Girls, why do women cheat so much when they're younger?

[Anonymous]

I've seen statistics that show women cheat a lot more than men do in their 20's and 30's, and then men take the lead in their 40's+. For men I'd assume that's because women stop wanting sex with their partner at that age and men get desperate. Still, women cheat by a lot more when they're younger. I know most of the women in my friend groups have cheated at least once. I have a lot of travel plans in the next couple of years, and I'm afraid if I have a girlfriend during that time, I'll get cheated on if I'm gone for more than a few days.

[NicoletteXO]

I only ever cheated once. It was I guess you could say a strange scenario. I had met the love of my life when I was 17 (we later got engaged)... we were besotted with each other, but he kept telling me how 'experienced' he was. I had never gone 'all the way' with any previous boyfriend. So I was terrified I would have no clue what to do and would disappoint him. I was sent away on a work travel trip, and I ended up sleeping with a work colleague (we actually had a really great connection, and are still good friends 18 years later!). I basically wanted to have a 'practice run' so I didn't mess things up with the man I loved when we became intimate. Looking back in hindsight, I can see now it was the wrong choice. But I honestly did it because I was ignorant. I cared so much about him, that I didn't want to jeopardize things with poor technique. I truly didn't comprehend that my actions would have been more hurtful to him. I was just young and didn't get it. I suspect a lot of women who cheat when they're young are just ignorant. Especially when they are very young, a lot of it is simply lack of life knowledge and wisdom. I think it's worse for people to cheat when they're older. They've had a lot more opportunity to develop character.

[JustAnj]

For a lot of girls who do cheat it's more they aren't ready to commit and sometimes can become unsure when a relationship gets serious.

It's messed up but some girls just like the relationship for the attention and love the taboo of having a man a fucking another.

Cheaters do not usually have common morals and values. They see it as they are young and its not a big deal you will get over it.

Some girls cheat because they are emotionally immature.

There could be plenty of reasons but in the end you just never know with anyone.

I feel y'all.

[JustAnj]

Girls like that make me think of the shit karma they will get one day. It's honestly more sad then punishment. Cause later they get fucked the same way after turning into better people. What comes around goes around. 🤷

[AmandaYVR]

Bullshit.

[btbc92]

Becausw they had lost their virginities young vefore marriage. Most men do npt want to get marries. So women that do it do not see what is the point of it especially if men are going to look at other women and not wait got marriage to have sex. This is due to poor earlier sexual experiences, exposes, and encounters. And added onto that is peers who do the same thing based on bad influences, and pre-prohibition due to genetics especially if their parents have done the same thing or ancestors.

[JustAnj]

I don't think it's about sex experience but your on the right idea when it comes to how men act in relationships.

Many girls I know how end up becoming cheaters were torn apart by there past relationships and each guy broke their hearts to the point of always using them and many disrespecting them by looking around in a way that said loud and clear to women they aren't enough and probably won't ever be.

This is why some people should stay away from relationships but these cheaters like the ego of making a girl or guy their taboo fantasy of I can have anyone and more.

[btbc92]

Sex is a marriage, a marriage is all about having sex. Your sexual experiences impacted how you choose to form bonds and connections to a man which is another reason why God has said it is better for you to marry than to burn with passion. If you're burning with passion in your youth then what do you expect? You've often symbolizes carelessness in the eyes of the world. If people were taught to get married young and we would not have these issues. But the world doesn't like that in the world told you to get married so late but then says it is okay for you to have sex so young. This causes a great disconnect. Relationships are not the problem. Your intent with it can be. If men especially kept their promises oh, many young women would be married and not have to deal with somebody cheating. But with sex being readily available everywhere you turn, a lot of these young men don't know what to expect anymore. All these girls know about men is that they want you to conform sexually which is why many of those sexualize themselves as young as eight and 11 years old. Do you think girls as young as six never had sex before you did? You be quite surprised.

It's not that we would never be enough. That's for a man who already experienced sex. But the simple fact that the world has said it's okay for you to have different people you got to experience everything that you got to experience before you settle down. That's the wrong message to be told to young people.

[btbc92]

Youth*

We're only meant to be with one person for the rest of our lives. It has nothing to do with a fantasy, it has everything to do with the fat that men especially today do not have any desire to settle down. When we're young we already thinking about having a husband and children. The problem is is actually finding a husband in these boys. But these boys are not ready to become men, and men are not ready for any of that. But even if they are already, they don't know how to handle it.

