Is it stupid to tell my friends with benefits I got attached?

[Anonymous]

As a guy how would u feel if she confesses to it

[OlderAndWiser]

I have never had a friend with benefits relationship, but I have listened to many other people talk about them. It seems that this is what happens about half the time and it should not be unexpected. It is possible that he has developed feelings for you, too, and if he has, he will probably tell you. If he has not developed a romantic attachment for you, then he will probably feel that you have violated your agreement and he may get angry, he may end the relationship, or he may tell you to keep your feelings to yourself because he still wants to have sex with you.

[RichardCranium6201]

Hhaahahah. Oh boy. Ok so first, I'm not laughing at you. Why i laughed is cuz this question slapped me dead between the eyes with a memory. So to answer this... its simple. What was agreed upon in the beginning? Were terms talked about? Were contracts signed?
So friends with benefits exsists why? There so many answers as to how? If nothing was discussed in the beginng, then it's both your rights to know where the other stands. If it was talked about and this is gunna stay strickly friends with benefits, then catching feelings could be tooken as a sign of betrayel. Tread lightly my friend. Hope this helps a little

[fonduegirl]

You know what our dear old lobster said in Little Mermaid — "there's only one way to ask her"! That is, he might be in the same boat as you, maybe this can get you into a good relationship. But bear in mind, he probably would break it off with you if he doesn't. It's up to you to take the leap of faith.

[Ninjazzed]

That’s a dangerous line to cross because chances are—they expect you to honor the agreement of “no strings attached” so it’s a one-way street from there.

It’s happened to me before but there was nothing I could do about it because they were taken.

[tata1993]

With all due respect, I think friends with benefit is a stupid idea. Most of the cases it will be convenient to the guy and completely unfair for the girl. I would advise any girl to not attempt to be involved in these kind on unfulfilling relationships

[devilman666]

Don't you think you're generalizing a bit? Plenty of women like casual sex too.

[tata1993]

I’m sure there are exceptions to what I wrote. But I believe it’s a generally a bad idea and one party would be somehow disadvantaged (sometimes it’s the guy)

[spartan55]

@tata1993
Finally a woman sees fwbs for what they are: a complete rip off.

[Starrisunset]

There's nothing stupid about being honest. It could go a couple different ways. Either he doesn't feel the same way and it makes things a little awkward or he does feel the same way and he wants to be more than a friends with benefits. It's up to you to decide if it's worth rolling the dice. Although tbh, I'd probably only roll those dice if you'd want a relationship with him because otherwise I'm not sure I'd risk things getting awkward.

[MalesGOD1]

Chances are he either consciously or unconsciously already knows anyways. I have always known and most other men also know or should know that no woman is any man's wife/girlfriend/friends with benefits it's just his turn and its a fact that out there for anyone that most all women cheat anyways. Plus there is nothing a man can do about it so it should not upset him in the least besides the much higher chance of getting a STD.

[CaptainOverthink]

As I see it..
You have to confess.
Three outcomes:
1. He don't like it; it ends.
2. He don't like it but lets it go on; you'll be dug in deeper and suffer until you give up or he stops it.
3. He feels the same or at least is willing to try; you have a shot.

Not confessing is like doing Nr 2 but worse because you'll want more and meanwhile he will be exploring other options.
Oh the suffering.. spare yourself, make a hard decision, there are no easy ones.

[kina003]

Most of the time when people become friends with benefits they want nothing serious, it's just for fun and you have an agreement on that soo I think it would be better not to get involved in all that shit you know, better you keep it for yourself your you might get hurt badly and in case you find it hard to stay quiet just stop everything

[Adam1978]

Who suggested the whole idea in the first place? If he did he doesn't want the commitment of a relationship. So you admitting it will most likely just annoy him, since he will see it as you putting pressure on breaking the arrangement.

[SuhRaw]

No. Before you begin to have some type of feelings for this friend it would be best if you just tell em how you feel. You don't want to lead yourself on if he's not wanting more than he is willing to offer. Talk to em and let em know so you both have an understanding and if they just want to be friends and nothing more than It would be best for you if you back up.

[Uptowngirl88]

Yes very stupid. Why subject yourself to friends with benefits if you can't handle it. Also, it's clear he is not interested in the girl beyond sex. so yes she might as well keep her mouth shut while he uses her for sex on the side while he's in search of his dream girl to commit to. Cause he sure ain't going to form a relationship with someone as easy as a friend with benefits

[natured]

If he is being selfish and wants to keep you around then you should quit it, it doesn't make sense to hope for a fool to turn into a prince charming. It's not that easy.
If he felt the same he'd come to you way back

[devilman666]

Is it selfish to expect a man to be your prince charming?

[Jamie05rhs]

"he'd come to you way back". Can you rephrase that?

[natured]

It might be selfish for good reasons, because if i treat him good, if i cater to him I'd expect him to be a prince charming. If not, i don't deserve a prince charming

[natured]

Jamie, sorry i wrote fast and I just saw the mess. I'm really sorry. I wanted to say that if he would feel the same as she did, then he would upgrade their relationship status to a steady relationship.

[Jamie05rhs]

@natured Your opinion is that if he reciprocates the positive feelings, then she should dump him in the hopes that he misses her and asks for a relationship?

I THINK I understand where you're going with that. But I'm skeptical of whether it would actually be a good idea and work in practice. Because if he really DOES like you, he'll probably just be offended that you dumped him, and so he will move on because he thinks you're unreliable.

