My boyfriend slept with someone else but he said I told him to, should I be upset? (Page 2)
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Sounds like gaslighting to me. You two need to have a heart to heart about what you really want. No more saying things you don’t mean during arguments.
What's left top talk about?
Honestly, do you think she'll ever let it go? Because I feel like she's more likely to just keep bringing it up everytime she realizes she's not winning the argument.
I'm 100% she is going to sleep with some random guy to make the situation more toxic lol
@callmemad
Agreed.
If they really had a heart to heart connection
She would've made the dating account and forgot bout it
And not gone on dating in first place
@RACSKOB same reply to u 👆 (i just thought it's the same guy who replied twice lol)
In short i agree to both
Gaslighting is making you feel like something that bothers you is not a big deal or that your partner isn’t doing something they are actually doing. It’s basically fucking with your head. Not cool.
He knew that it would hurt you to sleep with someone else and him trying to convince you you said it was ok is wrong.
You both need to have more open communication.
Your relationship sounds toxic, to be honest. You make a mistake so he threatens to cheat on you? That’s not normal behavior.
if you guys genuinely want an open relationship then you need to set some boundaries and determine what’s acceptable and what’s not. Clearly you’re not comfortable with him sleeping with other women, so do you actually want to be open? I’m kinda confused by what y’all have going on here
This is where many women make the mistake of playing stupid mindgames like this. Hate when games are played on them but want to play games for an actual reaction. Of the action isn't genuine then why play these games? You both are literally together. That in it's own right is an action. Don't do stupid stuff like this and expect the type of reaction you played out in your head.
I don't know personally if i were him i'd do it just to "get over you." cuz he prob feels like a breakup is happening soon and honestly sleeping with someone else makes it easier to get over who they're currently with
next time dont let your ego get in the way of an argument and blurr out bullshit, believe it or not y'all are just equally at fault, him for sleeping with someone else while in a relationship and you for giving him the idea
I admit that part of me expected him to act at least a bit jealous when I was flirting with other guys online and went out on a date. I thought he would fight for me not to do it. Oh well. It backfired.
I don't know what you expected, guys would fuck every girl if they could nowadays, when you said that, you gave him the pass
This story was a roller coaster ride for me I was on your side then his back n forth. I have been where you are now and I think uh oh both just need to work on respecting each other. It's clear that you both can get anyone you want but choose to be together so you should both stop treating each other like you don't have options. It mean no ultimatum from him and no decision making while mad from you that you will regret later.
You're just upset that he fucked some chick before you slept with another guy. He beat you to it and played your game better. You wanted an open-relationship, you got one. And don't try to justify that going on a date is different from sleeping with someone. Maybe from your perspective it is, but from his perspective it isn't. You still cheated.
You were expecting something and it kinda backfired didn't it?
He was not wrong in what he did since you have him green light to do it. And you even went on a date with someone else!
So now it's up to you if you can deal with the fact that he slept with another girl
He decided to quickly see someone else instead of waiting for the emotions to calm down and try to fix things.
This may be fixable if you talk it out with him and have an honest conversation to try to solve whatever issue caused this argument. But if he's not receptive, leave him and move on.
Be careful what you wish for. That's why you shouldn't play this games and you should never expect anything from anyone. You caused this and now you got hurt.
Congratulations on winning a Troll of the day award.
You must hold the record by now for the greatest number received.
I think you pushed him but I feel he already planned to. Why because you can't sleep with a person in that short amount of time.
I think you should forgive him if he remorseful but then it would have been better worked out if you simply consented with a polyamourous relationship between you him and someone else
Would it bother you if he had put his finger in her mouth?
If not, then why does it bother you that he put his penis in her vagina?
I really just don’t get it.
Your relationship is already over.
You just haven't realized it yet.
What about this fucked up situation that you steered in that direction made you think it'd be ok. Stop playing fucked up games if you don't want fucked up consequences
He cheated. Either you're in a relationship or not. It shouldn't be a grey area.
You may have said something less than smart in a fight, but he actually cheated on you. A real Man wouldn't do that. He wouldn't even want to.
Dude why are you registering on dating sites.
No offence but if my boyfriend downloaded and swiped on girls. I wouldn’t be just fucking someone else I would have dumped his ass.
because you're a whore that's why. you may not bed hop but you serial date and get ego boosts from guys online which is just as bad. you wouldn't know a good quality guy if one struck you upside the head. you wouldn't know how to stay loyal if your life depended on it. that's how pathetic women like you are and it makes me sick and other guys sick which was why mgtow was created in the first place because of women like you
I mean, you can't just say "Let's open the relationship" go on a date and be mad because he made it to home base first. You both sound toxic as hell.
So you didn't say "here man, I give you free leave to dip your wick where you'd like"
So he's still a cheating pile of shit you need to drop.