[JustAnj]

I'm not surprised I grew up in the hood. Marriage is NOT ABOUT SEX, do you really think that people do not want to grow old feel more then fuck me in the privates and be loved by one woman.

Men on here have literally been complaining that they can't find decent women, women tend to ignore this as well on here. Why? Honestly I don't get the fuck men approach, yes guys need to grow up too, yes young women these days are immature and super sexualized. Guess what they are all very clearly scared of falling in love and getting fucked over.

People PEOPLE are scared! They want love, they just don't believe it's real or ever gonna happen for them and even if it did will they be accepted.

God forgave Mary Magdalene for the things she did this did not stray her heart to a better path nor did it taint it when she fully forgave herself. So to say that men and women are biased from sexual experience is a big leap. People make mistakes and instead of judging them we could be helping them open their eyes.

I married at 23 would have been married sooner. It takes a lot to keep a marriage and people are scared. So no it's not sex experience that causes this craziness, it's the fact that father's and mother's are not teaching respect and love. Kids are not questioned and no one trys to help these poor people how to love themselves, how to respect themselves and others, and how to stare fear in the face and say come at me, I can take it.

Please do not frame Gods words as if he made is in the perfection of pattern, anyone can change we just don't do anyone a favor by saying to them you will never be enough.

[JustAnj]

And not be loved by one woman**

[btbc92]

@JustAnj You need to understand the primary reason people marry was and is always been sex. The word of God made it very clear that marriage is sex, because the moment the penis enters your vagina, you already made a covenant with that MAN. Therefore you are MARRIED.

"Marriage is NOT ABOUT SEX, do you really think that people do not want to grow old feel more then fuck me in the privates, and be loved by one woman." Marriage is however way you make it, bless or living hell. Marriage was never about happiness, but forming families, economic and financial reasons, sometimes for political and warfare reasons. If you look, throughout history, no matter where you look, marriage has always been contractual in some way. Even among the monarchy and even among the rich. I have taken college classes that have talked about it, and even in American History speaks on this. It has always and will always be about it. Which determines also whether or not your marriage is a success. It is sexual. Without sex, it is not a marriage. To consummate a marriage you must have sex. Without sex, the marriage can be annulled.

[btbc92]

You also need to understand man doesn't love us the same way we do. They are more physical and we are more emotional. The problem is that men do not see the see to commit because they can easily have free sex anywhere. Back then, depending on the society, culture, and laws, this kind of behavior would have been frown upon. So what you are saying is not the reality. This is why marriage isn't for everybody, but you cannot have sex before marriage or else you committed sin. Since hardly anybody respects that nowadays, what do you think you're dealing with? Studies already confirmed that the more sex partners you have the higher your risk of divorce in the future. Especially if you had been sexually active before the age of 18 and you shacked up before marriage. For most men, as it's not every one, sex is one of their primary needs. If they didn't see the benefits of that, remember they cannot have sex with themselves. You need a man and a woman, a penis and a vagina, sperm and egg to create a baby, a union, and the only two sexes who can legally have sex. That is how God designed us. No matter what you say or believe are, there are RULES to this. And when rules are broken, trouble starts. All the world has done, was endorse everybody to break the rules while imposing their own which is detrimental to all of mankind and society as a whole. Growing old would be a beautiful thing. But not everybody makes it. People change throughout the decades. The everyday human being tends to average mortality between 60-mid 80s. Between birth and then, HOW many decades of marriage do you expect to last in this day and age?

[btbc92]

"Men on here have literally been complaining that they can't find decent women, women tend to ignore this as well on here. Why?" Very easy to explain:

1. Many men grew up with no father. And any male figure around, would moe and likely be a toxic home environment.
2. The exposure of pornography at a young age also changed their perception regarding women and sexuality.
3. The increased divorced rates and the witnessing of their own parent's divorce also impact how they expect to see marriage as an enemy, and how women are only after their money.
4. In turn, after they had sexual experiences very early in life, they see us as disposable.
5. Women no longer behave like the women in Little Women. They want that same behavior while also expect you to treat yourselves like a hoe by their, again, exposure to porn.
6. thanks to the media, society by trend tells you how you should be. How you should show yourself based on the image. That is why they pick certain women, or even trans, by the way, most of the models are mostly that throughout the decades, nothing new. And they tell you either you look and do what they do or you are not worth the effort. People have been programmed to do these things and it have become so-called "normal". When it's not. Now men don't know what to do.
7. Many women act and behave like robots. And you can see this on Instagram, Tinder, and Onlyfans. Women dressing the same, acting the same, behaving the same, talking the same, doing the same, so what do men expect? For all women to be the same. It's the same for us with men, so what do we expect? That all men are the same.

