Do you think it’s natural to have some distrust or concerns over the loyalty of your partner? When does such things become unreasonable?

[Anonymous]

[WalkingInTheRain7]

Well, let me tell you this, how can two walk together except they be agreed? The same goes for any relationship. If you two don't walk together, there will be conflict, and if conflict comes, there can be emotional pain and concern. If you have distrust or loyalty concerns right out of the gate, then why are you dating said person? There should be a level of trust between you that's maintained over time. If you two don't trust each other, then is there really any relationship there? I think not.

If you see evidence of cheating, and you question the loyalty of your significant other, that needs to be remedied speedily, otherwise the distrust can grow more and more, and it doesn't help you to feel like this with your SO over time, since the distrust can grow, and cause problems.

[Andres77]

Mostly it's the fear of losing something awesome that's come into our life... and some tend to project it.
That's just how I see it.

I've done a lot of parachuting and rock climbing and diving and breaching... at some point you just have to trust the equipment and drive on.

Same with relationships. Take all the precautions you can and... are you going to trust them or not?

[LexiLuv91]

If you've ever been disrespected/betrayed/wronged by another human being before, I believe doubt will always be a factor to some degree. It damages you when you've been let down at that extent so it sticks to the back of your mind, "well it's happened before, who's to say they won't be that way too?" Or "people I would have never thought would betray me, betrayed me.. so how can I trust ANYONE?"
We try not to let past mishaps carry over to the next person, because after all, they weren't the one who did you wrong.. but in all actuality, we just end up making the next person pay for the previous person's mistakes, eventually. We're a product of our environment.. at the end of the day, we are all just beautifully damaged goods.

[jennifer_bloom]

I give people the benefit of the doubt unless they give me evidence they cannot be trusted or I see something that does not make sense - Like if a good looking billionaire hits on me - I will assume he is a liar etc…

[KatieB713]

Early on, it can be normal to have some doubts (especially if you have had issues in the past), however if this continues further into the relationship then it maybe a concern and show a lack of trust (therefore it should be something to be open and discuss as it could ruin a relationship)

[dovendyret]

For periods of times in long term relationships - absolutely. To be constantly distrustful and concerned is not. We are only human, we will experience insecurities in our lives - which can result in distrust or concerns, it's important to deal with it while it's a minor concern.

[Anonymous]

Yes it's normal and i think as long as you have someone patient to understand and work with you it's okay. I have had some pretty horrible relationships and it takes a lot for me to trust and my current boyfriend has helped me so so much to the point where i don't feel i have them problems anymore.
I think it only becomes a problem when there's no change and it is affecting your relationship in the wrong way, like saying they can't go out and do stuff etc.

[Ellie-V]

Natural and normal.
Ya need to let go of that though.
It gets unreasonable when you are blocking your own blessings by standing in the way of maximum delight.
You fear the best because it leaves room for the worst. Take the leap or don’t.

[Blonde401]

I don’t trust anyone because I’ve been abused by people I’ve trusted in the past. It’s something I am working on and I accept that it’s my issue but yeah... I can’t trust anyone.

[mrsalyssaefron]

Sure. It’s a natural thing to have doubts especially early on in a relationship. But if it becomes constant, I think it’s more along the lines of you not trusting that person. Which in that case, you should reconsider the relationship.

[NathanDavis]

it is normal for some people to be this kind of insecure, yes

[Anonymous]

of course it is. but if it's over some other potential girl/guy, i think you two need to talk to work through why you are feeling that way.

[Bubbles16]

Well if they haven't done anything for you not to trust them then I don't think you should be worried

[jahaims]

I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone I don't trust

[Waldoe]

There is an old saying... (I am old) lol anyway... "Trust but Verify"

[Hangry06]

Nope. It indicates insecurities and trust issues

[anton_dee]

When it starts ruining your time together