Is it normal to find other people attractive while being in a committed relationship? (Page 2)

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I always thought that if you love someone then you could never possibly find someone who isn’t your partner attractive. I have came across guys who claimed to find me really attractive and they have girlfriends or theyre married. I personally can’t be attracted to someone else when I’m in love. Maybe guys are different.

DiscomfortZone · Answer

That's just like asking if it's ok to find strawberry icecream tasty even though you prefer chocolate :) Making a comitment to another is an informed mental and sentimental choice, while attraction is at its base physiological (i. e not more under our control than needing the bathroom). On the contrary, anybody who'd completely stop feeling any attraction towards others once in a relationship would be the abnormal case. So long as you look with your eyes - there's nothing wrong (it's not being unfaithful to your partner).

The_FallenOne · Answer

Being attracted to other people is impossible to prevent.(Relationship or not.) So of course it's normal, it's only human nature to admire beautiful things.

As long as it remains nothing, but physical or intellectual attraction and not window shopping or actual cheating, there is nothing wrong with it.

CubsterShura · Answer

Yes it is possible. The key is to not give in.

My bestie is in a happy relationship, but she was also fangirling over this really hot guy because, well, he is hot, in a way that's very rare. It happens.

MsTaniaUncensored · Answer

I am sorry to say but you are not going to be able to turn off your own human attraction regardless of your relationship status; it's a biological imperative. But the good news is as human beings we have the sentience required to make our own choice to resist attraction and urges.

Loveydove · Answer

Um yes it’s normal. People don’t become ugly once you are committed. It lies with you. Do you A. Stare for more than a few seconds and think about how good looking they are and being with them or do you B. Look the other way and choose to love the person you are with now.

cheapshotbob · Answer

i did when i was young and dumb lo but not now but i won't lie i have seen some very beautiful women who i did not know were married then found out after i told them i liked them and respected there space but i wonder how many single women say there married to avoid the one they find uglier than a dogs harry butt

Azura_88 · Answer

Finding someone attractive is perfectly normal BUT when you start to initiate a conversation with them is a RED FLAG. Those married guys complimented you so yes they're cheaters.
Guys are BORN PERVERTS.
I wish that I were a lesbian and there was another beautiful and loyal girl like me, end of problems.
Men are NEVER SATISFIED, NEVER!!
I've also observed that women can stay loyal to death and won't fall in love with anyone else no matter how hard she tried.

RACSKC0B · Answer

Just because you consider someone to be attractive, doesn't mean that you're no longer attracted to the person you're with. Or that you're looking to ruin something you have for a stranger.
Doesn't matter where you get your appetite, so long as you go home for dinner.

ShaTTeredMasterpeace · Answer

Yes. I feel like for as long as you have sight, you will always be able to appreciate other people's beauty. That doesn't mean that you want them or anything. When you love someone, you appreciate that person's beauty and attractively differently because you're attracted to them. There's a difference between finding someone pretty/handsome and actually being attracted to them.

loveslongnails · Answer

Why do the vast majority of women "think" that if a guy loves you, he suddenly believes that NONE of the other billion women in his age range, world wide, might possibly be attractive? LMAO. Did I suddenly go blind? That's what happens when you read too many romance novels or watch Disney movies, girls.

Alyssa11 · Answer

I think it's normal. It's not normal to act on it though.

0112358 · Answer

Finding someone attractive isn't all that high a bar for me. So if I'm in love with person A, and person B walks by me snd is attractive, I think they're attractive. Then when they leave I forget about them. I'm not fixated on them or having a crush on them. I'm just vaguely aware that if single and they were up for it I'd happily have sex with them. But that's... as I said... not really saying all that much.

LogicBomber · Answer

since males are biologically visual 100%

we don’t just stop seeing women as attractive.

Your mentality is that of a female. Since women are not as visually stimulated you will never understand how it is to be male.

llcanon · Answer

yes. here is an analogy- your eating a apple and walk by the buffet and you stop to check out the beautiful great smelling food and you say to yourself i think i will stop and eat that great looking pizza-does that mean you don't like your apple. No. You still love the apple and you finish eating it.

nawtee_me · Answer

Beauty and attractiveness doesn't stop because you are in a committed relationship. If you went to an art galley and bought a painting would all others no longer look pretty? A committed relationship may keep you from acting on the attractiveness of someone else beauty but it want keep your eyes from seeing it.

DrHonesty · Answer

Natured hardwired us to survive and procreate, we will always be hunting for a means of survival and for mates with good genes to do so. So as long as you are alive, your procreation radar will always be on. Love is just a when lust and tolerance combine.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Yes it's normal, also normal to watch porn while in a relationship.
Attraction outside of a relationships is about looks, if you aren't attracted to looks, then only a relationship will result in attraction.

Gender of the onlooker won't be a factor in whether or not a they are attracted to looks.

jasco · Answer

There are always going to be someone who is more appealing to you regardless if your in a relationship or not. The only thing that matters is how you used this information. Do you go after the more appealing lady or do you stay with the lady you have now?

MLGbreezy · Answer

I don't see why you couldn't I mean what if someone else comes along with the same characteristics as your boyfriend or girlfriend. Same sense if style taste in music and so on. Naturally you'll fi d them attractive. Or example Beyonce she's gorgeous just cause I'm in a relationship if another girl comes along the look like a Beyonce I'm gonna fi d her attractive no matter what. But I'm not gonna leave my girl for her lol.

AddictedGirl · Answer

It's normal to find someone attractive but making a move or flirting is something that isn't okay if you are in a relationship.
Finding someone attractive is quite natural even if you are in a committed relationship.

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