Oh, the best way to deal with a girl giving you the silent treatment is to stay calm, ask her if that's what she's doing and tell her you respect her decision and stop talking to her unless not doing so would only be petty. For example, is she asks you where the keys are, tell her where they are but don't engage the conversation any further.
This will drive her crazy because you're using her childishness against her in a way that she is totally in control of. It very quickly becomes self defeating.
It's infuriatingly mature and if you want to get a little cheeky with it, when you do need to talk to her you should start the sentence with "I don't know if you're ready to talk yet, but"
This has worked on everyone who's done the silent treatment to me. Usually they'll eventually realize how stupid it is not to talk out your problems.
@IMuser oh haha that depends. First of all, you should never block a girl out of spite in my opinion, it's just childish. I guess if you want to apply this logic to that, you could act like you didn't even notice.
Honestly, don't let woman play those games with you. They're very good at doing these childish things and then you have to go down to that level in order to continue, little do you know it was just bait the whole time to make everything seem like it was your fault.
The best answer is almost always to be a man and not play childish games. If that's what type of shit she's on, move along. They'll never admit it but unless she's crazy, she knows what she's doing. If your actions communicate "I don't play games" they'll respect you more.
You don't want the people who don't respond well to this too. Those are the manipulative ones who are never wrong.
This just hit a nerve. I had the exact same experience (it was a long distance relationship where i was blocked a lot. Heck i can't even call it a relationship) and after the supposed breakup, it took me a while to block her, not because of revenge but because of disgust at her
I would like to know what is the appropriate response to these childish games (except leaving them with a fuck you on their face)? How is the "man" supposed to act? Direct confrontation (woman, if you ever did this again, i will make it sure that you will never be able to contact me again) or something else?
@IMuser some people will disagree with me, and this isn't to hate on woman, I'm sure there's plenty of things men do too, but woman can be extremely unreasonable and emotional sometimes.
As a man, you need to be mentally disciplined enough to be ready for this. Sometimes you need to just let the situation play its course, sometimes you really are doing something and not playing the game doesn't necessarily mean you're not doing anything wrong either.
But it should be established that the way to get what you want is to have a RESPECTFUL conversation.
And when she gets all mad that you're not upset, say that to her. TAKE CONTROL of the situation and LEAD it in a direction of mutual respect and problem solving.
But you cannot show respect for unreasonable games every time. And also, pick your battles. Sometimes it makes her feel good to just let her win. Especially if it's over something silly.
Knowing when to let go is part of being a man too.
Sorry that happened to you buddy, but at least you know what it looks like now so you can avoid it in the future.
Like the vacation I need from all the nonsense that came from their mouths. It's probably what I would think in the heat of the moment
That can be considered emotional abuse because they are doing it to manipulate, control, and "punish" their partner. It is immature and you should not be in a relationship with someone who does this.
I had an ex-partner who did this, and I had no idea why because I didn't do anything wrong... I felt confused because I was being left in the dark and punished for something he apparently thought was wrong. At the time, I just accepted it and didn't try to argue... But retrospectively speaking, I would've broken up and blocked them.
exactly i had a ex boyfriend the exact same way as ures
I sometimes do this but i don't mean no harm. It is just my default mechanism to cope up with my overwhelming emotions. I really don't want to do it but sometimes withdrawal gives me some time to cool off. I really wish I wasn't like this but i am trying to change.
@awkwardddgirl I think you should tell them that you need as few minutes to calm down, don’t just ignore them. Being open and communicate your needs, as well as your feelings is a good way to maintain a healthy relationship.
If you are overwhelmed by emotions, let that be known to your partner.
yeah i did it back because i just stayed quit until he spoke to me first we both did it tobeach other at the same time but i was mostly did to me and i became emotiomal aswel nd started saying a canny take this ure pure giving me silent treatment for a stupid argument you started
it was him that mostly did ot to me
@WhatTheHeckkkk you’re always so full of wisdom and common sense, it’s awesome! 👍🏻
@roaring20sman Thank you!!!
