Is having a partner who is financially "Well off" important to you?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Questions like this anger me because there's a fine line here and it's WHY a lot of you women get called gold diggers. If you ask a women she will generally answer "YES" and she will typically be labeled a gold diggers. But is she? Everyone regardless of gender wants financial security.
On paper I'm a millionaire (don't care whether you believe me or not). But I didn't get there by being frivolous or wasteful. And medical catastrophe like Cancer could send me back there
Whether a woman is financially well off isn't as important then she be a woman with a healthy respect for it's value. A woman who saves and invests is a 100 times more attractive to me then a woman who's wealthy.

dowser19 · Accepted Answer

I am SHOCKED (in a pleasant way) at the amount of ladies willingly admitting this. Guys respect that SO MUCH more. I mean, at my little college town job, we have 4 females, 3 of them under 25(the 4th is the boss and 45 and has a Thai lesbian lover). Of the 3 under 25, I had a sneaking suspicion. So I looked em up, just FB. 2 of them are high school dropouts, no college, no travel... BUT have recently had 50 year old Sugar Daddies. Photos up, statements with em, the whole bag. Of my girl and I... I meet the responsibilities. We're rising up, and she can do what she wants, but she's smart about it. I do the investing and thinking a few years ahead.

Prettygurl12 · Accepted Answer

It's more important that they be financially responsible than well off. Someone who is financially responsible has the potential to be well off in the future, while someone who is financially irresponsible can blow through their money and stop being well off at any time.

Someone who makes 40K and saves 5K is better than someone who makes 100K and spends 100K.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

No it's not.. That they work and can take care of themselves is all that matters. That and that they ain't looking for no sugar momma, or they'll have to look elsewhere lol

DizzyDesii · Answer

Its honestly scary. I've dated two guys up in the money and both were controlling and trying to buy my love. I rather date a broke dude on the comeup. Or u rather date someone whos not rich but stable enough to live comfortably. I take care of myself so i’d like to know they can do the same

Tiffany_Taylor_Made · Answer

Yes, having a financially well-off partner is extremely important for me. Whenever a woman enters a relationship with a man that earns a small amount of money, the likelihood of the man becoming financially dependent on the woman increases, putting a harsher financial burden on the woman. This causes the man to feel more like a son as opposed to a boyfriend or husband, which is, in my opinion, extremely unattractive. In addition, hostile arguments are more likely to occur if I refuse to allow him to mooch off me financially. Adults, especially adults within my age group, should possess the ability to support themselves and their families without leeching off other people or their partners. Considering that I earned my education, which enabled me to support myself as an adult, I expect any man that I date to have the ability to support himself in the same manner.

purplepoppy · Answer

I don't expect him to be rich but he should be able to afford the things most people take for granted.

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

No! Not at all! I have my own money! In fact, If I marry a man, who does NOT sign the pre-nup, I could loose my trust fund! So, income is not important! Ambition? That is very important! I want a guy who strives to better himself, and the world around him, every day. The kind of man, that may not have anything, yet… but give him a chance, he will! (And not just because he married the rich girl!)

ThoughtCatalog · Answer

Hello 🙂

Having a good financial situation is important, but this should not be a criterion for your partner. It doesn't matter how good or bad your financial situation is. If the couple truly loves each other, one side should continue to be together regardless of the financial strength of the other, so that they can still get through it together, even if the financial situation of one side is bad.

420Rachel · Answer

Nah not really. As long as we ain't living on the streets I'm good 😂 and I'm working on my education so I'm not worried about myself being broke. As long as my man has a steady job and is contributing to some degree that's all that matters to me. He definitely doesn't have to be rich.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes! And not because I would expect him to be a spendthrift but because I am well off, live a posh lifestyle, always have been blessed with the best and utterly grateful for that every single day.
I have dated men with not so much money too, because I felt it doesn’t matter. But it does, it really does, or else dude with lesser money would just want you to stoop down to his level or standard of living in every which way and then they start questioning your expenditures even though they aren’t contributing at all to any of it because they see it as a threat, also they tend to think, if she is settling for someone with lesser resources then she might as well learn to adjust in the long run, then they try to tame your habits according to their convenience and that’s where it all gets fucked up! I’d rather be down to adjust if ever the situation arises but never because of him.
I like my honey with moneyyy! 😶

hhadeshatesme · Answer

No. As long as he can support himself then I don’t care. I don’t want to be treated as an ATM nor would I want to treat him as one

