I am in college and I want a serious relationship. I would say it depends. Most people over 21 like me start to desire serious relationships for the most part but you do have exceptions of people who want to mess around and have hookups even past 21. I know there are some people that prefer their partner is older but I would be careful because not every person over 21 you meet is going to be mature some people are still going to be exactly how they have been. But also keep in mind whether you want to believe it or not there are people like me who are guys that have never been interested in hookups for whatever reason and for me personally it is because I value protecting my body completely from STDs to live a healthy lifestyle and to be able to experience life without worrying about something like an STD. In fairness, I think it is best to just take gender out of the equation and just admit statistically there is a large percentage of college students in general disregarding gender who want to have hookups ever since 2010 arguably. I would recommend trying to not stereotype guys if possible because you never know who you will meet whether it is in person or virtually but I can understand your potential perspective of why college guys only want hookups.
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I feel like things are slowly making a switch. Women are now allowed and encouraged to have rampant sex as an expression of their feminine power and freedom to be sexual beings. While men are now horrible sex crazed monsters who only want sex and nothing but sex and that means we are bad and evil and horrible animals controlled by our repulsive male sexuality.
Funny how the tides are turning.
I think the reality is some people want dates and some people want sex. there's most certainly a ton of women out there fucking tons of guys. Anyone who knows knows. People who dont know dont want to know because they still have that belief that women are innocent and innocence is defined by a lack of promiscuous sex. And women are not innocent. neither are men.
I read this book recently that Aziz Ansari put out a few year ago. There was a lot of legit research done for the book. As time has gone on, both sexes went from marrying the first person they dated 60 years ago, to a cultural change where both men and women are having "fun" years where they fuck random people until they're 30.
But we're still shaking eachother for it and being mad at eachother for it.
When I was in university I only met one guy who was into hook ups but that is because I socialized with the religious crowd and the academic crowd.
Oh take my word for it. 90% of these so called relationships won't last longer than the duration of your course.
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You don't want a relationship with a college guy.
Because if he's dumb enough to agree to one he won't be much of a man worth sticking with.
As a college guy myself me and all my classmates agree that our careers must come first. We are already sacrificing pretty much e everything for a degree and a decent job and a relationship right now is impossible.
So yeah I do hookups sometimes but usually with girls who like me have no interest in dating but just want the exercise.
In a few years once I have a stable job and an income I can begin thinking about dating seriously but for now there are more important things to do.
That's pretty much what 99% of college guys think and you can't tell us it's misguided as life is hard enough as it is.Im not a collageboy but in my experience you can never generalize anyone to any group.
The only group to generalize is extremists but they only move in groups they think they're apart of but actually aren't. So It's a paradox.
Awnser: ofc there are guys looking for serious stuff out there, even in college. And they exist among handsome men as well as less so.
Also beware though because most people don't really know what they want until their 30s, so even if you do find someone who act like they want to keep and be kept forever, know that knowing is an illusion.A lot of the guys, that women overlook in college, are more into a long term than some average players. In general.
Just take your time with a person. Like a good 3 months or more, before having sex. Most will run, few will stay, one or two you could marry.Most of them are in their sexual prime and loaded with tons of testosterone so a good bit of them will want sex. Especially the alpha types. You'll have to dig a bit deeper to find the serious relationship guys.
The general rule is: the hotter or more popular a guy is, the less likely he is to want a serious relationship. It's the less visible guys who tend to want and value relationships.
A few exceptions don't disprove this general truth.I'm a college guy and I was neither. I just wanna get my homework done, take nap and play some video games.
I had a serious relationship in college. We are married now.
I'm certain that some of us/them are looking for serious relationships. But this doesn't mean that the guy you like or meet there is also looking for one.
Those who struggle to hook up are likely to want relationships. Those who hookup easily are less likely to want mkre till they quite literally get bored of hooking up.
I've never been in a relationship before or had any hookups. Heck, I've never even kissed a girl before. So, my answer is NO. I'm looking for a long-term relationship.
They want what they get. I had a girl first bother me and later try to make me jealous by showing a guy off to me who looked quite similar to me, which was pretty weird.
Why would you waste time dating in college when those are your years to practice your craft so you can find and pleasure your future partner later in life
They want hookups. a relationship after school is done.
Actually i was like that before college but not anymore.
I was never in high school but in Gymnasium (not the gym lol) and had a relationship over this time.
Some and some, some really don't have much time to contribute in a relationship because of the studies, some do want
hook-ups, after they start a career they might get serious
My fiance and I met in College. So did my parents and both sides of grandparents hahaha. Be careful of the red flags though
at that age very few are interested in relationship mostly man guys wanna pound some pussy as much as they can!!!
What do you mean... a hookup is a long term relationship... overnight...
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