If a woman gives you the silent treatment YOU must have done something to hurt her and she is speechless. If you disrespect her in any way, like cheating in some fashion, what do you want her to say? Oh, it's ok baby. Whenever you hurt me, I will just suck it up and keep talking to you like nothing happened. Get real. You deserve the silent treatment for messing up.
If someone makes that grave of a mistake to cheat, then they deserve to be left.
One day my husband and I were at the swimming pool and he knew I don't know how to swim. So, he threw me into the deep end and he had to rescue me because I didn't know how to get to the top. I got chlorinated water in my nose and throat which made me sick. I gave him the silent treatment for doing that to me. Does that deserve the silent treatment?
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It helps if you know your partner's weaknesses. When my g/f does that to me (Which isn't often) I will blow raspberries on her neck, or pick her up and tickle her and not put her down until she laughs. Of course, that only works after she's calmed down so knowing when to do the above is key.
The other side of the coin though, when I'm mad at her I will go to the punch bag or treadmill/weights bench and work out. Her way of making me feel better is kind of X rated so I can't elaborate, but instead will leave that up to the imagination. :D
I give it right back to them not only so she can have time to cool off, but also so that she can't think she can just try to talk sweet again when she wants to, which often means they want or need something from you but aren't going to apologize or acknowledge the situation. I don't make it easy for any woman to treat me that way, no matter what she's upset with me about.
Believe it or not, giving your partner the silent treatment back makes them feel foolish for being so upset like that. It's a form of No Contact but in an actual relationship.
My girlfriend never gives me silent treatment. It's the best thing about our relationship. If we are upset with each other, we fight until we find a solution or middle ground. In 2 years of our relationship, we have never left a fight until we resolve the issue. We keep talking and making our points. We tell each other how we felt about the particular thing that bothered us and try to understand each other's point of views. Most of the times, we both admit our mistakes where we were wrong! And we have a lot of differences. I am more logical and she is more emotional. But the communication always saves our relationship!
It is really a damaging thing to do. All it does is make the other person feel terrible because they are being ignored and can't resolve whatever the issue is. And it is a childish thing to do also.
This is different than "taking time out". Taking time out is like a simmering down process to let the issue ride a bit so you can discuss it later when you are calmer. Or maybe one or both partners are too tired to discuss it at the moment, etc.
There were a couple of women who I dated in the past who used the silent treatment. It is a dealbreaker for me. I will not date a woman who uses this to any great degree.
Plus, they expect you to be a mind reader or something? They are acting that way and half the time you don't even know what it is about.
I'm not in an exclusive relationship, so this question is not really for me. However, let me tell a story that happened about 3 years (pre-covid) ago. I was seeing a friends with benefits and she got a bit intense when I refused to go with her to Hawaii. Stopped contacting me. I let it go and went on with my life. Several months later I was shopping in a local Target store and saw her sitting in the Starbucks there. I smiled as I passed and she just looked at me. I was looking through some men's care products when I noticed her standing close to me. I looked up and smiled again. She wanted to know if I was interested in starting back up again? I shook my head and said NO! I reminded her of this song!
https://www.youtube.com/embed/OJBcNmQUCXw
If someone I knew gave me silent treatment, I would just keep trying to get them to respond. And I would try talking to them every day, until one day (when least expected) I just stop and then I turn the finger and give them the silent treatment. Because then they may wonder why I stopped talking to them and they may give in, and try talking to me. It's like a trick sort of. But I just do this when I feel tired of waiting for them to talk to me, so I make them wait... and they may get confused, worried, or even shocked. I don't know. Just a thing I do when people irritate me by giving me the silent treatment.
I think it’s pretty messed up. And I’m someone who used to do this in my teens. But then I realized it was hurtful to the other person so I stopped doing it. I do still talk less when I’m hurt or upset though. But I don’t shut out communication like I used to. Once this happens then my man knows he’s hurt, offended, or upset me in some way and he’ll try his best to make me feel better. Usually he’ll try by making me laugh.