KingofCups · Answer

Well sexual selection in our modern society has essentially boiled down to 'how much disposable income you have to buy bullshit status symbols'. Pretty much every rapper in the history of hip-hop who went from zero money to multi-millions will tell you money over bitches. It's sad that real indicators of sexual selection like physical fitness, confidence, a decent personality don't mean shit anymore.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

No as long as he is motivated to do better with his life and supportive of us to work hard and smart to reach the goal/purpose - financially, emotionally, sexually, etc..
so far… working out well with my ex husband and my now partner.
when I met my ex husband. He had $2k in his bank…now he doesn’t have to worry about retirement.
my now partner, he was workjng and prob getting minimum wage… now diff story…
I can help us become “well off”

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Nope not at all, even when I first got married it was not and now when I have cash it’s just not an issue.

That is not to say I would want someone just sitting at home 24/7 lol.

I expect people to be confident, independent and wanting to improve themselves both as a person but also career wise, live their dreams in regards to a chosen career.

tatianamay · Answer

Not really, the person should not be broke or in debt. At the same time, they should be hard-working. Even if they're in a low-paying job, why did they choose the job? I would not want to date an aimless slacker who is unemployed. As long as they are chasing their dreams and following their passions, I don't care.

Yes, I know that I'm 16, but I'm talking about when I grow up

Shizunk · Answer

No. I used to care a little bit. But as my income goes up and I get older, I think more about who is going to spend time with children. A career woman may not be willing. I specifically prefer a girl with a boring low paying job, who seriously thinks becoming a homemaker is an upgrade. I literally went from breaking up with a girl who couldn't help pay the rent to thinking paying the rent is optional for girls. How priorities change...

EmbraceThePain · Answer

“Well off” well, no, rather, “stable” or “sufficient.” Can she support herself adequately via her wage? How about if we marry, want to have children, buy a home, etc. These are things that we can accomplish comfortably without either one of us being rich or “well off.” We need to be earning enough to support the life we want to live and life we want to give our children. For clarification purposes, I’ve interpreted you writing “well off” similar to “rich.”

Is this how you meant it?

HighValue · Answer

Not at all. Her being compatible morally, having interests in common, compatible long term life goals, being the type to initiate affection, and a logical thinker are all much more important.
I just hope she doesn't have any college loan debt because I'm never paying that for anybody.

user1516 · Answer

Don’t care if he’s super rich or a millionaire as long as he has his diplomas , a good career and is financially stable enough to support himself and a family (if he were to marry me and start a family). And no I don’t mean maintaining me because I too am working towards a diploma and career.

fonduegirl · Answer

Of fucking course. Why wouldn't it be? For those of you saying no, the question says "financially secure" not "necessarily rich". Do you want your partner to live off on your income?

readyplayer001 · Answer

No, I work as a caregiver 6 days a week and just bought and paid off my first home ma'self. I don't ever need a man to financially take of me.

Aimée__LJ · Answer

Not really. I have my own money, as long as they are financially smart, stable or at least trying to be I couldn't care less about their money.

jshm2 · Answer

Don't be silly. Money is only a small part of the equation. You seriously think rich people can't have relationship/marital problems?

beebella · Answer

It's not that important, but if we're going to have children, then it would certainly help.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Well-off, no Financially astute and educated, absolutely  I make frankly very little for my work but at 23 have 6 months earnings saved and am owed money by most of my immediate family

Iknowbestgirls · Answer

Well money isn't everything, that being said they need to have a job or be working towards something and be able to take care of them selves. I don't want to have to be the only person working hard making the money taking care of someone else, that's not what I'm about.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I've been doing very well since I was young. I can easily support a lazy bum, an invalid or fully-handicapped partner but why should I? Fortunately, every guy, except for one lazy bum, I've attracted is also driven like I am.

Alyssa11 · Answer

Kinda. Like I don't want to be with a broke guy but with someone who's actually got something. I don't want to worry about our future finances as a couple, I want to be the wife who can depend on her husband when need be.

Diodoro · Answer

I'm pay to play when it comes to girls so it's irrelevant for me. Even if I make the kind of money she wants I won't drop money on a girl who isn't my woman. Her being well off could be a plus in that she won't be looking to me for mine but 💁‍♂️

TrueConfection · Answer

I voted yes. I don't need all the luxuries, but I don't want to struggle. I'd be just as content If we grow our own veggies and hunt food or live off the grid.

