If you passed away, would you really want your spouse or love of your life to find another person to be with? (Page 2)

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This question has a lot to think about such as the age of you and your SO, whether or not you two had children, how long you'd want them to wait, etc.  Naturally, I do not feel like we would want our significant others to find another person to be with even after we've passed. I think it is normal for us to want them for ourselves, even though we are not around anymore to be with them. Despite this normal feeling, we can understand why they would want to be with another person after we've passed as life can be challenging, cruel, tough, unforgiving, and tiring especially more so while alone.  Perhaps it is unrealistic and unreasonable to expect our loved ones to remain alone after we've passed. How would we feel if there was an afterlife and we reunited with them and their lover (s)? What would be said? How would we feel?  What if our loved ones were just as content being alone as they were getting with someone else? What would we recommend for them to do? Would we still want them to be with someone? Do you really love someone if you would be okay with them being with someone else?  There's a lot to think about and consider.

FakeNiceGuy · Answer

Yeah probably.. Most days.. Lol.. Except maybe not when in a bad mood which is not uncommon nowadays.. Its like.. I eanted a good one.. I prayed.. And also prayed for good looks and job.. Instead its more like.. I'm ugly.. Broke.. And frequently in a bad mood. Its like I vet the exact oppisite. Loll oh well. I've excepted it. Doesn't really botger me much anymore.

Poppymarie · Answer

Yeah I would. If we were married then they would have promised to love me until death do us part, and in that case they would have fulfilled their obligation. If they were ready to meet someone new after I was gone of course it would be what I wanted for them. I don’t think I could claim to love that person if I didn’t.

JDavid25 · Answer

While I'm alive and thinking about of course not.. But realistically I would at least hoped they loved me enough to mourn me for a while and not be with anybody, then once they had some time to get over my death, maybe find somebody or at least do something that brings them content and joy.

madgoat · Answer

Through loving them in its purest form, you would want the best for them and to see them at their best.
That potentially may mean in life or in death, they should not be with you and should be with someone else.
In reality, in life at least, love is generally more selfish than that and you'd want them to yourself.
But in death? Perhaps many would accept that they deserved happiness wherever they can find it.

exitseven · Answer

I used to joke about how I would like everyone to be sittomg around saying "wasn't it nice when Pop was around." Now tha tI am older and realize my mortality I would like everyone to move on and enjoy the rest of their lives. Try to sell my organs on e-bay if you can make some money on them.

Not_Average · Answer

I actually had this discussion last night. I’d want her to find a good man. I wouldn’t want her to sleep around but I’d want her to find a good man who can help her with the kids and appreciate her and the life that I gave her. I’d want him to sympathize and help her through the rest of her life. But if we make it to 60+, then she can stay single lol.

HawkPerception · Answer

My ex and I both agreed that we'd honestly not want each other to move on if one of us died. But we agreed that we'd only not date after each other if we got past a certain age together. I think the idea that you share your life with someone is ruined if they die in someone else's arms. You may not be there to witness it, but just the thought can be hurtful. I'd rather die knowing that my partner hasn't done anything with anyone after me. It may be selfish, but it's the truth.

Kabluie · Answer

Yeah, it's fine. My dad evantually remarried after my mom passed away. You don't have to look far, our US President Joe Biden remarried as well since he lost his first wife and daughter in the car crash, but his boys lived.

I saw how lonely my dad was for a few years. He actually asked me if it was okay, I told him he had my support, and I seen how much happier they were.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

No problems. My girl's dead Ex had left us a couple of very useful household items.
Once I'm gone, I can return the favour to someone else :)
I think that relationship ''claims'' end with the ( natural :D ) death of one of us - no hard or bad feelings about it.

SaoirseS · Answer

Yes I would. But I’d want him to at least wait until after the funeral.

SupremeWarlord · Answer

Hell no, I want my spouse to be happy, there's no such a thing as "present erasing the past", I already was part of her life, I already made her happy, I fulfilled my duty, when I pass away she will grieve, but her desire for another romantic relationship should not be affected by this. She has the right to pursue happiness.

I would not even care so who cares? Dead people don't feel anything.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I used to say i’d haunt him like the girl in that movie Over Her Dead Body… but ig i’d be nice and let him move on. Cause once i pass on, i’m moving on to Paul Walker

CentralPerk77 · Answer

Yes definitely - doesn’t matter how you leave someone, living or dead, they deserve to be happy and find love... feeling that way also tells you that you really love them, with, or without you their happiness is your priority.

shygirlie_xoxo_ · Answer

If they will be happyvwithba new partner ofcourse, they can have one. Afterall his happiness will make me happy even when iam in heaven. It's difficult to be alone forva long time and i don't want that for my husband

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

If I can't get back with her, I'd like her to find a suitable replacement now, even while I am still alive! I may love that gal greatly, but I'm not so selfish as to deny her a God-blessed union, solely on account of my own unfulfilled wishes.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I would say yes. But that's because we can't take care of, do things that are needed or wanted, etc. for our partner if we're passed away. It's better for them to love someone else than be heartbroken and unhappy for the rest of their life.

EaterPeter · Answer

Depends on their age and their obligations. If I leave kids under 25 behind. Guess what my answer is going to be. Emotional response may vary from logical response. I would probably have not before 1 whole clause. And they must heal during that time period how ever best they can.

Barry88 · Answer

Yes, why not? If I would pass away now, I would hope my girlfriend would find someone else to share her life with. Why would I care if I'm dead? I honestly hope she will find someone that can bring some happiness in her life. Alone is just alone.

just_a_potato · Answer

I wouldn't want them going on the market right away of course... But I would want them to be happy even when I'm not there, and if that means finding someone that makes them feel the way they used to, I want that for them.

DarkCarousel · Answer

The thought of them being painfully alone hurts more than the idea of them with someone else.  I'd want them to be happy. Whatever that means to them after I am gone.

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