, How to get revenge from being spanked?

[Anonymous]

Let's just say I'm in a marriage, with my best friend and a guy I've been with since 19.
When I have crossed the line, during arguments, emotional days, etc.
I enjoy ticking him off on purpose... yes, an asshole or weird I know...
However. Lately, he's decided that if I am purposely going out of my way to hide his stuff, scratch his leg when we're in bed, he's going to spank me for it
So fast forward a few years and it's happening.
My deal is this... im pissed right off.
I don't like that he thinks he can do that
We are no way leaving each other because as crazy as this is, we get along great. Just when one of us get annoyed etc... we've been together awhile..

So anyway, he's decided to do this
And I feel like he has no right.
So I want to get some "kind" revenge... nothing to hurt him but some sort of prank or annoyance...

I feel like a rebel and a mental battle is going on. Each one of us is not backing down. It's turned into a battle of wit.

Ideas? Yes, i know this is f'd lol

[RichSD]

You're on dangerous ground when you start getting into any kind of physical violence even if it's playful at first. Just be very careful, I've seen spanking become slapping become hitting. It might be a good idea to talk about that aspect of it before it becomes more than just something that annoys you.

[Asker]

He's starting the dangerous ground by giving me a consequence. I didn't enter into a domestic discipline marriage, yet he's decided to spank me if I piss him off on purpose.
He could choose a different reaction, yet he chooses that. Uts embarrassing and it makes me so mad that he feels he can.

[RichSD]

You should look into marriage counseling if you can't find it in yourself to tell him directly, but whatever you do, don't just let it happen.

[lightbulb27]

there's something else going on that initiates all that. you're intentionally annoying him, he's punishing you, so you want to punish him back. I'm not suggesting anything but deal with some of the underlying hurts.

I for one enjoy getting and giving a good spanking or beating and my honey knows how to...
@midnightmoon05

[humanearth]

Talk him in bondage. Once he tied up and can't move. Spank him till his ass is red

[Asker]

That's actually a really good idea... however, I think the aftermath might completely backfire on me... not sure if I even dare go there

[Anonymous]

"I enjoy ticking him off on purpose"

"He's starting the dangerous ground by giving me a consequence."

Seriously? You are the one who started the "dangerous ground" by intentionally pissing him off repeatedly, and now you are pissed off that he is intentionally enforcing consequences and you want revenge?

You're a hypocrite who is finally getting her due. How about instead of trying to get revenge, you stop intentionally pissing him off?

[Anonymous]

He has to power to spank you, if you do something he doesn't like - so the fact that you don't like it is irrelevant.

Now you know what the consequences are. You can't try to get revenge on the fire because you were dumb enough to stick your hand in it and get burned.

[Asker]

Yes, I understand completely what you're saying. And that is exactly what is happening. My issue is, is that HE is the one who decided a consequence... that in itself is what's ticking me off. It is bonkers to me

[Asker]

I also don't feel he has the power to spank me. As long as he continues to do that as his reaction, he's causing a power struggle with me and my reaction to be determined to win this

[Opinion Owner]

He has the power (he's stronger) but I did not mean he has the right to do so. Physical spanking could still be considered assault.

And yes, he decides the consequence. If someone hit you, you would decide if you hit them back, let it slide, or took some more subtle revenge. It's down to you. Similarly, you do something to annoy him, he's going to choose the consequences.

Now, if you want to get smacked again, you know what to do.
If you don't want to get smacked, you know what to do.

This is in your court. But I think you're going to get smacked again because girls like you don't learn.

[Asker]

What you're saying is true.
I know what's going to get that consequence but it's the fact that he's decided to do this is the big problem for me.
I don't like it. It infuriates me and I'm trying to prove it's ineffective.
It has nothing to do with not learning
It has to prove that I'm not backing down.

[Opinion Owner]

This "relationship" is doomed. Because you value winning and being right more than your partners happiness.

[Asker]

It's not doomed.
We've been together for over half our life AND married for 15 years. In fact, we're hanging out on the couch together right now.

[Yourfriend2021]

This seems like some crazy relationship that will just get worse. Revenge should not be part of any relationship.

[boggboss]

U asked this months ago so is this a kink or just a troll

[Asker]

It's not either. I'm not making any headway. He is being unreasonable, and completely bonkers if he thinks this is okay.
I'm frustrated he's not backing down on this.
It's not a kink and it not a troll.
Fast forward you life like 10 years and then let me know.
Usually, he backs down. He's not.
I'm pissed
Guess I'll just keep figuring out something else.

[noohair]

I don't do revenge. I am not good at it.

[SnakeBoop]

Trolllllll

[Sam_The_Savage]

😂😂 and you're very free everytime to find out troll 😂

[Asker]

It's not a troll thing. It's very real. It's been going on a long time and I haven't made any head way. When you've been with someone this many years, you'll understand one day.