I called husband mom a bitch and he hit me?

[Queenshyronda1]

[weasley8]

Hitting you isn’t okay. Ever. It’s abuse.



I’ve read some of the other answers, and your about what started the argument. It was completely reasonable for you to be upset about his mother. What she was saying to you wasn’t okay either. And your husband should have defended you.


My recommendation would be to pack up some clothes and essentials for you and the baby and go stay with a friend or family member for a while. Someone you feel comfortable telling about what happened.


Honestly if it was me I would probably consider it grounds for a divorce. But there’s a kid involved, so it’s a bit complicated. At the very least, I would refuse to come back until he agrees to see a couples therapist, and attends at least one appointment. (And not a religious one by the way. I don’t know if you’re religious, but there are a lot of religious marriage counselors who aren’t actually qualified. And they’re incredibly sexist and usually just blame the wife for not being submissive enough. Get an actual therapist. With a degree. And experience).


Let him see the kid to whatever degree you’re comfortable with. It’s not healthy for the kid to completely cut off contact, unless you’re worried about him being violent in front of the kid. (If you’re worried, try limiting the meetings to public spaces, like parks or cafe’s, and bring a friend for moral support). If he tries to get a lawyer, he’s the one who hit you. That’s domestic violence. Bringing it to court won’t benefit him.


If he ever does it again, keep a log of his abusive behavior. You have a right to a divorce even if he didn’t do anything. If you don’t feel safe around him that’s a very solid reason to get one. But again, there are other options if you don’t want to do that. But at least see a couples therapist.

[CelineBV]

This might sound funny but honestly this is what I imagine telling him before eventually reporting him:
- Ahhh you poor little child. Resorting to hitting, that's all you can do, that's all you can do because you suck, yes your mom is a bitch and what, you gonna hit me again, go ahead. Do it again. I don't care. I'm calling the police afterwards.

Seriously, resorting to hitting just because ''oh Boo a-hoo a-hoo a-hoo, my wife insulted my mother''. So what? What is he, a 6 years old child that can't keep his hands to himself?

[CelineBV]

I would say the same thing if a wife slaps her husband for that same reason. She would also be a poor child that can't keep her hands to herself, that can't function like an adult.

[siseñor]

i feel like that wld only worsen the situation, u shldn't tease someone who's already been aggravated enough to hit u

[CelineBV]

@siseñor
I would actually make myself very loud enough for everyone to hear. My neighborhood is full of people all the time (a very busy place), the police station is about 10 mins away and if there is a big commotion, they would notice immediately. Then he gets exposed (both in public and in fb) and jailed. Overall I live in a good, secured zone.

If there is something I don't like is if I were having a partner controlling what I talk by using physical force. I've never seen that in my family. This is my stance: If I'm not physically harming you and it's only words, then you have no rights hitting me. Same thing vice-versa.

[siseñor]

i was just saying my first priority wld b for them to calm down, i wldn't want them to get angrier. then obvia i'd get cops. they wldn't b controlling what u say, u wld b protecting urself. idek.

[Anonymous]

I would ask you to take your clothes and things and Days later you're divorced. You show huge disrespectful huge bad personality I believe you don't even respect your husband that much.

Just wondering how was your life back then at high school? Were you super sexual active back then?

[Xylem1992]

hitting someone is unacceptable because its a bell you can't unring. But I think you share the blame on this, because you decided to make him angry on purpose.

Guys, never hit a woman. When they go for your buttons, just say "we'll talk later" and bail.

[tatianamay]

Honey, you're just 30, you're young and full of life. If you stay with a man who doesn't treat you right, then he's gonna suck all the life out of you. Men like him are like leeches. Please file a divorce. Him and his family seem very toxic. You deserve better. Never sacrifice your happiness for anyone else. Please. loads of love <3

[Finchie40]

Divorce him , you married the wrong guy , you as his wife should be his number 1 priority , by him hitting you just shows you aren’t his priority , and by him hitting you period is a big no no , divorce his ass

[Hazelxoxx]

If someone told you your mom is bitch would you be happy 😆

[Finchie40]

Not happy but I wouldn’t punch my spouse over it , I would talk to her about it and find out the reason she thinks my Mom is a bitch , she doesn’t deserve to be beaten over it

[Azura_88]

Get a divorce.
I know there's a good reason you called his mom a bitch because she raised a cheater and an abuser.

