Besides sex what else do you bring to the table and don’t say cooking and cleaning?

[Justneedtokno]

as partners in a relationship a marriage or just a friendship you should be able to provide more.
I would love to aid stability.

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What is stability for you exactly? Everyone’s a little bit different

[HerFollower]

Every Friday I go to her house and clean her room and make sure that there are fresh sheets on the bed. I have spent a lot of money on good lingerie and foundation wear for her and I have insisted that she puts these in a separate pile so that I can wash them by hand. There is a vase of fresh flowers on the dresser every Friday.

But that is secretive among us and her family and who she chooses to share it with. But when out in public or with other people, I strive to make every other lady around so extremely jealous of her because of the way that I treat her because their man doesn't treat them the same way.

I always insist on opening the door for her. I always pull out the chair for her when going out to dinner. When at menial parties at the house I always wait on her and get her what she wants. Even with females of our own age I say 'Yes Ma'am.' and such. I even do that with her younger sister who is 2 years younger.

So what do I bring? I bring respect!

Any lady that is going to lay with me and allow me,,,, (this sounds crude), but lets me squirt inside of her? Well I think she deserves my ultimate respect. Being that she's allowing me to cum inside of her and risk pregnancy and risk the pain of childbirth,,, she's willing to do a lot for me. So why shouldn't I be willing to do a lot for her?

She gets a dozen roses every Friday. Sometimes I deliver, sometimes I have them delivered. And to various places to where she might be. And she never lays down Friday night on the bed without clean fresh sheets.

It's really starting to be a source of contention. For her older and sister and mother never experienced this. And all of her friends, while not having the opportunity are very jealous of it.

But that is just affirmative to me. For that indicates to me that I'm treating her right. And my goal is to treat her right.

[Browneye57]

Oh dear... a white-knight simp. Just wait till she wanders off looking for CHAD THUNDERCOCK, bored out of her mind with your mamby-pamby bullshit. And there you'll be standing there crying in your beer cuz you thought you did everything right, everything she asked for and more. You are a living definition of beta-cuck. You make me gag.

[GoldenAxer]

My wife and I just make the best team. Anything life throws our way, we tend to be able to tackle really well together. It's more like a "we" thing than an "I" thing or "her" thing. Our compatibility is through the roof.

[GoldenAxer]

I normally don't think of things in terms of give/take and what we have to offer. I guess for people concerned with that type of thing, I make a decent salary as a lead software engineer, I own my own house with no mortgage, I get along really well with lots of people, and I stay in good physical shape.

[Justneedtokno]

Well I think this is beautiful that y’all work together. But you in the beginning or an individual so before y’all got married you had to choose one another why did you choose your wife why did she choose you

[GoldenAxer]

I think she chose me for similar reasons. We started off as just flirty friends but we frequently found ourselves at the balcony of our friends' parties just talking and sharing our deepest thoughts, hopes and dreams. And I think that's how we became interested in each other.

Maybe it was a bonus to her that I had higher education and career. It was also kind of a bonus to me that she did as well (she's a literature major and book publisher and editor, while I'm a STEM type and engineer). But I think it was more like that just gave us a whole lot more topics to talk about.

[GoldenAxer]

That said, she was a bit reluctant about me because she was worried I was a playboy who just fooled around with girls. She turned me down for dates a couple of times. That said, I'm not a persistent type but the second time I asked her out, she was really flirting with me and kissed me on the cheek so I asked her out in response, but she still said maybe another time. So I waited yet several more months, and finally we were dancing one time and she kissed me on the lips, and then I ventured to ask her out a third time, and she finally agreed.

[GoldenAxer]

I think in her case, the initial attraction was more physical which is why she couldn't keep her hands off of me even though she thought I was trouble (she misjudged me that way given my reputation for partying and dating and befriending many girls, but my dream and goal was always a stable lifelong partner).

Mine was more emotional. I found her very pretty but I found so many girls very pretty so I didn't think that was so special. What I found so special about her is that we could talk and talk so openly and honestly with each other and not offend each other. I'm kind of a rambly and long-winded person as you can obviously tell and a bit of a chatterbox, but with her we could have a back-and-forth conversation that just seemed like we were kindred spirits.

