Should I be worried about my relationship if my boyfriend had sex with strippers?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend frequented the strip clubs and made friends with the dancers, some with that they even had sexual encounters. He was still going to the clubs even when we first started dating. But he always wants to go back but doesn’t out of respect for how I feel. But is always trying to get me to go and has intentions of going again at some point. It makes me super uncomfortable that he still talks to many of them on social media and wants to go all the time. He doesn’t seem to understand it from my point of view and I don’t want to make it a point of contention in our relationship. I understand why he enjoys it bc he isn’t a light spender and they all make a big deal over him. I know a lot of this is on me and being insecure about myself. I’m at a weird point in my life and don’t really have anyone to talk to about this to know if I’m just being stupid or if I should give more push back. He does always want me to go with him but I hate the idea of having to watch naked women all over him knowing he was even with some of them. I’m not mad bc he was with them but more I feel like I’m not sure where I stand bc he wants to go to the clubs. Does that make sense?

[bamesjond0069]

here's the deal. You have two options with some varied outcomes

1. Be jealous and try to stop him from going and make a big deal about it.
A. He will dump you eventually.
B. He will obey your demands but slowly start to become more of a loser pussywhipped. Then as always happens when a man gets pussywhipped, you will lose respect for him and dump him.

2. Be supportive asf. Let him go without you but even better go with him. Befriend the dancers. Buy him dances. Go all in.
A. He will love you forever and y'all can enjoy strip clubs forever. OR you will get sick of it and dump him.
B. He will love you so much and eventually realize its boring and spends too much and hed rather stay home with his super cool and supportive girlfriend that all his friends are jealous of.

Someone once told me "The second she makes you sell your motorcycle is the second she's looking to cheat with a guy who rides a motorcycle." Lmao

[TommyMountainFigure]

I'm trying to put myself in your shoes, obviously reversing it because I'm a guy and I'm sorry but I can't see any way i would stay in that relationship, because I know the second we had an argument? She'd be there doing whoever, and I refuse to live like that!

[Aerissa_Jade]

I suggest you go with him, seriously... not so you can watch them dance but by him to make your presence known to them that he is not available. You don't have to say anything, just be there.

This way you are

1. Supporting him in what he wants to do and
2. Showing the others he isn't single and he is taken so now it isn't just casual or whatever it would be making him a cheater. They are far less likely to be all over him if you are there.

Many women will back off if they know someone is in a relationship.

[midnightmoon05]

Aside from having the title boyfriend/girlfriend. What do you want out of this relationship with this guy? Marriage? Kids?
once you have a kid with him… his habit will not change… where is daddy? Well he is having fun with other naked women at the strip club? Good luck… you are a free woman

[20yearsolder]

Feel free to DM me and you will have a friend to talk to anytime you need. If I were you, yeah I would have a big problem with him returning to the strip club if you know for a fact he's been there and fucking some of them. Old habits die hard.

[SnakeBoop]

Dude has no respect for your relationship AT ALL considering he's still pushing to go/you to go/ talking to them etc.
Get rid, and you can find a decent man who respects you and simple boundaries.

[Dchrls78104]

This guy has sex with strippers, and you still consider him your boyfriend?

[Avicenna]

It’s a problem that he still wants to go back

[Anonymous]

You have to be worried with any guy.

[In_Trance]

No point in worrying about it

[Anonymous]

You should be worried, you should be the only one.