[zzombie]

Divorce him, if he hit you over something like that, just imagine what else he would hit you for.

[maggie_c]

I think people should talk about their feelings. You could have said, I didn't like hearing you say those things, why did you call her that, instead of hitting woman..

[CelineBV]

Exactly. Adults already have the ability to communicate, not revert back to 1st graders that hit whenever someone says something they don't like. The OP's husband is a loser. On another previous post, the OP said he cheated while she was pregnant.
Looks like the guy's mother is a bitch after all, for raising a cheater and an abuser.

[DonkeyDan]

Well my ex wife called my mother a bitch and I managed not to hit her, the fact that she is a bitch is irrelevant. Toss that guy!

[Danielle93]

Exactly. That's how it should be. It's normal to get upset if your partner insults your mother and don't like it. However, hitting isn't acceptable nor normal on a relationship nor marriage.

[DonkeyDan]

There is no excuse for hitting your wife or any woman for that matter. I've had my ex punching and beating my chest before, you just stand there and take it till she's finished with her tantrum and then take her in the bedroom and do her roughly from behind, although for her that was just a reward for acting out.

[Danielle93]

So he wouldn't hit his mother but hits you just because you said a bad word? You're family and should be treated as such. No excuse

[Twalli]

I doubt it's the fact she said bitch

[Danielle93]

@Twalli
I was going through her post and apparently she has issues with him and he had previously cheated too. Example:
He cheated on me while I was pregnant? ↗
First it's cheating and now it's abuse. Yeah it sounds like he used the ''she called my mom a bitch'' as an excuse and his abusive side came out.

[Twalli]

Quite possibly

[Hangry06]

Okay when asking a question make sure to describe enough so that we understand why you called his mom a bitch. Your husband and his mom was at fault. Divorce?

[hahahmm]

Did he hit or otherwise get violent with you before you married him?

[Queenshyronda1]

No... he never hit me

[hahahmm]

I guess that was his way of saying that you can't say that about his mom. I don't agree with him using violence tho. Now you need to show him that what he did isn't acceptable. For example you could go live with friends/family for weeks & tell him it's because of what he did.

If he's a momma's boy then he's going to listen to her about everything & not to you. Combine that with her not liking you and it doesn't sound good at all.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

You are mad disrespectful. You simply don't do that.

[Danielle93]

Hitting isn't ever ok in a marriage. That's his wife, not a random stranger. Just like his mother is his family, so is she.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

@Danielle93: Two wrongs definitely don't make it right but she definitely crossed a major line by insulting the woman who gave life to her man.

[Danielle93]

That's why we have mouths we can use, not hands and fists.

[Danielle93]

He couldn't said to her ''Look, I don't like the way you referred my mom as, don't do it again.

[Danielle93]

could've

[888theGreat]

@Danielle93 we know Hispanic no so cool beats women now. Lets hope women stay away from him before they lose teeth or he rapes them.

[SnakeBoop]

well i mean, why do neither of you respect each other?

[FinalFantasyBro]

I mean you did refer to his own mom as a bitch, what did you really expect?

[I_am_a_smart_human]

That’s not right. I mean by som would get angry if someone calls his mom bitch, but you are his wife. So he can’t hit you.
What was your reaction?

[Danielle93]

This indeed.

[karaspara]

Well he shouldn't hit you but why did you call his Mum a bitch?

[Nik1hil]

In a way you called your husband a bitch..
Because he is born out of her..

[Twalli]

Don't you mean "son of a bitch".

[Nik1hil]

@Twalli

I was trying to easy on her...

[Anonymous]

If you had a son who loved you and someone called you a bitch he'd (your son) probably do the same.

[Danielle93]

That wasn't just someone. That's his wife, a family member. If he wouldn't hit his mother for saying bad word, then the wife should be treated the same, like family.

[Opinion Owner]

@Danielle93 it's not the bad word that caused the slap. It's the blatant disrespect to someone he loves.

[Danielle93]

Yet ironically slapping his wife was also blatant disrespect for another one he loves. I've heard countless stories of a man's mother treating his wife like garbage (even insulting her right in his face) and he holds back. He still wouldn't his his mother but he sure has no problems (doesn't have the same self-control) hitting his wife, a family member.

[fred_durst]

dump him , problem solved
it is 2021 , marriage? SERIOUSLY?

[Jayplays900]

If he called your mother a bitch, would you slap him?