[btbc92]

"Honestly I don't get the fuck men approach, yes guys need to grow up too, yes young women these days are immature and super sexualized. Guess what they are all very clearly scared of falling in love and getting fucked over." Then you don't have to do that, but then you will be less considered because again that is what most are after now. Again, falling in love is not what you do. You have to have a purpose and the right intentions of being involved. This is a rational and logical decision, it is not always about your emotions. You cannot rely on your feelings because your feelings can deceive you. You must KNOW for yourself. And people have been taught to follow their hearts, and that is something that the Bible never said for us to do. But to follow Jesus. Again, if people only KNEW what they needed to do, which is said in the Bible, which if you didn't have the physical letter, it must be WRITTEN in your hearts, to know. Some people like myself in a way already know. Many have to learn this along the way. These days, people don't care about that. They are not in relationships to love, but to use you and call it love. I know, because I never dated and I have been told if I never had sex anybody would want me. Waiting for marriage, then you must be crazy. So how can I date? How can I if it's expected of me to compromise myself? Most who already had sex, will not want to wait also. And because they had sex, they get to compare you in bed. Last I checked, what does that have to do with love? Nothing.

[JustAnj]

You rules are this, yet my realty dictates opposite. You can't speak for God, as much as others want to continue to argue what kind of life God wanted for us its very different from what we do, he already knew that. You preach as if you lay your mind upon others when you layed your rules upon words.

You speak as if you experience life with others and lay your ears upon there crys. But you don't, I have with many many people. We continue to ignore that science looses emotional understanding the moment our perceptions are based off statistics. How will we ever teach when all we do is simply speak from our heads and not have it paired with our hearts. I exist and my thoughts and life is not fantasy, it is life.

Your reality is through words, I am sorry that I can not agree with your theory of humans. I believe we are more capable just as Jesus saw us to be. I frown to your souls but only wish for all your growths.

I married for love by the way and God is constantly showing me and my husband we are more then flesh.

I wish you the best in your journey and do wish you happiness may you perceive it differently. Do not forget though of something important, some men will always seek power and blind you from Gods love you have in your heart and create hate in its path. To love God is to love us and forgive others.

Have a Goodnight.

[btbc92]

"People PEOPLE are scared! They want love, they just don't believe it's real or ever gonna happen for them and even if it did will they be accepted." People from what I have seen are not after love or want love, they want a fantasy, an illusion. If they really want love, they would want a friendship, develop and grow to become romantic partners IF they are indeed compatible. The world have distorted people's perceptions of what love actually is: unconditional. While a marriage have conditions in that it is sexual. Period. Without sex, the marriage fails. The problem is people have not learned how to develop self-control and have been taught to have a variety of people to have sex with. This messes up our wiring and how we approach this. That becomes ingrained and now our children may do the same. Women again are only immature and sexualized, because they have been taught to be immature and sexualized. Men act like jerks because again, they have been told it's okay to be that way, and nobody bothers to reprimand and correct them. That is why they are immature and think it's okay to sexualize women. Now because women are sexualized, they no longer respect us.

This is why your told how to attract a man, and it may mean doing things you don't want to do. Because at the end of the day, they will go to the next women who will. That is just how men are. Now women adapted the same behaviors because again, throughout history a woman had no say in who she can and cannot marry. Men had control over everything we did, like children. And we were seen as such. And men, was our (fathers) in a marriage. You had to listen what your husband said. It didn't matter how you felt, you had to behave, you had to fit in and you have to be chosen by a man. Most importantly, you must hold his favor. For a woman who loses her favor with a man will be seen as a disobident and useless woman. Which is another reason why they had multiple wives.

[btbc92]

"God forgave Mary Magdalene for the things she did this did not stray her heart to a better path nor did it taint it when she fully forgave herself. So to say that men and women are biased from sexual experience is a big leap. People make mistakes and instead of judging them we could be helping them open their eyes." So should we then allow murderers, rapist, robbers, etc out on the streets and instead of having courts we can help them? You must understand that you cannot save everybody and not everybody wants to be helped and not everybody is within help. Only GOD knows and only him and his son can help them. God forgave Mary through his son Jesus because she wanted to be saved. Not everybody wanted to be saved. Do you mean to tell me telling her she had 5 husbands was not judgment? There are two types of judgment:

[btbc92]