[natured]

@Jamie05rhs But see there is nothing to dump here, since it's an open relationship...

[Jamie05rhs]

@natured Technically, friends with benefits relationships shouldn't be open. They should be exclusive, to prevent the spread of STDs.

[natured]

@Jamie05rhs To be honest I don't know how they work also because I never was in one and I would never be in one to me it's not healthy. So I have no IDEA what status there would be

[Jamie05rhs]

@natured Same here, actually.

[natured]

@Jamie05rhs Yahhh I don't think it's a healthy situation to be in, I think it would be too stressful...

[Jamie05rhs]

Agreed. I don't have sex with anyone casually. It's too meaningful to me. There has to be a real relationship there.

[natured]

Yeeee I agree if there is no legit feeling I wouldn't be able to go that far either

[Jamie05rhs]

Yeah

[Ryleebangs]

If you feel like you are still benefitting from it once he knows… continue


If you aren’t and it’s making you unhappy.. leave


Find someone who actually wants to give you their all and not just fool around

[devilman666]

Clearly she wanted to fool around at the start, can't blame the guy for her catching feelings and changing her mind about what she wants.

[designer1]

You could tell him but you shouldn’t expect him to feel the same way. I would go into that conversation already expecting the worse considering that isn’t what he expected going into this kind of relationship with u.

[TwinTonyz]

If I were into the swinger sphere, I'd likely see you as a threat. Emotions and fun don't mix, and who know what you'll do to keep me around.

Our arrangement would end that instant.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Honestly? I think the whole friends with benefits idea is ridiculous anyway.
For me, I either love a woman or I don't, and if I don't? I wouldn't sleep with her.

[HighHithom]

No, it's never stupid to tell someone your feelings. He could be feeling the same. Ultimately you're both having an intimate connection, so wouldn't be surprising if you both developed feelings for one another

[Browneye57]

Pretty silly. He just thinks you're a warm place to put it. An alternate place to jack off instead of his hand.
No guy worth his salt would treat his beloved in that manner. You have proven your value already - pretty much a zero.

[MotorcycleMan]

Maybe, but I always prefer to deal in the truth. That allows everyone to make the decisions that work for them.

[Miristheiss]

If that is how you truly feel how could it be stupid.
It is the truth.
Relationships should always have the truth.

[Jamie05rhs]

Smh. It's not a relationship.

[spartan55]

I'd think, "that was fun while it lasted... gonna miss that ASS"

[es20490446e]

Speaking your truth is never stupid. The appropriate person will find you extremely attractive, the wrong person will make it easier for you by disappearing.

[Finchie40]

It’s stupid if you you are still having sex with your FWB’s

[Brianbrake]

Yes very stupid, if I have friends with benefits is because I dont want feelings involved

[MudRucker]

I think you should sit him down and have a talk.

Your in a relationship that might be more complex.

It is not not uncommon for friends with benefits to catch feelings for one another.

You might find out you both caught feelings.

[little_black_dress]

So not stupid … I am dating my friends with benefits

[pleasestopthis]

Only if you think he feels the same and could work as a relationship. If not, maybe it would be better to end this arrangement.

[Anonymous]

Stop giving him yourself for free, move on, focus on you, and show him what he just missed. Plus points if you get a guy WAY better than him.

[devilman666]

I agree, never give yourself for free, if you can't control the relationship and the other person then why bother having casual sex?

[exitseven]

Did you get attached to him or somebody else? Either way he should know.

[Anonymous]

no, not stupid.. It is even smart because it is the best if you stop getting together as friends with benefits when you feel like this.

[Wise4myage]

No, unless he's a clueless, than he probably already knew.

[innerman]

If you do... you’ll put a stop to the whole arrangement

[SmokinAces2000]

I would most likely end up with her as my girlfriend by the end of the day

[KrakenAttackin]

As a friends with benefits you are just a cum dumpster for him. He will be repelled if you say you "caught feelings".

[SuccessfulHornDog]

Why will you tell them? Are they active friends with benefits?

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

friends with benefits, is for pathetic losers, with no lives

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes, it's very stupid. Please don't do that. For your own sake.

[Nazgol]

You can try but you might not get the results you hope for

[the_kisses_of_sun]

It's a totally bad idea 100%. Don't go through that awkwardness!

[Anonymous]

Yes its stupid u thought u wouldn't get attached but not to tell him that. U werent designed to fuck around. U aren't a man. Fool

[Anonymous]

Either way it is better to say it earlier before everything mix

[Anonymous]

oh jesus christ another brain dead idiot confusing love with sex

[boggboss]

If I didn't feel the same guess we are done here

[Asker]

I told him and he said he doesn't like me that way but wanta to keep going

[boggboss]

Then this is a worst case situation and by the end off it your feelings will be broken

[Alyssa11]

No, it's inevitable...

[JennBITx]

No. They may feel the Same way

[MudRucker]

Exactly!!!

[JosyJosy]

stupid no, it's best to at least try

[Shihab91]

Friends with benefits is stupid... 🤷🏻‍♂️

[EaterPeter]

Not stupid. He may run away.

[anylolone]

It's not stupid. But be careful about it.

[Anonymous]

I would like that to happen

[1EVDriver]

Be stupid not to.

[Slim57]

Not but dont be upset if he breaks things off

[jimmy2]

Well love can creap in

[Anonymous]

Dont care... keep sucking n fucking...

[irahul_thakur]

I'll feel great

[he-takes-a-part]

How did it began?

[lefleurlotus]

nope