Do guys wait for girls to message?

[Anonymous]

Me and the guy I like were texting for some time all a sudden it has stopped i haven't heard from him in months I am the one that initiates the conversations but he always replies at first he was replying very quickly then it slowed down I felt I didn't want to bother him, My friends have told me if he doesn't message me first he isn't interested, is this true? I REALLY like this guy

[Lionman95]

I wouldn´t say it´s the case that if a guy doesn´t start the conversation he´s not interested because if he´s insecure and doesn´t know much about women it could be that he waits for you to iniate conversations.
But there is one other thing to keep in mind though because having a conversation and being in contact has a different priority for women than for men. While women need contact and people around them to feel secure, guys can be alone for hours or days without getting insecure.
So it could be that case that not messaging with you is for him less of a problem than it is for you because he knows that he likes without having a need to talk to you about it.
It could be that case that he feels like the message flow you have is enough for him and he doesn´t feel a need to change that for the time being.

[DaveJord]

Okay if the always replies when you message then he is interested, but if stop messaging him and never messages you then yeah something is not right about that.

I would not say that just because he never messages you first or that he takes a long time to message that is totally not interested. Guys that are interested, real and truly, usually try to move the relationship out of just messaging and text and into real person to person interactions... i. e dating.

Now if he had not done that with you then I would say he's probally not seriously interested.

I would also add that if you are every considering a relationship with someone that you feel your putting out a bigger effort with then they are you should reconsider if this is a person you want to pursue.

If you have not meet this person in real life or been on a date with him, then you need to give him space or just ask him out yourself... then you know rather quickly if he is worth you time.

[Chlo3_2001]

Be direct if you like him. Just send a message saying 'hey, how have things been, would you like to get a meal sometime?' Yeah, I know, it's hard. I'm not very confrontational either, but in these cases be direct. Otherwise, if they don't bother to message or or respond that's their loss. Best you can do is leave the ball in their court so they shoot their shot back, but if they don't, find a better court for you. Xx

[Rusty1982]

Exactly, get to the point! And let it be known!

[PhenomenalQueen]

Sometimes guys also get tired of being the person to text first, that’s what I’ve heard.. But then again, it could’ve been a lie.. I feel like a man will move heaven and earth, if he’s really interested in you and he wants to be with you. Usually when people ghost, that’s not a good sign. However, anything could’ve happened.

[Juxtapose]

You know what? I am tired of being expected to do things first and I feel like if I have to do everything first, then she's not really into me. If she wasn't to me, she would show some initiative too.

[Juxtapose]

*was into me

Voice to text screw up

[Realbanger87]

No I dont wait for her to message first. It's also not a guy thing, lots of women do the same, and it's part of the dating game. Just accept this guy isn't interested (coz clearly he isn't) and find a better guy who is excited over you, like you would be over him

[Twalli]

Guys don't typically talk or text unless they have something to say. So if there's something he wants to talk to you about, he'll do so. Don't assume he isn't interested in you because your friends have some inaccurate views about whether or not a guy is interested.

[RawIronhide]

Yeah sometimes I'll end it with a period. Most girls don't respond unless you ask them a question. So sometimes I don't lead the conversation to see if the girl will keep the conversation going.. they usually don't.

[Anonymous]

I don’t always want to respond first because i feel I’m being obnoxious or more interested than she is. I’ll let it go back and forth. If I tect and she doesn’t respond, it’s likely she really doesn’t care or like me. If i keep pushing its just hoping to get her to like me back.

[Anonymous]

Your friends are stupid. If you like him, text him and see if he responds. Guys usually don't text well, however it is surprising that he wouldn't contact at all if he's interested.

[Fireguy17]

How about this for thinking outside the box, actually calling him and talking about it.
You can get more information in a 5 min phone call than a month of texts.
I know, I'm old, but actually having a conversation with someone works well.

[DarkWinterNights]

I usually do. If there is t reciprocation I’m not going to waste anyones time. Unfortunately if you have waited “months” then you may have missed your chance. It doesn’t take long to move on from a casual internet or phone interaction.

[Anonymous]

I don't see how this could be a guys or girls thing. Personally I don't buy these message rules and rather openly ask if we're going to hook up. Deal breaker for me if she was not being truthful to herself or stressing over something simple like a message. I don't think I can even be friends with someone like that unless they learn to grow out of their preteen phase lol

[Walamagicc]

He either lost interest or likes you but has too much going on and didn’t prioritize you. You’ve been ghosted. Why would you wanna talk to someone who ghosted you? It’s extremely disrespectful

[Apulu_3]

It depends from guy to guy actually. I will say make the things more clear and it will be easier.

[spartan55]

If you REALLY like him you would be trying to communicate through better channels.

[Wise4myage]

He ghosted you. I would reply right away, because its rude not to reply or leave a girl hanging.

[Hulk30]

the ones who really understand women do if ya consider gender feminism and the me too movement then these kinda men generally dont initiate things with women unless they're given the green light to do so

[ChiTown33]

I don't wait for anyone to message. Unless there is a reason for me to wait such as a time sensitive subject like we agreed to meet somewhere etc.

[bamesjond0069]

I dont usually ghost anyone but im not going to double text them or anything. If they forget to hmu them im on to the next girl.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Yea! It is a bit annoying that we always have to text first.

[IsoUser]

That is kind of complicated yes and know, basically depends upon the girl

[Stevefiveo]

If you really like this guy, then invite him over. Good luck.

[dolemite89]

he’s either not interested or he’s playing very aloof so ur the one chasing him which is how it should be anyways

[Snakeyes7]

Not really sure what else I'd be doing after I send a message.

[AnthonyJ01]

I always want for a reply, I don't want to seem pushy.

[SignedAutographs]

I know for me because I don't want to pay to see who has matched with me on Tinder then i hope they message me first so that I don't have to pay just to talk to them

[Jltakk]

I wait usually. I'll ask once in a while, but I'm beyond caring at this point in my life.

[kevinthechill1996]

Honestly I do all the time I don't like always making the first move

[Alyssa_11]

If he wanted to, he would. Period.

[humanearth]

Nope, because I never owned a cellphone

[OddBeMe]

Nah, we’ve already fcked their best friend.

[TsAubreyKate]

Only if I’m excited to talk to her

[Iron_Man]

I think we do

[Omar5881]

I dont “wait”

[imfreeze95]

Yes at least I do

[anton_dee]

Eagerly sometimes

[Rusty1982]

Almost all the time, like on the edge of my seat, pacing the floor, waiting! Lol

[anton_dee]

😄😄😄

[In_Trance]

Sometimes

[Anonymous]

Yass