If Killing A Relationship Was A Punishable Offence, How Many "Counts" Would You Be Charged With?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

[razelove]

Only two or three come to mind, early assumptions getting into poly. If anything more of my relationships have ended from brutal honesty and being very clear about the point I'm trying to convey when asked something.

Also asking for clarification so I can understand what my partner is trying to communicate. I wouldn't say I'm a cathy chatty pants, but when something needs to be discussed, it's best to have clarity. Sometimes that clarity leads to an understanding that what they want or expect is never going to happen.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's the best way tho

[razelove]

Yeah, I prefer explicit as compared to implicit rules and expectations in relationships. It still hurts though.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's true

[razelove]

Anyway, if you extend that to one night stands and no strings attached type deals, oh boy, I think a solid 2-3% of the parish I live in would want me gone. I warned my wife that I never wanted to move back here lol. Every time someone says my name and I don't recognize them I'm like "what, that's not me, I'm Scott, see, says so on my business card" trick learned long ago, pick up business cards from everyone, and become that person when it's convenient. That's called method acting, right?

[Lliam]

I broke up with several girlfriends, but I don't think that counts. I didn't exactly kill the relationships because , I just decided to move on.

I have zero counts against me with my wife of nearly 25 years.

I am guilty of one count with a particular girlfriend. Something happened to that relationship and I didn't understand what it was at the time. I later, slowly came to realize that I hadn't done enough to reassure her how deeply I loved her. I had been too clueless, self centered and satisfied with our relationship. She was satisfied, too, and she loved me, but I think she felt taken for granted. I didn't do the things I should have to let her know that I treasured her and loved everything about her.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

But you realize now, and maybe that's why you have a strong marriage. 👍👍💛🤗

[Lliam]

I definitely learned a painful lesson.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Are the most learned lessons on life painful...

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

*Aren't

[Lliam]

I think you're right.

[loves2learn]

Do we count the guys. I “went out with for 2-3 weeks in Jr. High?” Lol! I’ll count it all.


Three. I rarely initiate breakups.

[loves2learn]

@Brainsbeforebeauty my hubs tried to break up with me 19.5 years ago. I informed him we weren’t breaking up. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Tstrbrainer]

I'm guessing that he is great ful for that now.
😍

[loves2learn]

@Tstrbrainer he is. I was leaving for college 2 hours away. But I visited him every other weekend for 4 years. We def did not break up. Lol

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's great you stayed together👍

[Tstrbrainer]

Lucky guy

[Elsa143]

ZERO.
There should be a serious law against liars, cheaters, abusers, manipulators and gold diggers.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Right!!

[Elsa143]

Dating is the middle name of poison and destruction nowadays.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's true and probably why I don't date lolol

[coachTanthony]

I would be serving a back to back 20 year sentence Ha Ha Ha

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🤣🤣 damn... I'll bring you a cake with a file in it LOL

[coachTanthony]

Yes thank you... I will just need some others to distract the guards though lol

[razelove]

I'll come in dressed as a woman and yell about how my trans rights are being infringed coach... it kept me from being arrested in a casino when wearing simply a wig, your jailbreak is clear!

[coachTanthony]

@razelove Done and Done LOL

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@razelove 😂😂😂

[Jjpayne]

Well, to my knowledge, I've yet to kill a romantic relationship but a couple of times, not completely on me as both friends had and still have issues, there are a couple friends I burned bridges with. One that swore me to keep a secret from my church about a plan they had as they were kicked out of the church and were trying to find a way back in. Basically, give them a gift but don't say who it is from, that's all you have to do... And became bitter when I did not want to be involved with it after. I think she is shunning me now 😬

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yeah it's never good when people try to involve you in their drama

[Jjpayne]

Not fun 😞

[krin_m]

Not sure! My breakups have been mostly mutually agreeable. I got heart a couple of times but I don't think I ever ended a relationship just from my side. May be I have and was not aware of it, so I would say a count or two of unintentional relationship killing! :-)

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Hopefully that carries a lighter sentence LOL

[krin_m]

Hope so!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

No worries, I'll visit you on visitor day or help you bust out...

