This is so weird , I just woke up. Good morning I clicked on to g a g and this is the first question I see I took at the picture I read the caption I think it took me like 3 seconds to find it so what I'm saying is I guess you just have to be at the right place at the right time LOL
Because even the concept of love is so extremely complex that it's highly unlikely to even find someone with an understanding similar enough to yours. And that's not even touching the difficulty of finding an attractive partner that is also a good enough partner emotionally and personally.
Lets see. 60 years ago when dad left the home and never came back that left mom and the kids. Mom had to work 2 jobs or more and that left little Johnny out in the cold. Little Jane tags along with mom as much as she can abs also has to help little Johnny. As generations afyer generation dad mot been home leaving Johnny yo grow up as a man. This man generation after generation of no fault to their own these men do not know how to love themselves, a wife or his children.
That leave Janes as women out there to fo one of 2 things. Teach their man to love himself. Her and kids or leave his company in Search of another man
It's not so difficult to find people you like. But most people are in the phase of growing and the problem comes from the fear of growing apart.. like a tree spreading it's branches. And when you meet people what their roots are and what their barks stand for, and akin to the trees you see them by their branches, hold them by their branches.. and sometimes it takes time for us to see them.
Expectations on both sides are set too high, exacerbated by tv shows, internet and Hollywood. Women want a “ real” man, 6’2”, full head of hair, supermodel good looks, bank full of money, cars, yachts, mansion, cheerful, permanent hard on, etc. men want a supermodel that wants sex with him 24/7/365, she also has to cook, clean and keep her supermodel figure and sex drive after birthing 4 kids…
1. Most people in the market don't love themselves and are very insecure. 2. People set unrealistic standards. 3. People push their insecurities on who they're dating. 4. People have sex without understanding why they're having sex in the first place. 5. People who are sure of themselves will not just put with the foolishness of someone who's still hurt over their ex or play games.
Because it takes time, hard work and dedication & people are not up for it any more. We became impatient & lazy as a society and seek instant gratification
Honestly I think it's because everyone now a days has experienced something bad when it comes to relationships. So they close themselves off to something new... or sometimes it's just timing. Sometimes you meet someone and everything clicks but they just met someone else right before you
Because we have correct expectations of which virtues our loved one should have and people aren’t taught anymore that these virtues are a good thing. Basically, natural law requires that we love a caring and compatible mate, and there aren’t many of those anymore.
Maybe cause people go for looks too much. Which is fine to choose looks but to let it override everything else is where its a problem. Also same concepts goes with choosing a guy or gal cause of their status or salary. It seems like even in high school we start looking for that. You go for status and will choose the guy who is captain of the football team instead of that guy who is also good looking but doesn't play sports. I don't know.
There are a lot of reasons. But one of the biggest ones is that most people don't learn what love really is until they are on their 40s or 50s at least. They think they know, but they don't. So the reason it is hard to find is that they are looking for the wrong thing.
Society we’ve ruined our core values and destroyed the foundational principles in where a good and lasting relationship begins not saying the it as all pro before we’ve made some progressive strides but we’ve also made some very big issues
A great question. Primarily because most people (guys and girls) are immature. It just takes time for us to find eachother. Work on yourself first. Don’t think of relationships. You will fall into one eventually through the natural process of selection if you so choose
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I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that men and women do not need each other anymore, so they don't value each other like they used to. Men are no longer required to protect and provide for their mates, and women have largely reduced their value to men to just sex and procreation. That's not a recipe for the kind of relationships our grandparents had.
Oh, so true, it's been too long since a good natural disaster and I could use a nice big chunk of change. Where there's disaster, there's money, money goes to supplies, someone has to do QA/QC, someone has to make sure shit doesn't get stolen, and the feds are shy about mercenaries now, so usually you get paid for doing both.
Love ends up either being misunderstood or not understood at all, and each person has a very own definition of love. That's the reason why when we search for our version of love it's not to be found in our partner and feel he or she doesn't love us when they feel the same as they have their own definition of love.
Maybe you are wanting it so bad. I always thought love happens when you least expect and want it. But what do I know. I haven’t been in that situation yet.
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Because any don't try hard to connect. They want that fast satisfaction.
You are right dear
This is so weird , I just woke up. Good morning I clicked on to g a g and this is the first question I see I took at the picture I read the caption I think it took me like 3 seconds to find it so what I'm saying is I guess you just have to be at the right place at the right time LOL
Because even the concept of love is so extremely complex that it's highly unlikely to even find someone with an understanding similar enough to yours. And that's not even touching the difficulty of finding an attractive partner that is also a good enough partner emotionally and personally.
