Like would you prefer your wife to be a housewife and take care of the home, children and surprises you when you come back from work or to have a job and work like a man?
Hmm, it seems there's a misunderstanding here. That's not what a submissive woman is. A submissive woman can definitely work and be equal in a relationship.
Being a submissive woman can also be trying to make an effort in a relationship to assist her husband in his dreams and goals, and thus contribute to a household in one way.
Think about soccer, there are forwards and defenders, both are extremely important sides of a team and crucial to score a win. Just because defenders tend to have different roles doesn't mean they're not as important, on the contrary, without a good defence, it's more difficult for a team to win.
Basically, being submissive isn't even about staying at home to keep the house or mindlessly obeying orders. Being submissive is to trust your husband with what he's doing, to help him achieve his goals along the way and to do what you have to do on your side.
Don't forwards come back when it's time to defend? And don't defenders go upwards to assist the attack when the team has the ball? That's the way things should be in a relationship as well.
So, coming back to your original question, do men prefer to marry submissive woman? Of course we do, it's not only attractive but it's also a display of love when someone is doing whatever they can to assist you in your dreams and goals
A lot of men don't want to get married or have children today, so set those men aside. Of the men who DO want to get married, most of them want children, and most would prefer a traditional, submissive wife who is a housewife while their children are young. That doesn't mean she can't have a side business out of the home, and it doesn't mean that she can't have a full-time career (or a part-time career if she chooses) once the youngest kid is in elementary school 7 hours a day. If a woman had 3 kids starting at, say, 27, she could easily be 35 when the youngest is in school full time, and that still leaves 30 years for a career before retirement - it's not like the ability to work goes away.
Are there exceptions to this rule? Sure. Are there guys who want to be married but don't want kids? Of course, and those guys have far less need of a housewife. But this system has worked for hundreds - probably thousands of years, for good reason.
I am pretty sure that's not what I think of when someone says they are submissive in a relationship. Homemaker and submissive are not the same thing. Just like Dominant doesn't mean a man who works and puts food on the table. My husband works and I stay at home with the kids, cause we decided so. He still helps with the dishes cleaning, and other house chores cause we see parenting as an important job as well. I am not a homemaker type as I like to work but I can do it for the kids and then go into family business. Submissive and Dominant is what goes well with sex life, not the personality and expectations. Where did you hear that? /:
Homemaker is not equal submissive. Like not at all. But yes. I prefer submissive and also a homemaker. I am open to a woman going to work and us both keeping partial flexible schedule to alternate watching the children. But if she never wants to get a job after the first child, that is best. Social contacts are best kept up if she helps organize activities in the community around us. And of course her not having a job still means she has access to all of my income with no exception and an equal right to spend some or all of it. We are both taking risks, there can be no holding back in that situation.
Women often complain men are not willimg to fully commit for fear of financial consequences. Oh really? You better be ready to make a commitment too. Financial consequences and all.
The foundation of a happy successful family that’s why the western governments have made this sexiest to cause segregation and I’ve course to remove the dad from the family look at all the single miserable women over age of 30 now.
A man’s heart is through his stomach when a girl cooks for him he naturally loves her more. When she doesn’t nag him and cleans for him, and washes his stuff and doesn’t want anything.
The guy will be willing to do more.
But forget it! Women are married to Tiktok. And men are going MGTOW. Soon sex Japanese robots will be so Advanced that men will completely ignore women.
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Honestly couldn’t agree more with you, many don’t understand unfortunately
She could work at first, then stop when having kids until they are school age, then she could work again if she wants. When at home when the children are too young for school she could take online college classes. Even if she didn't want to go back to work, I'd like her to be trained in something so she wouldn't be totally helpless if I was temporarily unable to work at some point, or if something ever happened to me. Accidents do happen, so it is better to be prepared.
I used to want them to work for sure, but the way society is now, I'd like her to be more involved in our kids' education and make sure they aren't being corrupted by some of the immoral teachers.
I think it depends on the person. I think I'm flaxible to a range of relationship dynamics. But generally speaking, I lean more towards liking a woman who is psychologically strong and that can be a partner in life for me but sexually submissive.
I don't mind supporting my partner but if I constantly have to be her therapist it's exhausting and makes me feel like I'm dealing with an immature or oversensitive human.
I don't mind letting a woman take control in bed sometimes but I'm much more of a Dom than a Sub. Something about a woman submitting herself to me sexually in response to my aggression is really hot.