Righteous Judgment and Unrighteous judgment: If the judgment was wrong then who are we to punish and judge children? Who are we to chaste our pets? Who are we call bullies, bullies? Who are we to say a bad restaurant is bad? Who Are we to judge murderers? Whoa, are we to judge a rapist? Who are we to judge the weather? To judge a TV rating? A prostitute? Are people having sex in the streets? A person butt naked? Who are we to judge a person who steals? Who are you to judge your own hair and say it's bad? How do you have bad skin? Or how your flight was poor? WHO IS ANY ONE of us to judge? Then how do we know who to date? how do we know what job to get? What food to eat? What things to buy? What clothes to wear? Who cheats? By your admission alone, are you basically saying as if there is no such thing as sin? How did you know to marry your husband? To marry at 23? Judgment? You made judgments all your life. If you don't know how to judge and make judgments, you won't know how to live. That means you are not capable of taking care of yourself or making your own choices, or even free will. Somebody else has to do it for you. So it is not the same. Remember Jesus is born as the son of God and man. He was not born of man and man (woman). So Jesus is perfect. We aren't do to sin nature.

[btbc92]

So Jesus was able to utilize Judgement because he knew HOW. And he showed us how. People who don't want to change don't want to hear the truth and they then feel conviction and offended. The word of God says this. Firstly you never judge without looking at yourself. Look at the things and sins you have done also. You read it in psalms and other books. For God to search and try you, to see the inner workings of the belly. ALL of you. That is another reason why we are called to righteous living. So if one does not know how to discern, which is part of the judicial process and you cannot be responsible, then it is best to not do so because you would be looked at and judge the same. And people had their marriages much differently we do now. So they didn't have any problems as we do know. But you would know anybody who fornicated and committed sexual sin was stoned. So unless you are looking to bring that back, I doubt you want to go there and say that.

This is a time of CORRECTION, which is another reason why Jesus had to come to save you from yourself. Because of sinful nature, because of you needing to be born again, he had to show us how to become like him. He died and rose on the 3rd day as God IS. We're supposed to become as Jesus became. But how if you're not born again? You can be born again in the spirit, which is why you also have the Holy Spirit. But you must truly be BORN AGAIN. All of these things are just temporary down here.

[btbc92]

"It takes a lot to keep a marriage and people are scared." Of course, because again, people do not understand what it takes to have a marriage and what is expected of you. It is important you understand this as you go through your journey and you learn and grow together. You become a new person when you are marriage and your supposed to grow. But it is still sexual in nature.
"So no it's not sex experience that causes this craziness, it's the fact that father's and mother's are not teaching respect and love. " And how do you think they aren't teaching that? Because of their sexual experiences. The word of God would not warn against sexual sin if this was not serious. They have videos explaining the spiritual ramifications that can affect and impact you, especially on a genetic level.

"Kids are not questioned and no one trys to help these poor people how to love themselves, how to respect themselves and others, and how to stare fear in the face and say come at me, I can take it." because again, it is not about loving ourselves, but to already have love in us. Without light, without love within you, then you wouldn't know what love is or be open to receiving. It is very important to understand this concept. Parents today no longer know because the things of God have been sadly, not told about properly in the Churches, and people in society is trying to make everybody unbelievers. You must also understand that not everybody who is in church or on the pulpit is a Christian. Or should I say a child of God. For not everybody is, you must become a child of him. It is a personal relationship, a personal CHOICE. Everything in this life is about choices. And your choices can impact you and your loved ones in greater ways than you never expect.

[btbc92]

Either you can open heavens or you close them. That is how much your choices affect you and those around you. The world you live in. It is not about just staring at fear in the face. But whether or not they are called to marriage, for not everybody is. The world just tells you that if you don't marry then something is wrong with you. I am celibate so I understand this very well. And nobody is going to force me to marry. I know what marriage is and what it requires, hence why I am not jumping in it. Especially with a man who doesn't know what the hell to do. Marriage is an experience, but it is about learning, growing, and maturing. You must have a desire to love and love is a choice. You have a long way until you make it on that maturity level as a married woman. Even you and your husband are still but children learning this thing called marriage as well as the matters of this life. You picked a difficult road. But as long as you two have each other, and God is at the center, then worry not what others do. Focus on his son and walk TOGETHER. Other people are not your concern. Unless you are called to ministry, pray for them and leave that in God's hands. Your job and main mission are being a wife to your husband. This is now your first priority as well as your family if you have children. Worry about rendering your child, to teach them the way they should go, so they do not depart from your teachings.

