Hitting you isn’t okay. Ever. It’s abuse.
I’ve read some of the other answers, and your about what started the argument. It was completely reasonable for you to be upset about his mother. What she was saying to you wasn’t okay either. And your husband should have defended you.
My recommendation would be to pack up some clothes and essentials for you and the baby and go stay with a friend or family member for a while. Someone you feel comfortable telling about what happened.
Honestly if it was me I would probably consider it grounds for a divorce. But there’s a kid involved, so it’s a bit complicated. At the very least, I would refuse to come back until he agrees to see a couples therapist, and attends at least one appointment. (And not a religious one by the way. I don’t know if you’re religious, but there are a lot of religious marriage counselors who aren’t actually qualified. And they’re incredibly sexist and usually just blame the wife for not being submissive enough. Get an actual therapist. With a degree. And experience).
Let him see the kid to whatever degree you’re comfortable with. It’s not healthy for the kid to completely cut off contact, unless you’re worried about him being violent in front of the kid. (If you’re worried, try limiting the meetings to public spaces, like parks or cafe’s, and bring a friend for moral support). If he tries to get a lawyer, he’s the one who hit you. That’s domestic violence. Bringing it to court won’t benefit him.
If he ever does it again, keep a log of his abusive behavior. You have a right to a divorce even if he didn’t do anything. If you don’t feel safe around him that’s a very solid reason to get one. But again, there are other options if you don’t want to do that. But at least see a couples therapist.
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This might sound funny but honestly this is what I imagine telling him before eventually reporting him:
- Ahhh you poor little child. Resorting to hitting, that's all you can do, that's all you can do because you suck, yes your mom is a bitch and what, you gonna hit me again, go ahead. Do it again. I don't care. I'm calling the police afterwards.
Seriously, resorting to hitting just because ''oh Boo a-hoo a-hoo a-hoo, my wife insulted my mother''. So what? What is he, a 6 years old child that can't keep his hands to himself?
I would ask you to take your clothes and things and Days later you're divorced. You show huge disrespectful huge bad personality I believe you don't even respect your husband that much.
Just wondering how was your life back then at high school? Were you super sexual active back then?
hitting someone is unacceptable because its a bell you can't unring. But I think you share the blame on this, because you decided to make him angry on purpose.
Guys, never hit a woman. When they go for your buttons, just say "we'll talk later" and bail.
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Honey, you're just 30, you're young and full of life. If you stay with a man who doesn't treat you right, then he's gonna suck all the life out of you. Men like him are like leeches. Please file a divorce. Him and his family seem very toxic. You deserve better. Never sacrifice your happiness for anyone else. Please. loads of love <3
Divorce him , you married the wrong guy , you as his wife should be his number 1 priority , by him hitting you just shows you aren’t his priority , and by him hitting you period is a big no no , divorce his ass
Get a divorce.
I know there's a good reason you called his mom a bitch because she raised a cheater and an abuser.Divorce him, if he hit you over something like that, just imagine what else he would hit you for.
I think people should talk about their feelings. You could have said, I didn't like hearing you say those things, why did you call her that, instead of hitting woman..
Well my ex wife called my mother a bitch and I managed not to hit her, the fact that she is a bitch is irrelevant. Toss that guy!
So he wouldn't hit his mother but hits you just because you said a bad word? You're family and should be treated as such. No excuse
Okay when asking a question make sure to describe enough so that we understand why you called his mom a bitch. Your husband and his mom was at fault. Divorce?
Did he hit or otherwise get violent with you before you married him?
You are mad disrespectful. You simply don't do that.
well i mean, why do neither of you respect each other?
I mean you did refer to his own mom as a bitch, what did you really expect?
That’s not right. I mean by som would get angry if someone calls his mom bitch, but you are his wife. So he can’t hit you.
What was your reaction?Well he shouldn't hit you but why did you call his Mum a bitch?
In a way you called your husband a bitch..
Because he is born out of her..If you had a son who loved you and someone called you a bitch he'd (your son) probably do the same.
dump him , problem solved
it is 2021 , marriage? SERIOUSLY?If he called your mother a bitch, would you slap him?
You want us to pat you on the head and tell you the thing you want to hear without giving any context? And it's not even a proper question.
what the actual fuck.. screw daytime soaps.. I wanna know more.
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