Is it worth the fight anymore? My boyfriend hates questions and am now too fearful to open any conversations currently?

[Anonymous]

Am just too confused about his feelings for me , the relationship has lasted for some considerable time however he takes long to see me in person claims he’s fixed no money to transport him we keep chatting via WhatsApp but he easily gets himself off on me whenever I start something important I feel like am too limited can’t speak myself out and he’s the one demanding, he still comes to see me even when he takes long , every time I initiate a conversation hoping to settle my confused feelings with him he gets annoyed and am forced to keep quiet. I don’t want to annoy him so I decide to leave the questions out now it’s getting to a point that every time he wants to see me he wants me pay for his transport saying his broke and so on , am not demanding and have never got a coin out of him but he always asks for money from me , this has reached my gut and am fed up thinking what kind of person am I really dating? Is it worth the fight? I sometimes feel he lies me about several things this is not a high school man but a college finalist , I really love him but am getting too angry currently in my heart with the many questions? any one to help me some advice

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

If you're not happy and he's not willing to listen to your feelings or do anything to change the current circumstances that are causing issues, then it may be time to think about ending things... Or at least be very upfront with him about your feelings... Say it the way you said it here... I love you very much but I can't keep doing on like this, always feeling angry never happy, etc (whatever is really causing your main issues) and then he had the choice of he wants to work on salvaging things, but if not then you have to decide if you want to keep being with someone like that or not

[Sam_The_Savage]

Oh my favourite aunty
Were ya been I'm gng here n there for looking you. And finally I get my dream here. 😂😂

[Asker]

Thanks brainsbeforebeauty, he’s the kind of person who will convince you like your bringing all this and how do you even start of thinking about such useful things most times he listens but leaves you blaming yourself being the trouble causer for creating such illusions in your head , he answers questions with questions to make you feel like your the one in wrong not until your only left to apologize I feel bad about it but I didn’t want to end things hoping but seems like I got to live a life thanks

[Asker]

Useless not useful I meant

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That sounds like someone with Narcissistic tendencies, and then yeah people like that rarely change... Do you want to stay with someone that always says the blame at your door? Those relationships get very toxic, especially if you start believing it's your fault... Ending things with someone you care about is hard, but harder to stay with someone who makes you feel less about yourself

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Sam_The_Savage you really need to lay off the drugs 😂

[Sam_The_Savage]

You're my drug
Ans I'm addicted to you babe 😘

[Asker]

Thanks for the great advice

[Sam_The_Savage]

Yeah she is beautiful soul
Always help everyone...

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Your welcome... Hope it helps 💛💛💛 just remember as much as you live him it shouldn't come at the cost of being able to love yourself... Good luck ❤️🙏🏼

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

*love not live 🙅🙄

[Asker]

Sure this was a great piece I needed it right now

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

💛💛🤗

[Coulis]

Listen, if you feel afraid to openly communicate your feelings it will fester over the years and slowly kill your relationship. You have no real attachments to him. I would get out now if you feel scared to speak about your emotions.

[Asker]

Thanks coulis 🙏

[Coulis]

You are most welcome

[beldath]

Sounds like he's using you, and possibly other people as well.
I suggest talking seriously, and if he refuses to, say we need to talk or it's over.
It doesn't matter how much you loves person. You know he's not treating you right.

[Asker]

Thanks beldath we shall surely talk.

[Anonymous]

He is not making you happy. This is not a healthy relationship.

[Ms_Vanderquack]

Okay... so why is he your boyfriend and not your Ex?

[Asker]

He’s not my ex because this is the first relationship have been in he’s my first chosen guy to date , that’s why

[Ms_Vanderquack]

That's a really stupid reason.

[Sam_The_Savage]

Leave him. He don't deserve you.

[abc3643]

No. Move on.