Before you want to PROCEED to other levels, you must first master and learn that. Never ask for more than what you can handle. Because even know today you are still LEARNING about your husband, being a wife, and what it means to have a marriage, besides learning how to keep it. Because you won't always be the same people, but that is okay. What matters is whether or not you two have a desire to go through this life journey together as husband and wife.

[btbc92]

@JustAnj I challenge you to read the word of God and to truly hear from the father. Because if you cannot perceive spiritual wisdom. Then that may mean it is not meant for you to hear.

[btbc92]

Your forgetting your marriage is not everybody else's. And I hope and pray you're able to keep that. I speak from wisdom. Not man's laws. But what the word of God says and what is laid on my heart and my spirit to speak. Your beliefs are yours and I am not here to change them. I speak as I experience life in the spirit and not the flesh.

[JustAnj]

Yes and I think you are assuming I do not comprehend this, we are all born with sin and only God can claim us as unforgivable souls and such as many do not understand sin or why they sin and have to be able to live grants us ability to be forgiven. Though also if one does not know of his sin he is not to be judged for his by God and of course only God would know if they were aware. Many people live in sin without true understanding and are forgiven for the mistakes they make if they repent. To help others we must be aware that others may not hold the same understanding for in which we should not judge. We will always be sinners but we can try to be better then our sin and that is why it is so important for others to work on themselves may the view you have is old in modern times we can all come to a state of forgiveness between ourselves and God. As long as we have him in our hearts.

[JustAnj]

not to be judged for his sins only by God***

[btbc92]

@JustAnj You can think what you will. I can discern things about people. And I can tell by this convo alone you are speaking about yourself, your sins, and what you more and likely did. And your choosing to reply on my feed to attack me with it because it must have touched you somehow. SO please do not attack me with it. I suggest whatever baggage you carry, you give that to God. I can hear from God and I heeded the will of my father in heaven. He can speak through me. I am almost 30 years old. You are telling me things I beyt you never thought of as a child. I saw this and learned this very early in life. And I hear right now, not to worry of what you say.

[btbc92]

Do not lean unto your own understanding.

[btbc92]

And that is VERY dangerous to be doing. Seek first the kingdom of God, and everything else shall be given unto you. 1 Corinthians 7 says that married people concerns about the things of this life, how may they please their spouses. I am not married. Therefore I concern the things of the spiritual, How may I please my Father. Its all right there in the word of God. What I just said, is all in scripture. And I believe I just quoted 4 scriptures. So if anything you dislike, you have to ask God that. Not me. All I do is speak what I sense and feel in the spirit to speak about if it must be made known.

[JustAnj]

No I'm not talking on personal sins of my own, you yourself are a dinner. We all are.

If you think you can discern things you'd know that, and you'd also know that I'm not attacking you.

Attacking you would be like saying you are arrogant and choose to feed your ideals in books written by man and you think your so perfect.

That's stupid, I think you have an understanding of God through the pages of the bible and you think you can read people because of God speaking through you, though he wouldn't have too because I am a child of God already and also God does not speak through us we speak for ourselves and he guides us the best we can understand.

I don't mind agreeing to disagreeing.

The main point of this conversation overall is that you base what you know off of history which was not controlled by Jesus or God, it was controlled by humans. At those time periods what you said was how they went about marriage, it's not right.

Being with one person is fine but marriage is about sex. I can't agree with that unless you mean to say it's best to have sex when married over not, but even that is not a save all for people who cheat. Marriages have ended in divorce because they ended up have no connection or sexual desire. So nothing is as black and white.

People marry for love and you'd be surprised of the amount of virgin's that still exist.

So I disagree with your point mainly because it doesn't reflect how others chose to be. Many people with multiple partners have never cheated. 🤷

[JustAnj]

I just realized it said dinner I meant dinner. 🤣 These keys suck.

[JustAnj]

Omg see I need a new keyboard 🤣 sinner****

[btbc92]

@JustAnj

I really do not see the need for you to reply back if you do not like what I have to say. You're making this into a situation that really isn't. No I know that you are attacking, and picking and choosing what you want to attack because again and has a lot to do about you. You want to talk about if I think I can discern you are not going to tell me what I can and cannot do because God is in control. And it shows your lack of true belief in God. At this point what you think of me is irrelevant I know my relationship with God you need to get your relationship and golf in order. And I always knew insensitive ago long before I even touch the bible. You need to start developing your spiritual abilities

And God can speak through us if you are willing to be used for the things of the Lord. So I do not care what you agree or disagree with. That is your personal beliefs those are your personal values, that is your personal business. The fact that you think that history or anything in this world is not in control of the Lord says where your mindset is and this conversation is absolutely over.

