At this point, you have a choice to make and that's whether you're going to do everything in your power to work together to repair the damage, or you're going to exit the relationship because even if he was 100% in the wrong, and you want him to know and feel that, harping on it everyday and going through the same feelings of mistrust and worry everyday is only going to sap your energy and make you feel worse or him resentful that you may never be able to move on. It totally sucks, but that's how it is. It is a very hard thing to regain someone's trust, which is why one shouldn't do things to jeopardize that or expect for the person, aka, you, to just forgive and forget and move on.
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No trust means no relationship... Or not a healthy or happy relationship anyways without trust...
Not to say trust can never be rebuilt, but it doesn't happen overnight and takes serious commitment/work on both parties part to work on regaining trust and learning to give trust again...
Trust is like virginity; when it's gone, it's just a memory and everything thereafter will be different.
I classify people into two categories:
1. people who have never violated my trust, and
2. everyone else.
For me, a romantic partner must be in the first category and once they have violated your trust, they will be in the second category and can never again be completely trustworthy. When trust is important, you will always have suspicions and doubts about whether you should be trusting them.
Chances are probably not. You can forgive but never forget. That means you will never let go of the memory of the pain and reminder of the power he has to hurt you. Even after your heart gives in.
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Trust is like glass. Once broken, even if you try hard to glue all the pieces together, it'll never be the same.
Why is this question so relatable😭
A guy I was talking to broke my trust because he lost his virginity to his girlfriend, I was the girl best friend but he liked us both
Now she’s out of the picture and it’s just me and him
I can’t trust him because he hurt me badly even though we weren’t together
He said that he couldn’t keep it a secret any longer…not being a virgin
He wants to move forward with me but I’m scared that he may hurt me again
And I really can’t trust him because I’m always thinking what if
He tells me all the sweet stuff e. g. I want to marry you, my parents are going to love you and I want to spend the rest of my life with me
I know it’s the girl’s question thread but boys helpWill a knot in a thread make it streamlined as the thread was earlier? No, right!
Consider any relationship a thread. One breach of trust = one knot.
The resulting after at least one knot is not as good as it was earlier.
The only thing you can do is embrace it, get over it and normalize it in your life.Once trust is broken its near impossible to get it back as to corner stone of trust is allowing them to hurt u and still giving them that freedom the only thing here is he has already hurt you so he has shown he is not worth of that trust getting it back requires a ungodly amount of ability to forgive
You can change your emotions and trust him. The issue is you don't currently have the rationale would allow for that. It exist though. Just leave him though and go study how to sustain a relationship. If you knew, you would have known he is someone that cannot sustain a relationship.
Just spend some time to feel your thoughts, observe them. While you analyze what the small voice keeps chatting away about, tell yourself it's over. It's over because broken trust guarantees getting hurt again. You don't want to replay hurt emotions, in new amazing ways.
Actually you can still go on with the relationship cause trust is a key to love and forgiveness leads to trust so what I'm saying is I know you're hurt but just forgive him what ever he as done and trust me, the trust and the love will come back
Trust is difficult to get back. It's not impossible but it's difficult and sometimes even when you work on it, it's not something you can get back 100%.
It sounds like he broke your trust not once but a bunch of times. Like a pattern. I wouldn’t trust him either. I think it might be over.
Yeah well, your drama and overreaction isn't going to help anything either.
Either give it up, or give him up.I mean yes and no. He can earn back your trust but for me I'd always have in the back of my mind if he'd do it again so that's a hard question
If you have lost trust, then it’s finished, over, gone.
Once that trust goes its very difficult not impossible to get back. Sadly even more difficult to forget.
You will soon find out for yourself if you proceed to trust. The answer is "rarely".
That’s a very bad excuse that he’s making probably it’s time to MoveOn once he violated your trust it’s not like you’re married and you have to try again
That's only for you to decide.
There's a quote I've heard in the past : "Trust, takes a lifetime to earn (retain), only a moment to destroy."No. Trust can't be fully rebuilt ever if it's been broken.
Usually a done deal. What exactly did he break your trust on?
Nope. Only you can fix you. And if you don't want to do that or willing to face that FACT then nope.
you tell us; what can he do to make you trust him?
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