[GoldenAxer]

One thing is that I have difficulty with questions like what do I bring to the table since I'm a very flawed person. I have my good points but I also have some bad ones, like too much fondness for drinking and partying. It's a similar case for my wife (though I think she is a better overall person than me). But I love her imperfections just as much.

It's also kind of a cultural difference, I think. When I see Americans write resumes, they tend to put self-flattering things like "team leader", "positive", "passionate", etc. In Japan, we don't do this and just list things like our education and past work experiences. So I am not good at answering questions like what I bring to the table, since I think that's for other people to judge and decide, not me, unless people just want to know basic things like my education and job.

[Cynicaldreamer]

I'm capable of bringing plenty to the table... provided it's the right person, be it a friendship or more.

• I'm a good listener.
• I can hold a conversation, a REAL conversation. Not just idle chitchat
• Loyal and fidelity
• Minimal to no drama
• I'm that person that will check on you if I haven't heard from you in a while... but at the same time, if you need/want space, I'll give it to you
• I remember small things you might tell me about yourself that others forget, or you didn't think I'd notice
• I'm frugal with my finances- yes, that's a good thing. I rather save money than spending it on unnecessary things
• I'm candid and honest. I'm not going to sugarcoat things for you, so sorry in advance

I am that person that will help you bury a body and give you an alibi. But also remember, if you screw me over... I KNOW how to dispose of a body :)

[Justneedtokno]

Lol that’s a mouth full

[DizzyDesii]

Well i dont like to cook or clean, so i def wasn't gonna say that 🤣 But i do cook if no one else does. And i will clean to make sure what im living in is sustainable/maintainable.
But lets see, i bring energy, conversation, love, emotional support, financial support, companionship (if in a relationship), laughter, hope, joy, stability, playfulness, respect, morals, and comfort. I do not bring patience. Sorry, i just ain't that person

[Justneedtokno]

Good you are being honest lol

[DizzyDesii]

Haha yea. Thanks for mho

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I bring Me...someone that's loving, loyal, compassionate, strong under pressure, good personality, good sense of humor, don't bail when the going gets tough...

[MCheetah]

This question seems like it's for a girl, but I'll answer it anyway.

Love
Support
Respect
Loyalty and faithfulness
A helpful ear
Guidance and advice
Friendship
Endless interesting conversations
Personal growth (for both of us)
Humor and jokes
Insight and criticism (in a truthful way)
Massages and body rubs
Kisses

[Justneedtokno]

No it can be for male to because you have alpha female that already make there own money have a house car no children

[Jamie05rhs]

Sex isn't my #1 thing that I bring to the table. (Though it might be, if you include foreplay as well as nonsexual romance. And massages.)

Other than that, I bring leadership, comfort, emotional stability, mental stimulation, passion, adventure, affection, and safety.

[Justneedtokno]

Those are all great positive things

[Jamie05rhs]

@Justneedtokno Thanks! ☺️

[Browneye57]

Well, you're on the right track. Cooking is pretty high up there though, especially if your man isn't a chef or cooking hobbieist. Somehow y'all gotta eat, and food is a sure way into a man's heart. He also seeks good sex, and lots of love/attention/respect.

A woman that brings value does bring stability, but also understanding, nurturing, adoration, support - both emotional and financial - even children if that's what both want. For example, my wife bought me a motorcycle, and a boat. I bought her a house.

Guys want women to be independent, happy with themselves, emotionally stable. But if that means 'we don't need no stinkin' man' then all bets are off. Guys want to be needed and wanted.

[Anonymous]

I provide a stable platform and resources upon which she relies, and they rely to live their lives.
Every now and again she needs someone to lean on or someone to ground her, she'll come to me.
And when we're threatened we combine to fight the common enemy.
I've been a steady presence throughout much of her life and a consistent supporter. Our histories are intermingled.
And when the child rearing is finally complete and her head clears, it'll be me she looks towards as we enter the final third of our lives.
It would be interesting to read what you girls think you bring to the table. Apart from sex. Cooking. And cleaning.

