Is my exes new girlfriend a rebound/distraction?

[Misskris05]

My ex ended our two year relationship in November and I was completely blindsided. We didn't talk for a month and then we met up in January to exchange our things. One thing lead to another and we slept together. After that we were talking every day then the dirty flirting with videos and pictures happened. Super Bowl weekend he came over, sex happened yet again and he ended up spending the night (we both fell asleep). He then wasn't talking to me as much the following week and then tells me on March 1st that he started dating someone unexpectedly, two weeks after we were together. He said he wasn't planning on dating anyone this soon, he knew it was fast but it was someone from his past that he ran into and they reconnected. He still has some of my things and he has not talked to me since he told me about her, even though he said he wanted to be friends. Is it wishful thinking to wanna think she's a rebound/distraction to help me get through it or is she a rebound to help him?

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He wouldn't talk to me about the rest of my stuff, he won't do the exchange and I wasn't expecting him to just ice me out.

[HollyK21]

There’s no way to know with certainty if they will last or not, unfortunately, we don’t get crystal balls to foresee the future. I’m sure you’re hurting and I’m sorry for that, two years is a lot to let go of. But if his focus is on this new relationship then you just have to respect it and try to redirect your focus. As for your things, I would just cut my losses. All that hanging on to those items will do is keep giving you an excuse to reach out, an excuse to stay connected and in turn probably hopeful that if you get the opportunity to collect those items, you can speak to him about this directly and maybe give you two another shot, since you still want that. You don’t deserve to prolong your pain more than need be, so let those belongings go, let him go, and focus on healing. If your paths cross again in a romantic way in the future, then that is what is meant to happen when the time presents itself.

[Misskris05]

What I dont understand is why he never talked about/did the exchange when he said he would. If he's all happy in the new relationship my things shouldn't be an issue

[HollyK21]

I get where you’re coming from, it’s just that some people aren’t very civil or “nice” when it comes to breakups. The best bet would have been to pack up as much of your important things as possible, so that anything you left behind wouldn’t feel like much of a loss if it came to what’s happening now. I do hope it’s not extremely important stuff you left there, because then it would suck more not to get them back. But if you can realistically cut ties with those items, just let them go. I’m sure you don’t want to, but hanging on to that stuff means hanging on to him and your old relationship, and that will only be more hurtful to you.

[LemonsAsks]

See if a mutual friend can get your things for you instead if you can't procure them. Try to get your things first. Incase any further discussion become confrontational.

Not sure if its 2 weeks that passed before they hooked up. its a short window but if so, it is possible he's been talking to her for a while now. (Additional context needed for assessment)
Or maybe its just fast timing doubtful tho.

[Misskris05]

I asked him if they were talking when we were fooling around and he said no - she came into the picture a week after super bowl when he pulled away from talking to me.

[LemonsAsks]

I mean has he lied before? Sounds like he didn't want you at the house/apartment because he doesn't want the evidence to show up at the front door. Also you might be the rebound. Lack of communication for a month followed by sex? I could be missreading the information the dates are a bit confusing.

[Misskris05]

No, he hasn't. Timeline
November - we break up
Jan - saw each other for the first time
Feb 12-13th he spent the night
Week of Feb 20th he pulls away
March 1st he tells me about her

So she came into the picture some time between the 20th-26th

[LemonsAsks]

Hmmn beats me then. Best of luck

[Iron_Man]

Maybe so