I just found out my boyfriend is a serial killer?

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So I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years, and we just got engaged, and everything was going perfect. Then I was just surfing the web, nothing out of the ordinary, when I find an article with his picture, so I click on it. Turns out he was in jail for 12 years for killing 5 people when he was 13 years old. So I looked up more information, and I was horrified. I don't know what to do, I'm really in love with him, but I don;t know if I should marry a murderer. Any advice?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I recently found out I was in a similar situation. My boyfriend went to prison for murdering a child. I was still very much in love with him when this happened and honestly in this situation there is nothing anyone can tell you to make it better. There is nothing you can say to undo what happened or to change how you feel. It will always be there - it just gets easier to deal with. I left him afterwards - I couldn't deal with the fact that he had taken a life. A life that would have learned and lived and they will never get to do that anymore. The first thing I will say is that you cannot help how you feel. If you love him, don't try to stop it - you cannot help how you feel. The second thing is that people change. I fell in love with a completely different man to the one who murdered that innocent little girl and you more than certainly fell for a completely different person to the 13 year old who made a horrendous mistake. A horrendous, and unchangeable thing but if he was 13 probably a mistake. You need to talk to him. Firstly are you sure it is him? Secondly - ask him what happened. The papers elaborate on everything it was probably very different to the story they told. Also if he has already been to prison - maybe he is different now. Does he regret what he did? You need these questions answering and only he can do that.
Whatever you decide to do just remember that nothing you did or will ever do will make you guilty of anything. You cannot change what happened and you are not the bad person here. You just fell in love with someone who has a difficult past. A very difficult past. I am not saying that you should forgive what he did - whatever you decide to to has to be your choice and yours alone - I am just saying that people DO change. Hope this helps and trust me - you are not alone xxxxx

ShootingStar5 · Accepted Answer

Judging from your comments to people I'm inclined to believe you're actually not a troll... This is a very difficult situation to be in, and I can't even imagine what it must feel like, nor do I want to. I think you really need to talk to him about this though. I may get flamed for saying this, but I don't care. Yes, he may have killed 5 people in the past. But the person he was then may not be the same person he is now. Especially considering how young he was when it happened. I know when I look back on myself when I was 13, I shake my head. Being in prison for so long, and growing up could've had a large impact on his personality.

However, on the flip side of that, he must've been one really messed up kid to kill that many people at such a young age. This is why it's important to talk to him. In a public place of course like the others suggested. You need to hear his side of the story and understand what happened back then. You can look up old police reports and things like that too.

If you've been together with him for 5 years then that's long enough to get to know somebody pretty well. How does he treat you? How does he treat other people? Does he seem dangerous at all? If not, then he probably truly has changed. It's up to you to decide whether or not you can accept his past.

sweet_18 · Accepted Answer

I think it depends on the situation really. Like who was it that he killed and was he under the influence of any drugs? Regardless though, you should really talk to him about it. Be sensitive about the subject though. If you two are in love enough to be getting married, you should be able to talk about pretty much anything with each other. Something like that though, it's stupid to think that you wouldn't find out, so he's probably anticipating this conversation or at least has thought about it and about what to say to you.

KarKingJack · Accepted Answer

Hoooooo. Hooooof***.

Tell him. Seriously, tell him. And make sure people are nearby. If he was gonna kill you, it'd happen then. So don't let that happen. But... Don't assume he's still a murderer. He's moved on, right? He's been in jail for 12 years, he's a different man. Just. Ugh.

I don't envy you.

Lupianwolf · Accepted Answer

If this is true, leave him you don't know if he still thinks those things and might not do it again

queenofpeen · Answer

Holy crap. If you're serious... uh... I personally would try to find out more information about it. I'd tell the police the situation and maybe they would show you the records? Ask them what you should do.

The thing is, he was only 13. Maybe he had a really bad childhood and something triggered it when he was 13. Jail for 12 years probably made a huge impact on him...

After talking to the police, I would talk to him (if the police deem it safe). It might seem scary at first because you wonder, "What if he snaps when I tell him I know?" but... have a weapon nearby or something, haha. It's important to know his side of the story.

EverythingReal · Answer

Okay, it is hard to have a relationship with someone who can't be honest with you about their past, much less be good marriage material. Also, you should be able to confront him on this if you are engaged to him. You're lack of communication would be more alarming than what he has done.

kaythanksbye · Answer

I was thinking this was real for a sec. But I call BULL SHIT. Why? You said he was in jail for 12 years right? He went in there at age 13. Meaning he'd be out at age 25. You said you've been with him for 5 years. On the 2nd girls anwser you said he is now 24. You would have had to been with him when he was 19. But at age 19, he should have been in jail. If you wanna lie, do it right. Kay? Awesome.

Anonymous · Answer

I do believe that people change. But, probably murdering at the age of 13 has smth to do with his mental status. Moreoever, probably he never been fully recovered. Years later, he might kill you & your kids.

Think about it very well.

Brando · Answer

Your boyfriend is capable of taking 5 people's lives, do you think he's going to make a good husband and father?

Anonymous · Answer

Here is the best advice you will ever get Start finding other ways to get attention And Start with the truth And Stop wasting our time

Lou_Sanis · Answer

You ladies and your impossible standards! He's not trying to kill you, is he? What's the problem?

EngineeringStudent · Answer

Troll

Anonymous · Answer

i smell a troll

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