First of all I would challenge that and ask him this. Is he going to communicate with you, actually talk to you, or he's going to be too busy making threats? Because if he's going to make those threats you might as well just break up right there. No point in being in an abusive relationship. He says that he has zero tolerance for the silent treatment. But for now it's been so long I can tell is what to do about the silent treatment and more to do about he likes the control. to be honest, if you're using the silent treatment to try to control the relationship than you are being abusive. And at that point he has every right to break up with you if you're going to be abusive to him. All the men may have allowed you to abused them by abusing your right in a relationship. But that is not going to work on everybody and you got to understand that if you're not going to communicate properly that are in these consequences. However if you have a reason for why you giving the silent treatment, you need to communicate with him. now if he is behaving as if you don't have the right to express yourself then you are in the wrong relationship and you need to just end it now. Because it makes no sense to be involved with that type of person and he is not doing what he supposed to do equally that makes you feel like you need to be away from the car. You are deserving of space too. And if your relationship is becoming so toxic to the point you can't communicate then you need to address it. If it's not going to be address to where it needs to and again that relationship needs to be over. You cannot be in a relationship that's abusive but at the same time you got to learn how to communicate without being abusive that. That requires a lot of learning. And I'm to you understand this, it may be interfering with achieving the kind of relationship that you want.
Just talked to him. And is his reactions is not appropriate, you need to just leave that relationship that same day and tell him it's over.
Maybe cause guys hate mind games like that and I don't blame them
It sounds annoying
If you've used it in the past to manipulate guys and wish to continue that practice, this probably isn't the relationship for you, as he won't put up with that manipulative ploy. Don't insist on continuing this dysfunctional pattern... just because it is familiar.
If you've held back, fearing the consequences of your words, that's another thing. Let him know when you've gotten silent in the past, it has been because you feared the outcome of saying things in a less than ideal way. Let him know you don't want to hurt him or complicate things.
If it's based on fear, suggest the two of you find a therapist who specializes in communication and then learn effective communication skills together. When you know how words impact others, what communication is all about and what works or doesn't, communication will be easier and more functional. Quality communication will make relationships more enjoyable and functional.
The silent treatment is non-negotiable. It is a cruel and inappropriate way to deal with real or perceived conflict. It is designed to make the other person feel bad even if he/she doesn't know what they did wrong, if anything.
There are other instances where a person needs some time out and their own space, and they might not be real communicative during that time. That is NOT the same thing as the silent treatment.
But the actual silent treatment... Deal breaker for me for sure. Sorry to be so blunt but it is so objectionable.
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Probably. I personally have zero tolerance for it too because its the most moronically stupid thing you can do. Your literally saying I have a problem but instead of dealing with it like an adult I'm not going to say anything and just assume your going to get the message.
So he could just dump you, or it could be that he will just ignore you until you act like an adult. In that situation I would give a warning to a girl who is pulling that, if she does the silent treatment again I will ignore her until she grows up and if she does it a third time, then yes I would break up with her. So it could be that is what he is refering to but you would have to ask him (or you know, act like an adult and talk out your problems).
Yes, i suppose thats what it means. You dont want to do something if he's said clearly not to do it, that would just be provoking him, unless youve though about it and have made that decision. I dont really like the silent treatment, using it (breaking off all contact and communication with someone unless they do what you want) sounds like such a last resort that you should break up with someone before you use it.
Yes, that's what it means. The "silent treatment" is a childish way to deal with problems, and he expects you to act like an adult - and if you can't or won't, then he's not going to stay with you.
Spanking works, too- would you someone flinging you over their knee when they're unhappy with you? If you've got a problem, say so, and talk it out like adults.
The silent treatment just licks the argument can down the road. Sooner or later you have to deal with the problem. You should do it sooner rather than later.
Yep, I'd say he would break up with you.
He might give you one chance, but I wouldn't bet on a second.
Also, it doesn't work. Silent treatment is an abusive tactic used by narcissists. Grow up and cut it out now.
Yeah. He's pretty clear on no bullshit in relationships.
He is a fucking man silent treatments are abusive and make toxic relationships
He should break up with you if you give him the silent treatment. That shit is no different than a toddler throwing a fit. Grow up, it's gross and manipulative.
Zero tolerance.
You can pretend you donât know what it means.
But fucking try and youâll find out.
That's exactly what it means, and that is exactly what I would do in his shoes. That's immature, childish bullshit.
I think that you should keep doing it and call his bluff
Sounds like he means what he says.
Quite possibly and probably if you do repeatedly.
Yup seems like it.
sounds like he would
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