Do men prefer submissive women to marry?

Question

Like would you prefer your wife to be a housewife and take care of the home, children and surprises you when you come back from work or to have a job and work like a man?

Browneye57 · Accepted Answer

Yes, of course. It's even in the bible.  But you have to CHOOSE a man that is worthy. That is the key.  Having a husband isn't really the same as having a cat, or a dog.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes, that’s how all women should be.

AverageGuy9037 · Answer

Hmm, it seems there's a misunderstanding here. That's not what a submissive woman is. A submissive woman can definitely work and be equal in a relationship.

Being a submissive woman can also be trying to make an effort in a relationship to assist her husband in his dreams and goals, and thus contribute to a household in one way.

Think about soccer, there are forwards and defenders, both are extremely important sides of a team and crucial to score a win. Just because defenders tend to have different roles doesn't mean they're not as important, on the contrary, without a good defence, it's more difficult for a team to win.

Basically, being submissive isn't even about staying at home to keep the house or mindlessly obeying orders. Being submissive is to trust your husband with what he's doing, to help him achieve his goals along the way and to do what you have to do on your side.

Don't forwards come back when it's time to defend? And don't defenders go upwards to assist the attack when the team has the ball? That's the way things should be in a relationship as well.

So, coming back to your original question, do men prefer to marry submissive woman? Of course we do, it's not only attractive but it's also a display of love when someone is doing whatever they can to assist you in your dreams and goals

MrOracle · Answer

A lot of men don't want to get married or have children today, so set those men aside. Of the men who DO want to get married, most of them want children, and most would prefer a traditional, submissive wife who is a housewife while their children are young. That doesn't mean she can't have a side business out of the home, and it doesn't mean that she can't have a full-time career (or a part-time career if she chooses) once the youngest kid is in elementary school 7 hours a day. If a woman had 3 kids starting at, say, 27, she could easily be 35 when the youngest is in school full time, and that still leaves 30 years for a career before retirement - it's not like the ability to work goes away.

Are there exceptions to this rule? Sure. Are there guys who want to be married but don't want kids? Of course, and those guys have far less need of a housewife. But this system has worked for hundreds - probably thousands of years, for good reason.

Secretstayathome · Answer

I am pretty sure that's not what I think of when someone says they are submissive in a relationship.
Homemaker and submissive are not the same thing.
Just like Dominant doesn't mean a man who works and puts food on the table.
My husband works and I stay at home with the kids, cause we decided so. He still helps with the dishes cleaning, and other house chores cause we see parenting as an important job as well.
I am not a homemaker type as I like to work but I can do it for the kids and then go into family business.
Submissive and Dominant is what goes well with sex life, not the personality and expectations. Where did you hear that? /:

m33lad · Answer

The foundation of a happy successful family that’s why the western governments have made this sexiest to cause segregation and I’ve course to remove the dad from the family look at all the single miserable women over age of 30 now.

A man’s heart is through his stomach when a girl cooks for him he naturally loves her more.
When she doesn’t nag him and cleans for him, and washes his stuff and doesn’t want anything.

The guy will be willing to do more.

But forget it! Women are married to Tiktok.
And men are going MGTOW.
Soon sex Japanese robots will be so Advanced that men will completely ignore women.

Shizunk · Answer

Homemaker is not equal submissive. Like not at all. But yes. I prefer submissive and also a homemaker. I am open to a woman going to work and us both keeping partial flexible schedule to alternate watching the children. But if she never wants to get a job after the first child, that is best. Social contacts are best kept up if she helps organize activities in the community around us. And of course her not having a job still means she has access to all of my income with no exception and an equal right to spend some or all of it. We are both taking risks, there can be no holding back in that situation.

HighValue · Answer

She could work at first, then stop when having kids until they are school age, then she could work again if she wants. When at home when the children are too young for school she could take online college classes. Even if she didn't want to go back to work, I'd like her to be trained in something so she wouldn't be totally helpless if I was temporarily unable to work at some point, or if something ever happened to me. Accidents do happen, so it is better to be prepared.

I used to want them to work for sure, but the way society is now, I'd like her to be more involved in our kids' education and make sure they aren't being corrupted by some of the immoral teachers.

224466881010 · Answer

I think it depends on the person. I think I'm flaxible to a range of relationship dynamics. But generally speaking, I lean more towards liking a woman who is psychologically strong and that can be a partner in life for me but sexually submissive.

I don't mind supporting my partner but if I constantly have to be her therapist it's exhausting and makes me feel like I'm dealing with an immature or oversensitive human.

I don't mind letting a woman take control in bed sometimes but I'm much more of a Dom than a Sub. Something about a woman submitting herself to me sexually in response to my aggression is really hot.

