You already know your relationship might not survive but rather is than a few years down the line when it would destroy a marriage. I hope it works out and you can both at the very least talk things through xx
Your coming out was probably a big surprise to her. It changed everything, & it's a lot for her to process.
Now she needs some time to consider the new normal & what it means for her.
I hate to say it but you should not be surprised if she wants to start seeing other people.Your girlfriend might be feeling sad because she loves you and probably pictured being married to you and having kids. Now that she knows this, she might feel like there’s no chances of you guys being happily married or having the happy couple life... with attraction and good sex when she doesn’t think you’re attracted to her. She might feel like her dreams have been crushed so it’s understandable.
you were being honest.. which is good... how long have you both been together? She does need space to think.. because it is shocking to her.
You can probably expect to get dumped. Sorry but it's just what I think. If my boyfriend suddenly jumped out and said hey you know what... I'd put my suitcase in my truck and put it in d
Are you interested in both men and women, or only men?
What exactly did u expect? I wouldn't wanna talk to someone who didn't find me attractive anymore either but continued to stay with me and waste my time... she feels betrayed
She is bound to be upset but will eventually realise its better knowing it would have been cruel on both of you if you didn't tell her. I think you need to take time for yourself, to explore this desire to find what is best for you.
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