Yes, if you look at the cultures such as India, China, Middle East, etc. a submissive wife isn't even an option, it's a must, it's the most basic thing, without which a woman cannot get married. They have their society mapped out, leadership is held by the men with the women following.
If she wanted to work and pulled enough money to make it worth it after deducting child care or I she made enough to support the family and made more than me then I’d stay home with the kids as long as she works like a WOMAN not like a man and was submissive in the bedroom I’d be cool with however it worked out. As a matter of fact I held it down at home for a few weeks on 2 different occasions and did better job then my wife did and she’d say so herself. I’m just a little better at being organized and just because you’re taking care of the house and kids doesn’t mean you’re submissive
a balance of both. most of that submissiveness is for the bedroom (sexual acts) but with this day and age, most likely will have times her income may keep us from being behind on bills. then there is the fact of helping her survive if something awful happens to me so that she is not left screwed over because she was overly dependant on me and i died or got severely hurt and could no longer bring in income. which saddly happens a little bit more often than a lot of people realize. that way you sort of hedge your bet on each other.
No , Id much prefer a woman with an active career , to expect what is written here by some is utter condescending to women quite frankly , if someone really wants some robot ideal where she cooks and cleans , bakes scons , seriously GET A MAID AND A CLEANER ! Those days are gone , long gone , the female should be independent , driven , not just relying on some bloke to hold her as a kept woman. Till , he wants a new model. The relationship should be equal , and if she's the doctor / lawyer whatever , business owner , he should do all HE can to support , especially where children are involved.
Thats always been within my household my mom had her career and so did my stepdad. We had a maid come in because they both were tired and I complained they weren’t helping me clean. It’s not that big of a deal people always said it was a lazy move🙄 only reason she cooked all the time was because she enjoyed it.
@lovedejj_xo Its fair enough , sht I have a maid ( not live in ) and really , I have all the time in the world. You mother worked hard and she was ( at least ) an equal , this idea of just running around after men and children , thats just pure disrespect , loss of identity. I have two daughters , I dont want them to have to do that , independence , freedom , not stuck in a house.
Submissive in bed on important decisions in the direction we take our family in. But she's not silenced and her opinion IS valued to me. I hate the idea of "seen but not heard" I fucking HATE that. She's the most important person in my while life. I would love to know what she thinks, what bothers her, her wants and needs and I am happy to accommodate unless they are unreasonable. I like giving more than receiving but that's something I enjoy. She can work or clean idc either way as long as she doesn't try to one up me at every point in the relationship and finds a way to bite her pride and emotions when it's really the right choices to be made.
No I value a woman that had no problem speaking her mind. In my 1st marriage I came tried the old fashion way where the man works and the woman stayed home and took care of the house and kids. I went into the military got deployed overseas and came home to the end of a seven year marriage as she found a new guy.
I would love to be able to enable my partner to focus on the most important parts of life which are home and hearth. My job is to bring her financial peace of mind, hers is to bring peace to the home. It is an equal partnership with no one dominating over the other.
Depends on where. Me personally…. I prefer a women who is submissive to an extent that she doesn't come off as a man, but who is dominant enough to be a equal partner and take some pressure off of me to provide for our family but not so much that she is in charge,…. Unless its a kinky sex session
Yes we prefer a woman that supports us and the family. We don't want another man in our relationship, if we did we would be gay because men are better at it.
I'd like my future wife to be a housewife yes when we have kids/babies running around because I'm not going to have a stranger looking after/raising my kids. But I wouldn't care if she was working before kids came into the picture or after they were grown and out of the house or old enough to be on their own.
But I don't think a housewife is required to be submissive or even needs to be. All kinds of women both dominate and submissive like to be housewives. So *shrugs*
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Well I don't find heartwarming an attitude of entitled drama queen who want to compete with me because of some perceived long gone era of oppression. If that's what you mean. But warm and loving, she can work or not. And if we both do work, we'll afford the nice holidays, furniture and what ever else takes our fancy. If she doesn't, I'll presumably have something nice to come home to.
If a woman is going to do housework at my home, she is more than capable of different jobs because I have a lot of stuff in my home. If I was going out with her, we would do what we can to get intimate. The Daoists do have a saying about "adhering to the submissive" and sex is a definite part of that.
I clearly don't want a dom, we wouldn't get along very well, to say the least. But a submissive woman? I don't know, this sounds like "servant" to me, and I don't like the idea. What you describe is just a housewife, no necessarily submissive.
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