Kaamraj · Answer

Yes, if you look at the cultures such as India, China, Middle East, etc. a submissive wife isn't even an option, it's a must, it's the most basic thing, without which a woman cannot get married. They have their society mapped out, leadership is held by the men with the women following.

humpbackjack · Answer

If she wanted to work and pulled enough money to make it worth it after deducting child care or I she made enough to support the family and made more than me then I’d stay home with the kids as long as she works like a WOMAN not like a man and was submissive in the bedroom I’d be cool with however it worked out. As a matter of fact I held it down at home for a few weeks on 2 different occasions and did better job then my wife did and she’d say so herself. I’m just a little better at being organized and just because you’re taking care of the house and kids doesn’t mean you’re submissive

magiusX26 · Answer

a balance of both. most of that submissiveness is for the bedroom (sexual acts) but with this day and age, most likely will have times her income may keep us from being behind on bills. then there is the fact of helping her survive if something awful happens to me so that she is not left screwed over because she was overly dependant on me and i died or got severely hurt and could no longer bring in income. which saddly happens a little bit more often than a lot of people realize. that way you sort of hedge your bet on each other.

molonski2 · Answer

No , Id much prefer a woman with an active career , to expect what is written here by some is utter condescending to women quite frankly , if someone really wants some robot ideal where she cooks and cleans , bakes scons , seriously GET A MAID AND A CLEANER ! Those days are gone , long gone , the female should be independent , driven , not just relying on some bloke to hold her as a kept woman.
Till , he wants a new model. The relationship should be equal , and if she's the doctor / lawyer whatever , business owner , he should do all HE can to support , especially where children are involved.

t-8900 · Answer

Submissive in bed on important decisions in the direction we take our family in. But she's not silenced and her opinion IS valued to me. I hate the idea of "seen but not heard" I fucking HATE that. She's the most important person in my while life. I would love to know what she thinks, what bothers her, her wants and needs and I am happy to accommodate unless they are unreasonable. I like giving more than receiving but that's something I enjoy. She can work or clean idc either way as long as she doesn't try to one up me at every point in the relationship and finds a way to bite her pride and emotions when it's really the right choices to be made.

Retiever · Answer

No I value a woman that had no problem speaking her mind. In my 1st marriage I came tried the old fashion way where the man works and the woman stayed home and took care of the house and kids. I went into the military got deployed overseas and came home to the end of a seven year marriage as she found a new guy.

b5fan · Answer

I would love to be able to enable my partner to focus on the most important parts of life which are home and hearth. My job is to bring her financial peace of mind, hers is to bring peace to the home. It is an equal partnership with no one dominating over the other.

Petermorgan34 · Answer

Depends on where. Me personally…. I prefer a women who is submissive to an extent that she doesn't come off as a man, but who is dominant enough to be a equal partner and take some pressure off of me to provide for our family but not so much that she is in charge,…. Unless its a kinky sex session

Adam1978 · Answer

Yes we prefer a woman that supports us and the family. We don't want another man in our relationship, if we did we would be gay because men are better at it.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I'd like my future wife to be a housewife yes when we have kids/babies running around because I'm not going to have a stranger looking after/raising my kids. But I wouldn't care if she was working before kids came into the picture or after they were grown and out of the house or old enough to be on their own.

But I don't think a housewife is required to be submissive or even needs to be. All kinds of women both dominate and submissive like to be housewives. So *shrugs*

SenseiSeptred · Answer

If a woman is going to do housework at my home, she is more than capable of different jobs because I have a lot of stuff in my home. If I was going out with her, we would do what we can to get intimate. The Daoists do have a saying about "adhering to the submissive" and sex is a definite part of that.

Guanfei · Answer

I clearly don't want a dom, we wouldn't get along very well, to say the least.
But a submissive woman? I don't know, this sounds like "servant" to me, and I don't like the idea.
What you describe is just a housewife, no necessarily submissive.

Anonymous · Answer

Well I don't find heartwarming an attitude of entitled drama queen who want to compete with me because of some perceived long gone era of oppression.
If that's what you mean.
But warm and loving, she can work or not. And if we both do work, we'll afford the nice holidays, furniture and what ever else takes our fancy.
If she doesn't, I'll presumably have something nice to come home to.

fjh80 · Answer

It only works if that’s how she is naturally.

If you have to convince her, then it will create something toxic.

So, short answer is yes. If that’s the type of woman she is.
By that same token, as a man you better do your part.

qupid911 · Answer

Willing to be submissive in bed but I wouldn’t want to rely on my husband 24/7 because something could happen and we’d be fucked. Both of us should have our own job, separate bank accounts, maybe one joint account so we can plan stuff together and take turns with chores. No relationship will ever be 50/50 like some people think.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

You really can’t generalize. Some do. Others don’t.

Ninaface · Answer

I think its the best situations, but society has hardwired a lot of the millennials and gen z to think they wouldn't be happy with that.

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

Look.. I'm a control freak. Just what it is. If she's not the submissive with me, we're not even making it past the dating phase.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on the man. But the men who women consider high value men (i. e., confident, competent, successful men) almost always prefer submissive women. There is no room in a monogamous relationship for two dominant personalities. That has always been true and always will be, despite how hard some women try to change the facts of human nature.