[Danielle93]

I hope the OP says no because otherwise she would be a hypocrite. If it were me, I would simply use my mouth and my answer would vary. If I got time and it's my day off say that wasn't nice and if he has a problem with my mother, then both can sit down, talk on the table and work it out. If I'm busy or heading to work, say ''We'll talk about this later''.

[Xoirwinkan]

You want us to pat you on the head and tell you the thing you want to hear without giving any context? And it's not even a proper question.

[legalboxers]

what the actual fuck.. screw daytime soaps.. I wanna know more.

[Twalli]

You insulted his mother. He shouldn't have hit you, but you aren't blameless

[Danielle93]

If you look at her previous posts, this guy ain't right. He cheated and no he hits her. Those two things already are grounds for a divorce.

[Twalli]

@Danielle93 didn't say he's a good guy, but calling a guys mom a bitch isn't an okay thing in any situation

[Danielle93]

He should've communicated with his mouth and said ''look that wasn't nice, lets talk''. Hitting a partner isn't ever acceptable. He's lucky she hasn't filed assault charges on him because I would have.
I believe the same too vice-versa. If a boyfriend or future husband call my mother a bitch, yes I would get upset but hitting him wouldn't be acceptable either. With the exception of real self-defense, hitting in a relationship or marriage isn't ever okay.

[Jamie05rhs]

I guess she's the one who's the real queen. You're only the princess.

[Jamie05rhs]

Oh, wait. I read that incorrectly. HE hit you?

I swear, I need glasses. 😐

[Jamie05rhs]

Everyone PLEASE downvote my comment.

[postaldudePL123]

He shouldn't have hit you. It made him the villain. He should've just divorced you.

[Anonymous]

Shyronda? Queen? pretty much explains everything right there

[boggboss]

What are u asking u have married a abusive man

[electromagnetic]

Bang out of order he is. Hit his ass back.

[Honesttguy]

Depend if she is bitch tho.

[Tania16]

Too bad for using such words for his mom

[Browneye57]

Cut his nuts off. [shrug]

[Fuentes]

Abuse is never the answer

[FunkyMonkee]

What is a "mom a bitch"?

[anylolone]

He's wrong, words aren't reasons for assault.

[CelineBV]

He's a manchild to me. If he hit for that reason then he can hit for other reasons too whenever he doesn't get his way, like a pathetic little 6 year-old kid would do.

[anylolone]

@CelineBV Basically.

[Hazelxoxx]

If a woman told you your mom is a bitch what would you do?

[anylolone]

@Hazelxoxx I'd agree, and say my sister is also a bitch, but, to be honest, most women are bitches.

Depending on the woman I'd say "pot to kettle, pot to kettle" which would be most women.

[Hazelxoxx]

If your mom isn’t a bitch and your wife or girlfriend told you that your mom is a bitch without any reason ! Some girlfriend or wife are jealous of your sister or mom. So this is girl she doesn’t say the reason why she said a bitch to his mom for what maybe she is jealous or she need his husband for herself 🤷🏻‍♀️ .

[anylolone]

@Hazelxoxx It's not about if my mom is a bitch, or my sister, it's about not taking offense and doing it in style. If she's trying to be controlling, well, that's why you'd call her a bitch, or if she's just being a bitch for other reasons.

I have a philosophy that I don't need to go around protecting people's honor unless the accusation is of a crime.

[msc545]

That was rather stupid of you.

[Sketti2021]

So what is the question

[SamFromFL]

What’s your question?

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

Was it ok for him to hit her

[SamFromFL]

Obv not. Also wasn't ok for her to say what she said

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

Right. we all know both wasn't ok but, the point is, what was the argument about. did she have a right to say it to her

[SamFromFL]

We don’t need to know what the argument was about. They are married, that should be private.

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

But she's saying she called his mom a bitch, and then he hit her.. what was the argument about. Did the wife have a right to tell her that the mom's a bitch

Keep in mind, trump called a lot of people, a lot of things, and he never said why he did it

[Twalli]

@ItsMeItsMe1989 We all knew that the reason he did it was because he was a narcissistic egomaniacal snowflake.

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

Actually we don't

And why the QA chose something other than my answer as MHO, is because she's a biased cuck

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

What was the argument about

[Queenshyronda1]

I had a baby and his mom keep taking about my weight. I tried to talk to him about it but was being sensitive and protecting his mother. I called her bitch... he got so angry

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

She called you fat, basically

From the baby weight you put on, and haven't taken off yet

[NicoletteXO]

Divorce time.

