Would you disclose to your girlfriend or boyfriend, the amount you earn in salary?

[Chikky]

[Screenwriter]

It's according to how comfortable you are with disclosing such information and how well you trust this person.

If you've just recently met someone, your financial info isn't something to reveal. You have no idea where that person is coming from, if they're needy financially or what.

Better to let some time pass. Do everything "Dutch"... share food and expense bills and keep it like that. Unless you're moving in together, finances are nobody's business.

You can certainly make it clear that you cannot afford certain events. If you find that your date is always proposing high-priced events and you don't want them to pay for you, and you can't afford it yourself, propose an alternate event or tell that person this is out of your expense range at "this time."

That is all a new person in your life needs to know. And a courteous person should ASK what events you like to attend and where you usually go, anyway.

I ask friends what a movie or food at a certain place costs and whether I'm in the black enough to afford that. A boyfriend or girlfriend should do the same.

[Aerissa_Jade]

I would not for a long time, but eventually. Especially if we are getting really serious, otherwise there is no way a marriage could work and I wouldn't want to marry someone who has bad credit, sucks at money management and thinks I'm going to solve all their financial problems.

This goes both ways though, I've known women who are in over their heads who think their husband is going pay all their bills for them and solve their problems.

[Lliam]

I don't know why the question would even come up. Of course we would know what each of us does for a living. But I wouldn't go into detail about my finances and I wouldn't ask about hers. I'm not a money grubber and I don't want to be with someone who is. A healthy relationship isn't about money. But you can get an idea of their income by their lifestyle, by going on vacations together, and things like that.

I don't need someone monitoring or having access to my income and savings, or making plans on how to spend MY money. I like independent women who are capable of taking care of themselves. I wouldn't want to think that someone was interested in me for my money.

At some point, if we were contemplating marriage, we'd talk in greater detail about assets and the ability to afford a house, how much we could spend on rent or mortgage, etc.

After we were married, everything would be transparent because we'd be in a total partnership.

[Guy13]

Once we are at a level of commitment that includes joint records exchange, YES. Criminal, Credit, and Medical backgrounds done in concert.
-This should be done before moving in, engagement, or any Joint accounting, including but not limited too, a property or car lease.

[Emerald55346]

It depends honestly I think if your partner makes much less it can cause problems, such as jealousy or even entitlement to more in the relationship from the other person unless you are okay with being a provider.

[HighValue]

Since I am a public employee (schools) they could actually look it up themselves, including my income for past years if they knew my full name and where I worked. By law it is posted online.

[Just_call_me_Levi]

Probably not, unless it's REALLY serious. Otherwise I may fear it's about the money, rather not have that open as an option... So often pretend I have less than I in actuality do. I'm definitely not rich though, not even close, but I can afford to live comfortably at least.

[AviatorTom]

Not right away, but after we get serious and start talking about the future, yes, I'd tell her my salary, and anything else about my financial situations that she's like to know. I would hope she's share her info with me.

[wheresmrcunnunglis]

I would share an estimate, but that wouldn't be until we were like a year in or something. Since I would not want them in my pockets as I would not want to be in theirs.

[silkjames]

Yeah if I been with them for awhile and trust them life is not all about money don't get me wrong I'm more then stable in that area but if someone trying to put there hand in my cookie jar I love my homemade chocolate chip cookies il know lol !

[Anonymous]

No, we spoke about can or can’t afford. Which shows a level of lifestyle you’re willing to live in or not.

I don’t think my wife knows for sure to this day… she knows our lifestyle and it all fits. We’ve never had a direct conversation around it accept to say stay out of debt and live within our means. We treat credit like cash and don’t touch savings.

% to savings, pay the bills, play with the rest… if we have a big purchase we decide how to save our play money to buy it.

[front2back]

There are certain things you just don't tell women without an extremely high degree of trust and salary is one of them.

So it would be some time.

[NathanDavis]

do you mean... can I trust my partner?

yes, I absolutely trust them... otherwise, they would not be my partner at all

[jamesgoldman]

Nah my earnings are roughly £500 but can be more if I'm winning bets or hitting decent business opportunities or I have a load of scrap silver to take to my refinery

[DeepPassionateLover]

What the fuck are you on about

[jamesgoldman]

Vodka makes me ramble, good to know

[shaysh87]

If you can’t trust your girlfriend with that simple info, how could you trust her as a wife?

[GMANN56]

Because there is a massive difference between a girlfriend and a wife.

[ChiTown33]

@GMANN56 well said! If she just has to know how much you make to determine your value (because let's be honest that's why she wants to know). Then she kind of has divulged her priorities.

[shaysh87]

@ChiTown33

That’s not the way to fend off gold diggers

How about dating a woman who is educated , has a good earning career instead of dating loser broke women?

[shaysh87]

@GMANN56

Why would you date a girlfriend who you don’t intend on marrying?

