That's a great way to make yourself undateable to decent and successful guys for the rest of your life. I make money and I'd never date a girl who ever engaged in this kind of behavior even once. I will not be used and abused for my money.
On the other hand I do believe a man should provide for a woman in a serious relationship. So I don't know why you want to be in a sugar lifestyle when you could just have a real relationship with a successful man.
I'm not referring to myself. I'm curious how men distinguish providing from sugaring as they can be almost the same - depends on how the people in the relationship view and agree on. A lot men do not want to provide for their partners at all due to not wanting "to be used".
The difference is 1. Attitude and 2. Benefits in return
1. Sugar is entitlement, you deserve the money. A real relationship you deserve love and money just is what it is. Think marriage vow for richer or poorer.
2. Sugar is the girl who eat bon bons and watches tv and only takes breaks to brunch and get her nails done. Relationship the woman is supposed to provide in return for financial benefits, cook clean kids etc.
Why do you cut those things off - what if the woman meets your needs (whatever they may be for you) as most women (or at least me) want to contribute to a relationship.
Strangely I've had multiple women tell me im intimidating because i make so much money. I don't know how thats intimidating but I don't know if women like rich guys anymore.
I can say for myself, money is a tool for a comfortable life (nothing more, nothing less) and if a "rich" guy wants to make the relationship "money stress-free" cool, i mean that's the purpose of having money right - to live a comfortable life and be happy with the people you love. Although being not that wealthy doesn't mean you can't enjoy a relationship or your life - it's all about how you want to live your life.
Yeah i mean i dont work much and have lots of hobbies but barely any girls want to live a life like that. Most are really worried about having a career even if its going nowhere.
I had a gentleman in the comments saying that financially supporting a partner is equivalent to as prostitution. Could you explain why this is not the case when taking care of your partner financially?
He must be a shallow and how is he equating with prostitution i dont understand, i wouldn't ask a girl's income before dating her or marrying her for me love is more important than money, what if i have children with her in future and ask her to pay equally for their expenses i wouldn't anything like that, by god's i more than i can spend and i can support my partner my enitre life
@Bhavy24 "I wouldn't ask a girls income before dating her or marrying her, for me love is more important than money." I agree with this statement. Yet many women disagree with that statement and think that asking a mans income before marrying him is okay, for many women if you can't support them, they will leave you. Therefore many women care more about money when compared with love.
"What if she has high paying job and she looses it after marrying that guy, will he leave her?" Funny you would say that, because many women would do exactly that, if their husband loses his well paying job then its divorce. Which is why financial issues is often listed as one of the top reasons why people get divorced.
In these cases where men are married to a woman who just uses him, it is like prostitution because she expects access to his money in return for her providing him with services like sex, a clean house, someone to raise his children, etc.
If the love is mutually shared I see no issue with it. It can be EXTREMELY difficult to discern if the love is mutual after the financial support begins though. Even in terms of sugaring someone as long as the two know whats up I don't care what someone else chose to do with their own money.
My partner supports me. But we have 2 kids the youngest being only 4 months. Once both my kids are in school I'll get a job around there school hours. Until then I look after our kids and do the house work.
I think it depends on my gf's attitude towards it. If I have a really well paying job and capable of comfortably supporting us both I might because I want to do it for her, should it present opportunity for her to do something she otherwise could not do.
Otherwise, I don't tolerate freeriders. If she's just a lazy layabout which *forces* me to support her, no way.
The younger guys today just dont think they should help support their women. Just like some of the women say I won't help a freeloader wow. If you love someone enough you will help them. I like wgen my woman works to but she would never have to work all the time. My dad taught me how to provide for family. If I have to take another job I know I can do it.
Why don't you think like the younger men as they say a woman can't contribute to a relationship as they if they bring chivalry in? How do you think a woman contributes?
Women can do many things besides provide money or hold a chair for me. I think women can contribute by helping around the house or go to college and earn a degree, She can be thoughtful and have dinner ready. Just as long as we have good chemistry and can enjoy one anothers compsny its good enough for me.
I've heard way too many horror stories from guys who put their wives/girlfriends through college only to have them cheat on them later, or guys who agree to become househusbands and then the wives are screwing around behind their back.
Fuck that. If you help a woman out, she just thinks that you're a weak beta cuck. I guess they only want to be bent over and rutted and then tossed aside like the trash they are. That's what gets them off.
It's nothing for me. I'm earning good money and saving a lot. I will always be able to support myself. And financial independence is very important to me and I expect that from my partner as well.
