The guy I’m dating never compliments me I don’t know if I’m over reacting?

[__cassiexxx]

I’m not insecure and never have really been but recently I feel that I am. I’ve been dating a guy for like 4 months now and I just feel like he never compliments me. I mean he does, he will say I’m sexy or that I turn him on and maybe once in a month he will say I’m beautiful but it’s always a sexual way? Like I complimented him on his eyes today and I know you shouldn’t give to recieve I know. But he was just like thank you and didn’t compliment me on mine, I have very nice eyes lol and that’s the first thing he said to me when we first ever ever met saying how amazing my eyes are and I just feel a bit sad. Am I overreacting here? He does compliment me when I post pictures to be it’s always something like oh you look sexy, like I like it when he says that to me in bed or if I’m giving him head or something but like it’s always sexy or something like that. I don’t know if I’m overreacting

[caring__1]

You don't want compliments to become obligatory statements. If so, he'll just say them to get them out of the way. Fewer compliments, when they are meaningful to him, have more value than complimenting you every hour on the hour out of obligation.

To get a behavior to continue or increase, always show appreciation when it happens. Never take it for granted, as something expected that needs no response from you. You can say, "Receiving your text at work, telling me I am cute, had me smiling the rest of the day. I like when you like what you see."

[Pj1981]

It's unfortunate that you have to question something like this and honestly your probably overreacting. He may think sexy is what you want to hear. Don't feel self conscious over it. If he's saying it in a sexual way he's thinking it a lot more than you know.

[VanessaSession]

Yeah, guys just seem the most willing to compliment when you're having sex with them. I think you should let him know you want more commitments. It's not a weird request. He might be too worried he's overdoing it already. Or maybe it just makes him nervous or awkward to do so outside of a sexual setting. Either way, having a more open line of conversation with him about this is probably best.

Or just have more sex with him and he'll compliment you more.

[blondefun1]

I have this problem with my man too. It bothers me a lot since I always compliment him. He says some things sometimes that really make me happy and I can tell he really means it.

[funtime_01]

Depends on whether or not you are a person who needs words of affirmation or not. He may have a completely different love language to you. If it bothers you that much, then maybe rethink the relationship

[all_hayl]

You’re overreacting and contradicting yourself. Maybe you should make up your mind about your own motives.

[CharlesScene]

Just tell him how you feel, and that you would like more interesting compliments on a more often basis.

[LegendaryIcon]

I'm not "dating" a girl i like, and I've complimented her a couple times.

She's never done it to me though... however, she has sort of "alluded" to it

[Twalli]

Ask if he can more. My girlfriend felt bad becuase she wanted me to say "I love you" more often than I did. When she asked me to say it more often I made a concentrated effort to do so.

[Jerre]

I think you may be over reacting. Sounds as he does compliment, just not as often as you want to hear. You’ll get used to it, just stick with him.

[EaterPeter]

What's his love language, what's your love language? Do you see him looking at any other woman?

[EaterPeter]

Do you compliment him?

[EaterPeter]

Is it possible he compliments you in non traditional way?