[noohair]

Violence is not acceptable even if you are right.

[OddBeMe]

Did you hit him back?

[Danielle93]

Hopefully she hits him back with divorce papers.

[Danielle93]

and assault charges

[OddBeMe]

@Danielle93 serisouly

[Anonymous]

Good son; bad husband.

[AmeerX]

He did a good thing

[Hazelxoxx]

You deserve that

[Danielle93]

No one deserves to get hit in a relationship nor marriage. Not acceptable nor normal. In addition, a different previous post stated he cheated on her while she was pregnant. So he's a cheater and now hits her.
Even if what she said was uncalled, that's his wife (a family member), not some random stranger he can hit whenever a bad word is said.

[Hazelxoxx]

She said your mom is bitch so she deserve that. If she pregnant it’s so wrong to hit but he can only brokeup🥲

[CelineBV]

''oh Boo a-hoo a-hoo a-hoo, my wife insulted my mother''
Honestly, I would continue mocking and making fun of a guy for doing that if I were that girl. I will not shut up just because he thinks that was too much.
Any manchild that thinks he can just hit me just because I insulted his mother or said something bad is worth laughing at. The fact that he can react so easily over words, lol. That ain't a man. That's a kid, a 6 year-old child to me. lol

[Hazelxoxx]

Because you are not a man. It’s your mom she should respect your mom because she is old lady she said bad words she should apologise to her. If she didn’t fuck her and divorce she deserve that. No One Can Replace Mother. If you are agree with your girlfriend you both 7 years old

[Hazelxoxx]

Also, imagine your man told you that your mom she is bitch? What would you do ! 🥲

[Danielle93]

I would talk it out like normal adults do. I would ask why he said that and have him sort out his differences with my mother on a table, in a civilized manner.

[CelineBV]

What if she says them again, then hitting her every single time she says bad words is the answer? If so then you're excusing violence in a relationship/marriage?
I'm sorry but why should I apologize for getting hit? Unless I physically attack you and was causing bodily harm, I don't deserve getting hit for words, no matter how bad they are. The moment you hit, you've already close negotiations and your apology isn't coming, none.

[CelineBV]

The moment you hit, you lost. That shows me you can't handle conflict and nope, a real man or woman doesn't hit the person they marry (and promised to love and protect) just because bad words were said.
If he hit for that reason then what's to say he won't hit her for other major reasons in the near future?

[Hazelxoxx]

She should respect. And she would not getting hit it’s simple. If she said every day bad words to his mom she deserve that 🤷🏻‍♀️ this words it’s hurt her feelings as you getting hurt

[CelineBV]

If she said bad words often about his mother and he continues hitting her then why is he still with someone he wants to hit? Shouldn't he leave her at that point?
The fact that they got kids makes it worse. The poor kids will grow up thinking it's right hitting your partner every single time they said offensive words, that it's right hitting people for words.

[Hazelxoxx]

Wtf she said bitch it’s strong words that hurt shame on her ok no one treated like that if someone told me bitch i will hit shame on you supporting her for telling her bad words both them wrong ok she should not say this and he should no hit her only divorce her it’s clear

[CelineBV]

Since you think hitting someone for words is ok, I'll switch things around:
If the guy's mother would've called his wife (a loved one) a bitch, would it be ok for him to slap his mother?

[Hazelxoxx]

You don’t understand me. I said the wife she should not to say bitch to his mom. She should respect her because she is old. And the man will not slap her ok. If she doesn’t want to respect his mom she should move on.

[Hazelxoxx]

He can’t slap his mom’s. He can move on to other apartment with his wife but she still his mom no matter what she should be patient to his mom she is old lady she can ignore her it’s simple.

[CelineBV]

So he can hit anyone but his mother? Ok gotcha. I will now agree to disagree with you. My stance still remains the same, you can't hit your family and to me a wife is a family too.

[Hazelxoxx]

You didn’t understand what am i say 😅😅😅. I said that she can not say bad words to his mom and he can not slap his wife that’s all respect each other is it clear?

[Pterodon]

Automatic divorce

[KrakenAttackin]

Stop being so cunty.

[siseñor]

hi cvnt

[Hanmakevi]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣‼️

[Nick2456]

Lol 😂

[Anonymous]

OK and?