[btbc92]

And by the way, you're having multiple people and you're not with one person is considered adultery in God's eyes. I highly suggest you go back and you really read your Bible. Or don't. I will not argue the Bible with you.

[JustAnj]

God gave us free will for a reason, he created heaven to let us chose our choices between him and our sins.

The reason I kept replying is due to the fact that your statement makes this assumption about people who have sexual partners and again you are misjudging.

I know multiple partners is adultery but it's not unforgivable if one wants to ask for forgiveness. It's also a sin in general within many sins. My point is your judgement is biased.

I have only had one partner my whole life so no this is not personal or a attack so I'm sorry you have that assumption.

I also apologize for my jumble of words I have been very exhausted lately.

Overall feel no need to reply I'll end my voice here.

Be with God. Have a good day.

[btbc92]

@JustAnj

You need to be at peace. My judgment has nothing to do with your marriage. FOCUS on your marriage before you end up ruining it. It is not biased, the word of God makes this all clear. Yes, there is forgiveness, etc. But there are also CONSEQUENCES. And nobody is exempt from it. See you only had 1, thank God. But because of that, it is you who is biased because you do not know what it is like. Because you never had other partners.

[btbc92]

"I know multiple partners is adultery but it's not unforgivable if one wants to ask for forgiveness." Yes, God forgives. But as human beings we have choices and preferences, and not everybody wants a person who had many partners. You cannot speak on this because again, you only had 1. Now if you don't care who you married or dated had many, that is on you. Nobody is going to force me to be with a person who did. And again, unless you know the reason many do, which sounds like you really don't because your putting your emotions in the middle of a rational conversation, you really do not know. I know, because it is a pattern. Most women do this because they're trying to reclaim what they lost when they gave away their virginity. After that, it is never the same again. I know because my friends never believed in having premarital sex either, cheating and all. And they changed after they did so outside marriage. Like that person said. It's not like you asked to. But that once you gave that away to the person you hoped would be with you forever, you end up being in another person's arms. You may have more strength than others. Others have serious weakness in that area sexually. So I can in way judge in that fact because I have personally been told this by people who done it.

[JustAnj]

Okay honestly I feel like you jump to a lot of conclusions about me which makes me think you do not comprehend me.

Again though it's still a bias you using assumption over answers. There is more to it then just that, sometimes I wonder why people cross my path. Maybe your sin is a simple misjudging of others, I don't know but I hope you listen when I tell you that your very wrong about me.

I can't ignore that you are partially right but that doesn't mean you hit the nail on the head. May I have had one partner, this doesn't mean I don't know what it's like. I understand others in a deep level of themselves and always having being empathic, this I see as a gift from God. How do I know, simple I speak to many people constantly about their emotions and feelings and how to help themselves or simply understand that they are responsible for themselves as others are responsible for themselves.

I have a batch of stories from many and many, because I want nothing more then to know I can help others. I even have a sister who has cheated. I talk very in depth with others not just simply listen.

Please try to remember that I am a stranger and you do not know me.

Just like I don't know you other then the implications of what you are speaking.

[JustAnj]

Now don't think either when I said partially right I was talking about me I am talking about others and there feelings.

[btbc92]

@JustAnj You cannot speak for other people. It is a sexual experience, like it or not. You found and have your husband. Most of these men are not waiting for marriage anymore, and some Christian men don't want to get married either. So again, be thankful to God you have. Because some people I know, some friends of mine and myself do not have husbands.

[btbc92]

I am speaking from interpersonal experience. I have seen for myself. Especially on these sites of nearly 9 years, pay attention. Because most of these women who done that will tell you the same. You may not want to hear it, but it is just facts. Again, you have a husband, so never known that.

[JustAnj]

You are doing so yourself "speaking for other people", and you haven't even had sex (now this is a guess just because you continue to talk about your values), but guess what I am not judging you for that, I'm arguing your false interpretation of others.

It's fine if you don't want to give these guys a chance, that's your life no one is saying you should.

I asked for my husband a long time ago and just as I asked I received and I knew the consequences to this. Now I am grateful but I would never be ungrateful if I also couldn't find a man. God knows how much it could hurt but knows I love him no matter what but I would never be ungrateful.

A lot of men also do not want to get married because they are seeing less respectable women and do not see why they should bother, many are still working on their issues and some just do not want to. It's a mixed pot, but the one I hear a lot is that they do not see quality women worth the time of a possible broken heart.