I have a theory
Lets see. 60 years ago when dad left the home and never came back that left mom and the kids. Mom had to work 2 jobs or more and that left little Johnny out in the cold. Little Jane tags along with mom as much as she can abs also has to help little Johnny. As generations afyer generation dad mot been home leaving Johnny yo grow up as a man. This man generation after generation of no fault to their own these men do not know how to love themselves, a wife or his children.
That leave Janes as women out there to fo one of 2 things. Teach their man to love himself. Her and kids or leave his company in Search of another man
It's not so difficult to find people you like. But most people are in the phase of growing and the problem comes from the fear of growing apart.. like a tree spreading it's branches. And when you meet people what their roots are and what their barks stand for, and akin to the trees you see them by their branches, hold them by their branches.. and sometimes it takes time for us to see them.
You just have to pick a person and maybe hope for the best.. (of course, find someone you love and maybe adore..)
Expectations on both sides are set too high, exacerbated by tv shows, internet and Hollywood. Women want a “ real” man, 6’2”, full head of hair, supermodel good looks, bank full of money, cars, yachts, mansion, cheerful, permanent hard on, etc. men want a supermodel that wants sex with him 24/7/365, she also has to cook, clean and keep her supermodel figure and sex drive after birthing 4 kids…
1. Most people in the market don't love themselves and are very insecure.
2. People set unrealistic standards.
3. People push their insecurities on who they're dating.
4. People have sex without understanding why they're having sex in the first place.
5. People who are sure of themselves will not just put with the foolishness of someone who's still hurt over their ex or play games.
Because it takes time, hard work and dedication & people are not up for it any more. We became impatient & lazy as a society and seek instant gratification
Good question but there is no easy answer to this. It depends on a lot of factors, both internal and external.
Honestly I think it's because everyone now a days has experienced something bad when it comes to relationships. So they close themselves off to something new... or sometimes it's just timing. Sometimes you meet someone and everything clicks but they just met someone else right before you
Because we have correct expectations of which virtues our loved one should have and people aren’t taught anymore that these virtues are a good thing.
Basically, natural law requires that we love a caring and compatible mate, and there aren’t many of those anymore.
Maybe cause people go for looks too much. Which is fine to choose looks but to let it override everything else is where its a problem. Also same concepts goes with choosing a guy or gal cause of their status or salary. It seems like even in high school we start looking for that. You go for status and will choose the guy who is captain of the football team instead of that guy who is also good looking but doesn't play sports. I don't know.
There are a lot of reasons. But one of the biggest ones is that most people don't learn what love really is until they are on their 40s or 50s at least. They think they know, but they don't. So the reason it is hard to find is that they are looking for the wrong thing.
Society we’ve ruined our core values and destroyed the foundational principles in where a good and lasting relationship begins
not saying the it as all pro before we’ve made some progressive strides but we’ve also made some very big issues
A great question. Primarily because most people (guys and girls) are immature. It just takes time for us to find eachother. Work on yourself first. Don’t think of relationships. You will fall into one eventually through the natural process of selection if you so choose
I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that men and women do not need each other anymore, so they don't value each other like they used to. Men are no longer required to protect and provide for their mates, and women have largely reduced their value to men to just sex and procreation. That's not a recipe for the kind of relationships our grandparents had.
People want to play too many games and don't care who they hurt. I think most people these days have trust and commitment issues.
Because you search for it. Love is something that befalls you.
I can't argue with that. I tore through more women than HPV, and in the end my wife found me.
Though from your wording the first things to come to my mind are sinkholes, hurricanes, floods lol
@razelove Why not, disgraces can make interesting bed friends.
Oh, so true, it's been too long since a good natural disaster and I could use a nice big chunk of change. Where there's disaster, there's money, money goes to supplies, someone has to do QA/QC, someone has to make sure shit doesn't get stolen, and the feds are shy about mercenaries now, so usually you get paid for doing both.
@razelove See? Somebody's end of the world is another one's opportunity.
The world is beautiful because of it's many faces.
Love ends up either being misunderstood or not understood at all, and each person has a very own definition of love. That's the reason why when we search for our version of love it's not to be found in our partner and feel he or she doesn't love us when they feel the same as they have their own definition of love.
Maybe you are wanting it so bad. I always thought love happens when you least expect and want it. But what do I know. I haven’t been in that situation yet.