[krin_m]

LOL.. I appreciate that!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🙂🙂

[Jaximus-Lion]

Absolute 0. I am the kind of gentleman that don't break up things, i try to compromise to make it work. Plus! I am a nice gentleman ! I don't put a lady in such situation. Read it again! I wrote ( A LADY) 😎

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍

[The_Maphio]

Mh. Maybe 2. But since the breakup has always been discussed and recognized being the best possible course of action, no tear have been shed nor bad blood has been coursing. I suppose I could be sanctioned with a fine, at worst.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍👍

[InventorofWarp]

Technically 0.
On the other hand there are women I had a couple dates with that I told I wasn't really interested in and stopped seeing and, who knows, maybe I did break a heart or two. I imagine I might've.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Doesn't sound like you did anything really harmful, so👍

[InventorofWarp]

I've lacked the opportunity, chance or confidence to be able to "kill" any relationship.
Ah... never a groomsman, never a groom.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Maybe someday

[InventorofWarp]

One would hope. Roughly half the people I know my age already have kids so one has to imagine by the time I'm 27 if I'm still perpetually single and a virgin, which I likely will be, my desirability as a partner thanks to that will be next to nil. Plus I'll be in my late-20s, no longer able to be the hot young guy to awesome older lady like I always wanted.

[InventorofWarp]

I also won't be able to shake the feeling like I'm always gonna be inadequate. Like she lived a better life than me and I'm less compared to her. I'll be thinking like "at my age she'd been with tons of guys or had X relationships".

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

But you can't think like that. It's what's in the now that should count

[InventorofWarp]

Right now I'm kind of a loser struggling to get back on his feet and get noticed and if I'm lucky I'll be able to get things done in a few months and get the kind of life I want. Hopefully before I'm 25 I can have it, go back and see the lovely lady I want to see and meet someone, change my life and finally have someone who wants to be with me.
But let's imagine worst case scenario is I don't and I spend my 20s waiting for someone who never shows up and I fail at things again.

There are guys I know who are like 300lbs and talk about women so disgustingly who have a girlfriend and a kid at this point and sometimes I see that and think "why am I alone?", "why am I pining over women I can't have?". "I deserve better".
On the other hand it's given me plenty of time to focus on making my appearance and skills better.

[PaynefulPleasures]

To be honest just one it wasn't the right time in my life & I had to end it. It hurt very badly but I felt what I did was right, guilty ✌️

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's better tho, then leading someone on👍

[PaynefulPleasures]

This is so true lock me up & throw away the key💔

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

You didn't lead then on tho, so you good lol

[ZackBan]

2 but I wouldn't call it killing, more like abortion since I ended it before it was a real relationship

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Aborting the relationship😂

[genericname85]

one. it wasn't my own though xD i ruined the relition of one of my best friends beause he decided to cheat on his girl. he didn't wanna tell her, so i did.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

But then really HE killed it, not you... Had her not cheater, there would of been nothing to tell...

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

*he...

[FatherJack]

Seeing as I did the dumping... one count of relationship murder... sentence... a far more peaceful and less stressful life. Never , ever again , hence I will stay single until I cross the bridge.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

But sometimes the person ending the relationship isn't the one that killed it... If someone cheats on me, I'll end it, but they'll be the one who killed it

[andreasderjuengere]

Two, I have to admit. I'm still not comfortable with it.
There may be some 5 more trials, but they are 'not-guilty cases'.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍🙂

[cheapshotbob]

2 counts guess i would be a first time offender and would get off with a warning lol

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Hopefully lol

[Avicenna]

It’s usually more than one partner’s fault. I’d say none.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's good👍

[exitseven]

I don't know if I ever killed a relationship. Most of them died from natural causes.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Nice easy to put it LOL

[es20490446e]

Way many. As result I have completely changed my approach, now I qualify the girl even before starting dating her.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍

[K-I-S-S]

Killing a relationship before it even starts?

Probably enough to see the end of excel spreadsheet.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍

[loveslongnails]

I've likely broken as many hearts as I've had mine torn up. One or two big ones, a few little ones. Do we get to have off-setting sentences?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

You better hope so lol

[WesBrewer]

0 that I know of, I only trample on hearts accidentally, but that’s because I’m oblivious and girls don’t make anything obvious to me.

[Tstrbrainer]

Zero, I guess. I don't kill relationships, I just destroy them even before they hatch 😂.

Abortion isn't a crime when speaking about relationships, lol🤣

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

😂😂

[collie22]

so far i need forgiveness for a friend crushing on me i hurt

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That can be hard when it's a friend but it's always better to be truthful if don't have feelings, they should at least appreciate the honesty. Even if it hurts it's better than lies or games

[collie22]

it is hard , i still feel bad when i see him, he's a good guy

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

But can't force feelings don't feel.

[collie22]

and i wouldn't want to try