[btbc92]

@JustAnj You have no right to judge me. And here you are disrespecting yourself, disrespecting your husband, and your blessing because you feel to put your marriage on a pedestal to judgment because I never had. I said the very things you just said and you denied that. So you can keep on pretending you are not at fault because you are. And that is what you didn't like with what I had said. You asked, and you received. Yes, that is again YORU BUSINESS. You never had a problem. You're the one assuming here. Not me. I already experienced and lived through all of that heartache, and judgment and jealousy, and rejection all because i refuse to open up my legs to a man who wasn't my husband. I highly suggest you keep your opinions to yourself if you ever call yourself a Chistian.

[btbc92]

@JustAnj Of course i never had sex I am a VIRGIN. At least God protected me from men like that and some of them STILL at times think they can try, so please cut the BS. Because many of my friends who did wait for marriage, married young and have kids of their own would say the same. Your life is yours, you know nothing of that because you never been through it. I have, just never dated. And plenty of men saying I would deserved to be cheated on if I hold out not having sex, so please take that mess where. God told me otherwise, and that I am not at fault for what happened. Because how you come off at me is unGodly. I know God, and he would never condone how your treating me and using your marriage as an excuse to harm somebody who is unmarried.

[JustAnj]

Oh no, I'm not a Christian, I'm a catholic, basically the same thing just more strict.

Look you are projecting a lot, I get it, I'm not trying to hurt you if that's what's going on here, so please do not be pressed. I talk about my life in general to others to give background not to put my marriage on a pedestal, we got a lot going on that people would walk away from fast. Our marriage ain't a match made in heaven.

With your second comment I can say you are projecting, your laying to many emotions over this and you are taking this personal, I am trying to let you see your own judgmental view and you are ignoring that. They are just points.

I'm sorry for what happened to you and those men are horrible. You shouldn't carry on with that hurt in your heart though, it's not good. I would know. Your not alone in your experience but I can care less of these men because they obviously never cared for me either.

Also the main point I'm making about my husband was there was consequences to asking for him, and you should be grateful of having your strengths to honor yourself instead of giving in.

You came off as bitter just wanted to make it clear you shouldn't be, and you are in the best place right now. No need to hurry for finding a match. Now of course if you want one or feel you need one.

[btbc92]

@JustAnj You never had a consequence in asking for him, because all that is of God is a good thing. I never asked for a husband. So I never expected for what I never asked. And no, I am a spiritual believer. It really isn't the same thing. You really do not know and no, I am not carrying it for the sake of it, it is because people sadly yourself keeps remaining me of it. I've done nothing to deserve such treatment. I am not projecting. What it is is that you chose to make this personal when it was never personal to begin with. NOW I am making it personal, because you took it way too far to want to argue and debate with me, when it was never my intent to debate. I am again, telling you how that is. I cannot force you to see it otherwise, if I never saw it that way, I would have been married with at least 3 kids of my own. I would not be so adamant on being alone. I am celibate for a REASON. And these very reasons are the main reasons why I never bothered. I LEARN from others choices. I never try to be bias in my answers. I always make sure I present facts and I added but biblical and statistical evidence. I can give you the links to everything I mentioned, but your responds tells me your not willing to read or here that. Mark Gungor is a pastor and marriage speaker for years, he says the same thing because he have counseled MANY believers and most of his biggest fans is unbelievers. His video tells exactly what the problem is and its sexual sin. The moment you dabble into that, you risk of messing your life up. And sure enough, everything he said played out in those around me. Even my parents. So I already had a feeling you weren't Christian. You had to be of something else, so Catholic makes sense. Its or error.

[btbc92]

"Our marriage ain't a match made in heaven" What God joins together, let no man tear it asunder. If you truly say God gave you a husband it is a match made in heaven because it is HE who picked your spouse. Now if he didn't, then be honest about that, because the devil can send you somebody also. And you said key phrases that tells me that you really do not understand the Bible or about having that relationship with God. Because God really is in control of your life and this world. He is always present and always involved, he knows more than we do, and his timing is always the perfect timing.

See, when you have spiritual wisdom, they won't like you in the church because they don't always preach on it. Just because I never dated, it doesn't mean I don't know. That's why they sometimes call me a know-it-all and get jealous. They say what they say because those men were not of God. They weren't for me. And I wasn't going to disobey God when I sense in my spirit he told me "No." I wasn't going to be disobident. Because when you're in disobedience, you end up with trouble. Everything in life is a risk. I am not saying to not take risk, but to be WISE and KNOW what risks your taking. And make sure you are equally yoked with that person. That is very important. Marriage is not about happiness. It takes work and commitment, and no matter how you feel at the moment you still have a job to do and obligations to meet because you cannot divorce all because you unhappy. You have till death due you apart. You sure as hell better know what you got into, and not rush into this. But be if you did or not, you are still at the end of the day married. That is the life you chose, you must do what you must do to keep it. I understood this very young, hence why I never asked for it or got it. It says, being single is hard, but marriage is even harder. I wasn't about to make my life any harder than it already is. You never ask what you cannot be responsible for.

