I feel unloved by my boyfriend, but he says he refuses to feed into my “toxic behavior” anymore. advice? more details in description?

[Anonymous]

I feel like he’s given up. But he says, he’s just not feeding into my toxic behavior anymore. I know my reactions can be toxic sometimes. But I NEED direction through it. He says everythings always on him.

I don't know what to do, i need guidance.
He’s a very you get what you give person.
He claims to be the more mature one, I WANT to he more mature and less toxic. But it’s hard when it feels like someone goes cold instead of gentle guidance,

[IMuser]

Get both of you a piece of paper and write the following
10 things I like about my partner
10 things I hate about my partner
10 things I like about myself
10 things I hate about myself

Exchange this paper and read.

[djmzes]

Simple

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Well what guidance do you need? And how are you toxic? And what is ‘mature’ to him?


I would highly suggest couples counseling or individual therapy on your behalf.

[Anonymous]

He's not the right one for you if he's making you feel unloved

[Honestguyopen]

Counseling would help. If he shuts down or goes cold, he is overwhelmed and doesn't know what more to do. He probably isn't equipped to help you figure it out, but he can show support by going to counseling with you, as he too needs to be able to offer you guidance if you both are planning to stay with each other. Also, put more of God in your lives. He made us and tells us how to treat one another in the best way.

[UdontNeedtoknow]

You both just need to work on your communication and listening. Find activities that you both like and do them to bring back some joy for your relationship and to take the focus away from the past negativity.

[Sam_The_Savage]

Honey if you feel unloved than why you even wasting time in relationship?

[OddBeMe]

First, what does “toxic sometimes” mean?

As a depressive I can bitchy with my SO but it’s still on me

[AndrésC64]

How are you being toxic? What does he say that you do that is toxic? Maybe it's just him

[Jamie05rhs]

Holy shit. A woman actually asking for guidance from her man? This is a rare gem.

[rabbitzzz]

What are you doing for him?

[Asker]

Dropping my entire life

[rabbitzzz]

Why are you feeling like you are dropping your entire life?

[Asker]

Because I’m dropping my life and family to move to his country

[anylolone]

Stop being a child and be an adult.