[ChiTown33]

How bout being interested in a guy who actually has character rather than just looking for a meal ticket @shaysh87 😉

[shaysh87]

@ChiTown33

She has to know because she’s having a family with you. How are you supposed to support her Ans the kids if you’re broke as hell?

Once a woman gives birth, it becomes extremely difficult for her to hold onto her job. Especially if she plans on having more than 1 child. Often times women temporarily halt their careers in order to raise kids until the kids hit a certain age. Up until this point , it’s usually the husband who pays all the bills.

So yes it’s very very important to know how much a man makes

[shaysh87]

@ChiTown33

[How bout being interested in a guy who actually has character rather than just looking for a meal ticket]

It’s your decision to date broke women. So don’t come on here to complain if you find gold diggers. How about date a woman of substance and something to offer instead?

[shaysh87]

@ChiTown33

Dating broke women then complaining about gold diggers is like living in the crime filled ghettos then complaining about getting robbed.

[ChiTown33]

If, if, if, it's very doubtful that I'm going to meet a woman with more money than me. Don't apply other situations to mine it's NOT relevant. So financially supporting her wouldn't even be an issue lol. Secondly I'm 46 and not looking for any woman under 10 years younger than me. So the odds of us having kids are unlikely.
Nice try though.

[ChiTown33]

But even if it weren't me a fortune can be squandered, a lucrative job can be lost. But character lasts forever. This is what women who seek out meal tickets just don't get.

[ChiTown33]

But those women aren't looking to give a lifetime commitment anyhow so...

[ChiTown33]

Hun I don't date gold diggers. I let them chase till they realize they're not getting a cent from me. Then I laugh when the leave angrily, defeated. I only make my comments because your type is so numerous. And some guys might not see your type coming like I do.

[shaysh87]

@ChiTown33

At your age , you’re pretty much done with having kids. It’s unlikely any woman more than 10 years younger than you would want to marry you , unless you have a ton of money

And secondly , you really don’t need to date a woman richer than you. Just go for a woman who is financially stable. The more financially stable she is , the less likely she would be a gold digger

[shaysh87]

@ChiTown33

You definitely sound like a very bitter guy who didn’t have the best luck with women. Hence the reason why you’re still single at your age.

You’re way past your prime for marriage and kids. Typically if a guy is 43 and still single, he stays single for life. Vast majority of men your age are already married with kids

[ChiTown33]

Am I really getting to you that much that you're now resulting to insults? Lol
Hun there's no reason to get mad. I'm not saying anything that isn't true. Of course I only seek out women of " character". As I said a person's wealth or lack thereof. I'm sorry you don't get that but hey, you're young. Hopefully you'll eventually figure it out.
Secondly I already said I'm not looking for anyone younger than 10 years. Younger than me. Simply because the odds of a successful relationship drop dramatically statistically. If younger women don't want me "cool" were both in agreement then lol. For some reason it doesn't stop most of them from approaching me though ::: shrugs::: I'm sorry that bothers you. Pointing out that I'm past my prime for kids. I believe I already said that. So you're going to repeat what I said just as an attempt to try to insult me in some way? Are you really that petty.
The difference hear is I'm just popping facts. I'm not angry by what you say. I have no reason to be. Nothing you've said about me is remotely accurate. but for some reason you're angered because I apparently hit too close to home with you about some of these truths I've posted.

[ChiTown33]

"A person's wealth or lack thereof is irrelevant"

[shaysh87]

@ChiTown33

It’s hilarious how some guys wait until 46 to have kids. Just give it a few more years Ans you’ll find yourself playing bingo with the retirees

[ChiTown33]

Hun I'm not trying to have kids. What are you not getting about that? Do I need to draw you a picture?

[GMANN56]

Because I enjoy the company of women. I visit a lot of different restaurants also. I don't
plan to eat at the same one every time.

[shaysh87]

@GMANN56

Gfs don’t tend to be there for you forever. I can say that from many years of experience.

[Miristheiss]

Sure,
After we had been dating a while.
It's none of her business on the first few dates and as we were getting to know each other.

[KrisPW]

Not right away, but I don't feel it's something I would hide really.

[Apulu_3]

Yes because they should be knowing about their partners life but I won't be doing it soon.

[TheRealSalami]

Doesn't matter lol. Like you're not part of that bank account.

[SometimesASiren]

I wouldn't disclose until we actually started sharing expenses.

[Dinklex3]

Myself and people I've dated have been pretty open about how much we make.

[Raphaëlle]

If the relationship is serious, of course. It's all about honesty and wanting to build a future together.

[sissyalexa]

Yeah if it's a serious relationship, like I wouldn't mention it on a first date but yeah 😊

[mb120101]

If you pay bills together yeah , you have to budget together . If it’s a new relationship ofc not