Azura_88 · Answer

But those submissive women get cheated on because her husband finds dominating women attractive. But I prefer a submissive man to balance my energy. I'll provide and he can take care of home.
It's my personal observation and experience.
A married man legit told me he unwillingly married a submissive woman because he only needed 'someone to take care of his family but he was attracted to dominant women.'

Anonymous · Answer

Why is a traditional housewife "submissive"? You can uphold tradition without being submissive. I married an Arab girl who sees me as the main provider/breadwinner but she isn't a submissive housewife. She speaks her mind, tells me when she doesn't want to do something, and has a life. Yet at the same time, she cooks, cleans, surprises me when I come home, et cetera.

Wester1967 · Answer

People lose their minds and think this is some BDSM entry level BS. It just means she’s on the same program as you and in your lane. We know half y’all’s minds are in the BDSM gutter anyways. Get over it already.

SunnySensei · Answer

If it is her own choice to be a housewife then I think I will be fine Miss, but the decision should be hers.
But, if you ask about preference I would love a girl to whom I can reach home to after long day at work.

Slayerrrrrrr · Answer

Not too submissive, I like a woman who challenges me at times while always maintaining respect as I will towards her. One thing I will say is that it seems to come off negative, especially in this day and age. I believe kids should spend more time with momma for the first few years. Theyre just great nurturers that a man could not equal. But just as she submits to me I should submit to her as well. I believe a lot of us need a second opinion.

Alyssa11 · Answer

I really think it depends on the guy. A lot of guys I’ve dated/talked to told me they liked me because of my attitude lol. So I’m not sure here.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

A lot of career woman can be more outspoken within the workplace but would prefer not to have to do that within a relationship …
I have a career and I have to be outspoken and speak up within my field unless I want to lose my licensure. I enjoy my career and any man telling me to forget what I worked hard for wouldn’t be the one for me. To each it’s own….

007kingifrit · Answer

yea a housewife sounds very nice. i mean if she got bored id be fine with her getting a job if the kids were old enough or it was part time but in general yea i think its true

abc3643 · Answer

I didn't. A man wants a partner and submissive women may make things easier because there is less arguing about what to do, but I want a partner to get through the challenges in life.

Anonymous · Answer

I prefer a woman that is true to herself and lives her life the way she sees fit.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

No, I want an equal partner.

Anonymous · Answer

No I would prefer she has her own thoughts and opinions and career. We can both take turns cooking. or cook together. As it's both our home we should have equal responsibility for cleaning. I don't want kids so thats not a concern. I hate the backwards stereotype. If a woman chooses or a man chooses to be a househusband/wife then fair enough. I just hate the expectations and crap like that.

Yuuibtony · Answer

Uhm u suppose to be submissive towards a man it mandatory

Anonymous · Answer

I prefer the housewife; however, if she has a better job, I wouldn't mind being a househusband.

Neilbud · Answer

I wouldn't say submissive. I do have a think for sweethearts. They can be sweet and still be strong and independent.

Joeshamo · Answer

No, I like me a challenge. I like her being bitchy and always putting pressure on me. That’s what helps me stay on top of game and not start slacking off.

standardguy · Answer

A woman who cares about the house and the kids has nothing to do with submission. It's just sharing of duties between the two sexes. Both duties are the same important.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

"work like a man"? Wow. Thanks for reminding the clock back 100 years for everyone.

SuperMike100 · Answer

As lovely as a housewife sounds, I’m not sure how viable it would be (at least in the beginning) since the area I want to live in is quite expensive and could require us both to have jobs.

Anonymous · Answer

My perfect woman is submissive to me but not a doormat. She is smart and well educated but stays home to take care of the children and home, then goes back to work to continue her career once the kids are old enough.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I prefer unpredictability. It gets monotonous being in a relationship with a doormat.

Mangospacho · Answer

We just want someone who will complement our weaknesses.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Yes. Seems obvious a man wants a wifely woman to be is wife. Smh.

Anonymous · Answer

yes we very prefer it. it's nice not having to play guessing games.

Anonymous · Answer

Men prefer any women available

Anonymous · Answer

If he is traditional, he probably preferes to marry a submissive traditional woman. So some men prefere traditional submissive women

PoliteSpeaker · Answer

Your question and description don't match. Submissive doesn't mean you can't have a career.

Anonymous · Answer

She doesn't have to be submissive but if she is a feminist then she will probably die in her sleep one night

Lisa_97 · Answer

I believe most of them do... i love dominant men ;)

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I don't want kids, I can clean up after myself, and I hate surprises (outside of video games).

Anonymous · Answer

It's my wife's duty to raise the children, take care of herself so she looks amazing, and be there for me when I get home from a day's work, providing for our family !!!

Pogi-Paddy-2 · Answer

I am not from the school of thought that likes a submissive woman, I prefer a strong and confident woman.

smallandtiny · Answer

It's every man's dream to have a women like that

Iron_Man · Answer

Only in bed submissive

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