Women, what do you think men want and need in a relationship?

[aquamarine321]

[Anonymous]

I think men want/need attention and affection. It’s a way to boost self confidence in them too (i’ve noticed).
I’ve asked a lot of guys what their love language is and what they want/need in a relationship. Their simple answer was support, attention, and affection.


I’ve noticed that a lot (not all) mens love language is either; physical touch, words of affirmation, and quality time. A lot of men like the physical affection in a relationship (hugs, kisses, cuddles, sex). Same with words of affirmation, they like to be respected, reassured, and appreciated too. Quality time goes into the attention part. A lot of men also like the undivided attention from their partner, it makes them feel valued and special.

[Opinion Owner]

Men— correct me if I’m wrong. Lol.

[aquamarine321]

You’re correct but I don’t see anything funny here, you take men needs and wants as a joke

[Opinion Owner]

How so? What did I find funny?

[jennifer_bloom]

I know guys like honesty, loyalty, kindness and joy. Also affection and a willingness to sacrifice.

[Aerissa_Jade]

The magic question, it is different from everyone and stage of relationships.

First meet and dating, they give a lot of attention to me, then later they close off and don't seem interested so no clue what they really want or if they are just used to having me around.

If I really understood this, maybe I'd be married by now.

[aquamarine321]

@Aerissa_Jade OR you could simply ask your guy what he wants, because women are always making demands of what they want from guys but never take the time out to ask what a guy wants, maybe he realizes you aren’t what he wants in a woman

[Aerissa_Jade]

I ask all the time, but I don't aways get a straight answer.

[aquamarine321]

Most be a reason why he doesn’t want to answer, and it doesn’t have to be a bad reason maybe he’s not

[t-8900]

I can think of a few reasons but without more details on the dynamic nothing solid

[kyleelyn199723]

Someone that supports his interests and future. Someone that goes out of their way to make his day just a little bit easier. Someone that lets him help out and protect. And also a loyal person that wants to always suck his dick at any random given time (except in front of friends and family do course) but in a room during family functions

[Harleigh90]

Connection ~ Expressing feelings, knows they are understood, sharing values and simular experiences.


Respect ~ loyalty, trust, defending and protecting.


Love ~ Positivity, mental health, passion, sex, safety, romance, sexual desires, interpersonal relationships,


Status ~ Feeling important, physically and mentally Strong.


Space ~ Free time with himself or mates

[KrisPW]

Affection and love when the world is beating him down. Support and encouragement for his work or interests. Someone willing to make their life a little easier when they can. A calming hand when he's out of line or needs to have a cool head. A good dose of desire and sex of course.

But those are a lot of the same things we want as well, so...

[Trish25]

Love, support, freedom, good sex and food, warm hugs, feeling of being accepted, devotion and loyality, trust, being his bestfriend, no judgement, peace

[Sunnyday56]

Best friend that is so cringe lol

[Trish25]

@Sunnyday56 yeah, sounds like😅 but many guys told me that one of the best things in their relationship is the fact that girlfriend is also their friend at the same time

[Cowboy6666]

@Sunnyday56 Perfect answer by @Trish25

[TwinkleLily5]

My man liked my attention, support, to know I cared about him, to show appreciation when he did little things (he didn’t say it but he loved when I appreciated what he’d done)

[HOAAH]

To be left alone so he can smoke and play video games.

[bamesjond0069]

A woman not simply a female. Most girls are unable to fill a traditional feminine role and so men only find them useful for friends and sex. in my opinion a big reason why you find marriage rates plummeting.

[Heartache0405]

Very true

[Anonymous]

i can only guess or hope to know- stability, loyalty, love and lots of sex. i personally would never ask for anything i can't give back

[Opinion Owner]

funny how men always ask what woman want and need lol, cuts both ways my friend. as i said below i would never ask for anything i cannot provide in return

[Opinion Owner]

@aquamarine321 thats why you are supposed to communicate with "said person" so there is no guessing game of whats expected or needed

[Opinion Owner]

@user1245322 asker in replies is lumping every woman together and we aren't all the same just like guys aren't all the same. everyone wants and needs are different bait and switch for a fight when the answer is way clearer then is being read

[Anonymous]

99% of men want a woman who's like their mom but not imposing

[aquamarine321]

That maybe true for some, but not all men, because I don’t want a woman who is like my mom

[Aerissa_Jade]

Fairly true, I've been told women want a man like their father.

This only works though if they had good parents, bad mom or dad means nobody wants someone like that.

[Anonymous]

I have no clue. If I did I’d have who I want and be married.

[aquamarine321]

@anonymous when going into a new relationship why not ask the guy what he wants, because women are always demanding what they need from men, but never think to consider what a guy wants

[pink_and_inlove]

Good food, good sex, affection, and attention 😂 pretty similar to us actually

[Anonymous]

Affection, support, sex, space/alone time, a friend, etc

[JosyJosy]

Support and affection?

[Toldol2]

Respect and loyalty

[Anonymous]

Good blowjobs and lots of sex.