[ChrisMaster69]

Emotional and physical support.

the ability to listen, not be judgmental, sense of humour.

also importantly in this day and age being open and not bigoted in regards to sexuality, gender, or ethnicity.

this means none of those problems where the other person has friends that area different ethnicity, a different sexuality.

very importantly, if a son or daughter decides they are not straight or do not want to be labelled, then I am there for them to provide support.

[PrettyPriya]

I personally think I bring a level of intellect and humor that matches my partner.

[SecretsofKB]

A good pair of ears and calmness and a cool head. I can listen to you vent all day long and make sure that you see both sides of the story if you need to.

[DonkeyDan]

Laughter, support, protection, stability, an open mind. I'm a good masseuse (trained), and I'll turn my hand to anything.

[Riddler1412]

Damn, cooking is out?
Hmmm, a bit of seriousness, humor, and good financial planning.

[Justneedtokno]

Yes the reason why I crossed out cooking because that’s a basic skill everybody should know how to do like cleaning

[Riddler1412]

Oh, ok. Seems logical.
Although, I know a lot of people that don't know how to cook.

[Justneedtokno]

That’s sad for them. Normally you’re able to cook the basics like eggs. I understand though.

I believe a lot of people need financial literacy.

[Andres77]

Intellectual curiosity.
Adventure.
Fun.
Peace.
Security.
What I can cook is awesome.
I'm a good dad.
I'm a good story teller.

[JennBITx]

I am a professional and make good money. I am very organized and a planner. Family is important and I am loyal.

[Waldoe]

I'm old, so knowledge, life experiences... and of course, nobody wants to hear it... lol I warn loved ones of possible "Bad" outcomes, and they come to me later and say "I wish I had listened" oh well, live and learn

[karaspara]

I own my own home and car I work have my own money and am studying to improve myself so what are they bringing to my table?

[Assi2k]

Ideally, my husband will share the same value and purpose as my own. So in that context, I provide the female outlook to support our common aspirations.

[Jamie05rhs]

Also, you look great for your age.

[Assi2k]

The secret is to mind your own business and eating plat-based😉

[Jamie05rhs]

@Assi2k. That's awesome. :)

[Assi2k]

@Jamie05rhs I’m not really 91. Was only tryna throw off the FBI guy😂

[Jamie05rhs]

@Assi2k Oh... you've got the FBI on your tail, eh? What did you do? Lol

[Savage_Wisdom]

Love and support. And I'm a great cook, by the way.

[bananathunder]

i will make you laugh your bootay off and wink at you at all the inappropriate times ;)

[Gwenhwyfar]

Intelligence, empathy and social grace

[Sketti2021]

My fiance says I'm so positive and literally laugh about everything and he loves those things 💕

[Den1971]

Humor... Never boring. Like exploring new territories with you

[Slim57]

Cleaning and cooking, no but I bring the best and nothing else

[Anonymous]

Do you like massages and being welcomed home warmly with hugs and kisses?

[ChefPapiChulo]

Damnit I was going to say cooking and cleaning

[Justneedtokno]

Nope that’s basic skills of survival

[ChefPapiChulo]

You can’t cook. I know that much.

[Justneedtokno]

Sir you do not know me and yes just because you can doesn’t mean that I can’t

[ChefPapiChulo]

You’re a dumbass

[Justneedtokno]

Aw wow now you’re resorting to insults because you can’t counter my comment. You poor thing. Get the fuck out of here asshole.

[ChefPapiChulo]

Gutter rat

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Sound wisdom, intelligence, honesty, willing to share resources and loyalty.

[Ironic_Method]

Support, guidance, protection, fun, insight, etc.

[Mavie]

i bring the whole table

[Justneedtokno]

Lol 😂 house and all I see

[Mavie]

hahah :D

[Jamie05rhs]

Those are confident words!!

[Mavie]

@Jamie05rhs 💙

[msc545]

Humor and intelligence.

[legalboxers]

I am a good listener.

[Controluremo]

Sense of humor

[krin_m]

Emotional support, care, warm friendship!

[Yaharro]

Lot of hangouts treats and gifts

[Justneedtokno]

Lol ok sir

[Wise4myage]

My sense of humor?

[libraboy]

Poetry