Why did my ex call me an attention seeker?

[Anonymous]

In all honesty, I do pay attention to my exes reaction to the things I post. I usually avoid posting things that obviously expose what my love life is like. I share inspirational quotes and stuff and he never says anything. But EVERYTIME I share anything about men, relationships, etc... even if what I’m sharing is nice or a positive thing, he will post some kind of response in his page. He doesn’t actually put my name but he makes some kind of post basically responding to every post i share about men minutes later... every time. This is a man who hurt me deeply in the past and I never actually told him how he made me feel or how badly he hurt me. So finally, last night I shared something that was DIRECT. Only he and I would know that he is who I was talking about in the post. But I shared a post that asked “what killed the relationship between you and the person you were actually in love with?” I answered “he did so much stuff that showed me he didn’t care about me and I got the picture.”

A few minutes later he shared on his page that he would ignore attention seekers. It was a big odd since he is WATCHING my page for some type of reaction about how I feel or what I think and when he gets his reaction he insults me. I know I’m also watching his page so it’s not like I can act like I’m being a bigger person. But I have been the bigger person ever since we broke up. I didn’t retaliate or bad mouth him and the only people who might know I was talking about him are his family who are my Facebook friends, himself, or my close friends. Because for the most part, I keep my relationships so private that I could possibly have been talking about any guy I met after him. Its not like I have any pictures posted of my ex, his name isn’t even on my Facebook page. You can’t find any trace of him on my page at all. So it’s not like I’m tarnishing his reputation by sharing something like that

[TommyMountainFigure]

Why? Because you touched a nerve. It looks to me like he is regretting the way he treated you. and realises he made a mistake!
Pity he didn't realise what he had before he lost you.. right?

[Asker]

I did everything in my power to save the relationship with us. Hence, why I responded with “he did SO much stuff...”
Because I gave him so many chances and everytime I did he played me or let me down. He might have felt like he “won” the breakup because of the way that it ended. He wasn’t brave enough to admit how he was dealing with sb else and he never told me the truth. He left me in the dark to discover for myself months later. That sealed the deal for me that it was doomed from the start Bc I probably wasn’t his type or something. I changed, naturally and some because of social conditioning, since the last time we spoke. He sent me a friend request a few weeks ago which I ignored, but he apologized and I did tell him “I accept your apology.” I posted cute a cute picture on my page which caught his attention and he messaged me essentially to tell me to stop ignoring him. It didn’t work and I continued to ignore him. But based on his actions in the past, I figured he should not wonder at all why he is being ignored. So, since I did notice him posting these things in response to my posts as well as sharing and posting videos with my name in them and stuff, I felt
Like rather than talking to him-which I can’t feel comfortable doing-I could just let him know how he made me feel and maybe he would understand why I was ignoring him and hopefully accept it/stand on his apology that he gave me weeks ago but instead I feel like it’s just sucking me back into a toxic cycle of me obsessing over what he says and him picking me and everything I say apart to possibly alleviate his guilt for how he treated me even though I accepted his apology which should have been enough for him

[TommyMountainFigure]

I'd be lying if I said I couldn't see from your post that you still love the guy, but in your position I think your only option is to make sure he cannot contact you at all. You are going to keep getting hurt until you do.

[Asker]

Why do you think I still love him?

[TommyMountainFigure]

If you didn't, he wouldn't be able to get inside your head and push your buttons so easily. Am I wrong?

[Asker]

Your right. I think I just haven’t completely let go because even after all this time he is all I know. He was my first boyfriend and also the only person I have ever been with. My options grew and lately I get asked out way more often. But everytime I spend time with a new man my mind jumps back to him. I just wanted to end that desire for closure by accepting his apology. And when he continued messaging me and doing all this stuff to basically let me know he had his eye on me I got confused. I don’t know why he is back or why he was bugging me. Even if he regrets losing me there is no possibility for us to get back together. He chose another girl over me that’s the highest offense. I would think he would understand that and my confusion comes from the fact that he doesn’t seem to get it that he hurt me so much. I should have blocked him sooner

[TommyMountainFigure]

Well yes you should, but it's better late than never.