[JustAnj]

We dwell in what we allow.

I agree with the sexual sin issue, but that comes in many forms. You can't ignore everyone else who are damaged from the beginning.

If you want to set your views on this fine, if you want to continue to overlook fine. It's doesn't really matter.

I debate you so others do not get skewed with just one perspective of living people.

We could debate all day about this and I'm not trying to change your mind I'm trying to ensure you understand that it's not that simple.

So overall like I said I agree to disagree. ❤️

[btbc92]

@JustAnj And I already told you before. I am not debating with you. And I am free to pick and choose who is compatible with me and what type of person I desire. And I CAN if God didn't say for me to be with a person who has all those problems, to not be INVOLVED. And no, not everybody is damaged from the beginning. And even so, God can heal those who desired to be healed and delivered. We all need deliverance. I know what I can and cannot handle. And one thing I will not do is the date a man who had premarital sex and done many things that I have never done myself. It is my right and free will. You're the one that decided to take it however way you wanted to take it. I go by wisdom. Not man's words. But what is revelated to me by the father.

[btbc92]

"I debate you so others do not get skewed with just one perspective of living people." Be very careful what you say as to not give others false hope. A lot of men do not want to deal with a woman who has dealt with all of that. I'm telling you now. There are but few who can but that is usually those who aren't virgins themselves. It is not a joke. How a man perceives a relationship is not the same way we perceive that. Women are not to be sexually involved with another woman, but a man. Therefore, how a man may perceive her, and that is the man she desires, is very much going to play a role. Even in the word of God, it discusses this. Jesus has never done away with the law, the law is made perfect. He came to fulfill it.

[JustAnj]

And with that be at peace. ❤️

[btbc92]

@JustAnj I have peace. When are you going to find peace or else you wouldn't be debating with me? Figure that out for yourself. Because I am not going to have somebody like you disturb that peace.

[JustAnj]

Be at peace 🕊️

Ignore me and I'm sorry if I disturbed your peace, so be at peace. ❤️

[Anonymous]

"Men" in this generation are so weak and fragile. Although I've never cheated in my 20s, I'm not feeling any empathy for you whining losers. You guys ogle check out, and deliberately flirt with girls who aren't your girlfriends whenever they're not around. Justifying it because "you don't suddenly go blind because you're in a relationship". Having side chicks, lying about your relationship status to make girls consider dating or having sex with you. I've experienced all of this.

I'm not excusing or condoning women who cheat. However, you cry babies are utterly pathetic. You're not getting off that easy.

[Azura_88]

Hypocrisy at it's best.
So it's justified for a man to cheat in his 40's because his woman is not giving him sex.
Poor guy *sobs*.
Then it should also be justified for women to cheat because she wanna experience new cuties and some might be more compatible with her.
If you're also gonna cheat in your 40's then stop worrying about getting cheated on in your 20's. You can't have it both ways.

[15_Debo]

Cause they'r ignorant at that time
the more u do mistakes the more u improve
right?
and they are not stable and they jump from guy to guy
for young girls its like after 2 months of dating a guy she gets uninterested and cheats...
That my explanation...(don't take rudely)

[pink_and_inlove]

I don’t know why other women cheat but I’ve never cheated before and I know that this is not something that every young women does. Cheating is something really horrible to do and it could absolutely break a person I don’t know why someone would do something so messed up like that

[Nikkisadova]

Because we're sexual beings too... Sorry I have urges to hook up with someone else when you're not available. I wanna live my life!! Age isn't everything, there's plenty of women out there over 30 that cheat just as much as a teenager, JS.

[TwinkleLily5]

Not true, but reasons a woman may cheat-
Her partner is horrible at sex
She’s being ignored by him
She has mentally moved on from the relationship
She has poor morals/ slut

[dustybiker]

Respect, trust, communication. Relationships lacking these things will lead to temptation.
Men in their 40’s is probably classic simple wanting a younger model.

[cloudspy]

If this is true. Youth and beauty are on their side. More options. Maybe they are not married yet and have no kids.