Anonymous · Answer

Not that super important. As long as she isn't a financial disaster or a leech, I'm good. At minimum she should be occupied or hustling for her financial situation or prospects, then I'm satisfied. Most women do that already, so I have no complaints.

It's simple. I don't want to be perceived as if I am a moneybag or an ATM on legs and so I don't look at women as if they are a moneybag or an ATM on legs or gold diggers.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@coachtanthony Having a partner who's financially well off isn't important to me. Having shared hobbies, compatible political views, and lifestyles are more important to me.

Iron_Man · Answer

It’s impossible what 20 year old girl is well off? I don’t date old women that can’t have kids

Browneye57 · Answer

A woman would have to be a complete fool to take up with a guy that had no way to support himself, let alone her and the 84 children she wanted to have with him, in the lifestyle to which she is accustomed.

marykay76 · Answer

For broke poor women who can't feed themselves, its VERY important. For educated women with decent steady careers , its NOT VERY important. But it doesn't mean they will go for a man who makes minimum wage and still lives with his mother in her basement at the age of 40.

Subarugirl · Answer

Having a partner who is financially responsible is wayyy more important.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

If affording rent / mortgage, their share of groceries, some savings, to take care of the family (when it happens) and having some fun money left over is considered well off then yes.

exitseven · Answer

I do not know what it means to be "well off." I guess it they have a lot of bad debt, that would be a real red flag to me. It would show bad impulse control and the inability to handle money.

Joshua0213 · Answer

Nah as long as they have a job and actually try i dont care how much they make

ChefPapiChulo · Answer

no. intelligence is more important. I couldn't be with someone stupid.

Anonymous · Answer

Nah! But being financially responsible is very important to me

crazysassypaws21 · Answer

nope that take away all the fun of make a kingdom with ur love i like it old school where u both make each other into the king and queen bee u believe is there with in each other

Pink2000 · Answer

Yes it is. I’m very thankful my partner is well off because I am not…

Jayplays900 · Answer

Couldn't care less. As long as she actually loves me, then I couldn't care about her economics. My standards are not even close to high when it comes to Money.

I'll make the money if she wants, as long as she's happy and not a gold digger.

Anonymous · Answer

No, it’s more about commitment and connection I’m not looking for a person who can take me to a fancy restaurants, I’m looking for the type of person who will stay for the funerals

FunkyMonkee · Answer

It would certainly help and be a plus but, I'm not a money-based person so, even if she was filthy rich, it wouldn't really matter to me.

dreamstar72 · Answer

What’s more important is the true love you have for each other. Lots of money does NOT buy true happiness.

Flower7 · Answer

No, it's not. It would be a bonus, of course, but definitely not a requirement.

genericname85 · Answer

no. i'd just prefer them to not financially depend on me. at least not at first. maybe if we decide to have a family, that would be a different story.

humanearth · Answer

We're family farmers, we have to be broke. Its in the family farmers bi-law rule book.

Justneedtokno · Answer

I think financially stable or at least working on their debt

qwert1234 · Answer

Not really well off, but she better be making ok money as well.

Anonymous · Answer

One of the great things about being a woman in the modern era is that we don't have to worry about our husband's financial status when marrying.

crazy8000 · Answer

As long she can provide for herself and what fallow the package and a place to live I couldn't care less.

Juxtapose · Answer

Just don't make me support you like a kid & we're good. I give 0 fucks about petty, socio-economic statuses.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I can't date broke chicks. She need to make at least 75% of what I make. I plan on having kids in 2 -4years so its important.

WowwGirl · Answer

No just do your part.

Quigly · Answer

Why should women earn higher incomes and take jobs if they are unwilling to support families including a man if he is less fortunate?

EQisKEY · Answer

I enjoyed a sugar mama relationship for a long time, she admitted the money is nothing if you can't share it with an equal intellect.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No; I don't care about that. She just has to make wise decisions and not be dumb.

sexscientist · Answer

Since “mo money mo problems” is true, I believe that financially well off defines as; someone with little money. What is your definition of work?

BrownBratzDoll · Answer

yea I have champagne taste

NathanDavis · Answer

money does not dictate my life

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