When you tell unkind stuff to people, and then tell:"I didn't mean that", do you mean all these bad things you told or not?

[Anonymous]

Yes, I mean them. I tell I didn't not to lose friends

No, I get angry and lose my temper. I don't mean all these bad things

[caring__1]

When we lash out at others, it's generally not because we want to hurt them, but because we want them to stop trying to hurt us. This is what arguments are all about. It's about protecting ourselves at any cost. If we don't give the other something to push against, they won't continue to push. There are many ways to diffuse the energy and allow people to calm down. Learning and using effective communication skills is very helpful. Take time to think rather than legitimize a pattern of impulsivity. If we don't believe we'd appreciate being on the receiving end of what we are dishing out, and we don't believe our choice will take us where we want to go long-term, it's best to look for alternatives or just hold back if we don't believe we can think straight.

If you tell people you didn't mean something when you actually did mean it, you're just taking the relationship down a path of no return. Be honest with yourself and others. If you mean it, and it will take you where you want to go, say or do it. If not, what do you hope to accomplish by doing it? Just because you can doesn't mean it makes sense. Focus on what adds positive to your life, not what you feel entitled to.

[RealLifeCaveMan]

no. it is like when sumone asks u how u doing. and i say im fine. i dont always mean it

[1stranger]

I'm not sure I understand you. But I can say that... If the person (plus person is not rude and is goodwill) knows own wrong/mistake, it's less possibility to make the same mistake to another person again. For humanity😌

[Asker]

Not the question

[1stranger]

Sorry.. I still don't understand.

[Asker]

Don't answer then