Having financial support from your partner doesn't mean you are financially dependent on him. I'm more referring as he would take care of you and make sure you are happy, stress-free and all your needs are met - even if you can financially support yourself and do all those. How would you want a man to provide for you, if you cut money out of the picture from his side? (this is not sarcastic, I'm asking seriously to see more clearly your view)
I would do it only when our relationship is so close that we are going to marry sooner or later. Otherwise I would be willing to help her financially only if she needs it for her education, healthcare or her parents are in need of it.
oh no you look amazing but i spend a lot of time in bulgaria and very rarely seen any woman that looks like you... i mean most are pretty but usually black hair and not so much cleavage
it wasn't the sizebut the fact you are showing more flesh than most bulgarian women tend to do... i like small boobs by the way and to be fair i do spend most my time in bulgaria in a rural village or small nearby town. where are you from?
I think it's dumb. If someone wants to, then I guess, but there's a good chance that person is being used. If you want free stuff that bad then just spam instagram and get a sponsor
Why do you think financially supporting your partner is a way of you being "used"? Don't you want to support your loved one and to take care of him/her if she/he needs your help?
That's a nice way to think of it but all I ever see from my friends' experiences and my own is that people like to abuse that kindness. Also I know it encourages the idea that I'm somehow supposed to do more in a relationship because I have a dick. I know you meant for the question to be inclusive for both genders but in reality you see way more men doing the sugaring. My coworker was complaining about a guy she was seeing not spending money on her... It's stuff like that that ruins it for me.
I understand your view. I've seen both men and women abuse all sorts of kind gestures like that. However, it is up to you to determine is yours partner is someone you want to "spend money on" - if someone is obviously taking advantage of you, you should stop seeing that person. But if they are not, why not financially support especially if you can afford taking care of someone else besides yourself?
Theoretical answer: I believe in equal opportunity. I dont want my girlfriend's quality of life to go up simply because she's dating me. Just because I make a lot of money doesn't mean she does as well. She should still only borrow in necessity.
Personal answer: I actually don't care personally if she isn't using me for it, but I learned something from girls. Why give something for free when I can get something in return. So yeah unless she's a sex goddess and becomes my fan, then I probably won't do it.
In some cultures, it's still common to buy a wife from her parents. So if you own her, then yes, you should support her financially. Otherwise.. get a job bi!!!
This has nothing to do with having a job. Please be respectful. My question is related only within the relationship. Please assume that both partners are financially independent!
There is a big difference between helping out and supporting someone financially. Helping out is normal whereas funding someone else's lifestyle is not.
@sakummu there is a difference between buying your friend some toilet paper, and wiping their ass for them everytime they take a shit. The difference is in the magnitude, supporting a lifestyle means so much more than just giving a helping hand. It is a longer commitment and it requires much more effort and perseverance. It is a responsibility to take care of someone, if you decide to stop supporting them then you look like an asshole.
I'd be on my knees, thanking and crying because I'm poor right now. I would not be as other people though, to waste money on worthless things. I'd still try to repay them as good as I can.
It's ok if, for an example, you marry a traditional woman and she does the house work while you are out there earning money, then it is your responsibility as a man to provide her with the money she needs. However if you are talking about gold diggers then it literally IS a form of prostitution.
We are also not talking about someone taking advantage over you. I'm referring to willing supporting some you love and you wanting to take care of your partner.
People don't throw money at a partner out of love. That's something you do for your child. Trust me the reasons a grown person just pays for another grown persons expenses for living a lavish lifestyle are much more shallow.
I will have to disagree there with you. Taking care of your partner and financially to me is not something "shallow". It's good that you want to support your child, but why leave out the other parent of that child out? If you think money is more important than your love ones, money will be your top priority in life as you are focusing on that. Of course money are important, but they are a tool for a comfortable life - nothing more. It's about if your partner is loyal and true to you - if you have picked the right type of person, who will not take advantage of your kindness towards them, why not help out? Especially if you have the means to do it.
Sakummu based off your comments it sounds like you believe just men should support their partners financially and that men should have a morale obligation to do so, am I right?
Well if you're living together then you have to care for them and support them and that also includes financial support. You can't be like "no, this is my money"
Yeah, i also agree that when in a relationship both partners should help each other out in the ways they can. You are pretty young, 18 right? How come you've come to this thinking as a lot of men feel they are being "used" and "loved for their money" when they help out financially?
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