This would never work if I gave him the silent treatment. A person can’t do much if you’re not speaking or acknowledging them. And you end up hurting the other person more by shutting them out when all they’re trying to do it fix the problem.
It depends on why I’m receiving the silent treatment from that him. If we both got into an argument, it makes me feel relieved that I have time to reflect and cool off for both of us. The silent treatment in my opinion shouldn’t last more than a day or two. After a while, if he doesn’t reach out to me, I’ll give him the silent treatment back also in return. I’m passive aggressive anyways but I’m also very honest and understanding. If he ignores me long enough, I’ll lose interest in him altogether and see him as “emotionally immature” and if he does text me back, I’ll most likely ghost him
When I do this, I will state. I can't talk right now without saying something I will regret, so give me a little bit of time to calm down.
Then I make it a point to go back and continue in a less aggressive situation to see what we can do to compromise.
That is mature. Also, this is not silent treatment but you having a cool enough head to cool off a bit.
I hate is as im more letd talk n fix it
I find this very immature n maybe abise as some say
But the thing is my mother is this way, she isbt a horrible person but its her way of functioning
I usually argue w her when she is like that
SaIng her reaaonable shit
N explaning how her behavior is wrong n force her to say something
I flip out on it too
For anyone else acting that way they r dead to me bye
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The good ole dayz (Nights) 2400 gone in a month snap and running 🏃♂️ to the Bank, Silent Treatment.
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I hate the silent treatment. It makes me feel like I’m being punished in some sort of way. Especially when I’ve not really done anything wrong to warrant it. The guy I’m currently seeing told me he hated the silent treatment when we first got together because his ex used to do it to him if they had an argument. But he does it to me if I do something that pisses him off. For example, a few weeks back I didn’t phone him up over the weekend (he didn’t call me either) but we was constantly messaging 24/7. On the Sunday morning out of the blue he got pissed off with me for it and I kept apologising. He wasn’t really responsive to me and was taking ages to reply to my messages. It made me feel like shit especially because it was such an overreaction for something so small.
If they give me the silent treatment for too long I might forget they exist XD
Legit though I can easily get lost in something for days on end so I might not even notice
If it's not too emotionally damaging I can usually get it out of my head relatively quickly and then maybe never think about it for like several years and then one day it might pop back in my head
It's mostly women who give the silent treatment because of their reliance on indirect non verbal communication. It used to really bother me at first. But now I have learnt. If she is not mature to communicate, then she's not mature to be in a relationship with me.
I see a lack of emotional maturity. The silent treatment to humans shows the same response it does in infants of emotional disconnect and neglect of emotional well
being. It is a cold calculated way to have get back and is not relationship healthy.
Strategic compromise and open floor discussion is the healthy and mature thing to do when problems happen.
my partner doesn’t behave like this thank God. whenever something’s wrong we always manage to sort things out in a mature manner. I usually lose respect for people who act this way I think is so childish and passive aggressive how come someone rather be mad than sort things out. at this age if someone gave me silent treatment I would just leave them on mute forever I do not tolerate this kind of behavior anymore.
I did this to a few girls online and one girl I used to hang out with, in real life well she would talk about other guys to make me jealous, I liked her but she only liked me as a friend no more and yes both times it upset me and I'm a shame of myself
It would make me think we are not right for each other.
It's immature way to handle problems.
I want clear communication. "I need some time alone to think" would be enough and respectful.
The silent treatment is basically abuse. Early in our relationship I advised my wife that if she shut down lines of communication that way, using the silent treatment, it would result in immediate divorce and kicking her out.
I have zero tolerance for idiotic manipulative abusive games like that.
I'll more than likely end a relationship over this. There is a difference between taking a moment to cool down and silent treatment. Silent treatment is just manipulation and does nothing to resolve the problem. If a woman is too immature to face a problem then she is too immature for a relationship. Again, it is more than ok to take a few minutes to cool down, but the entire day should not pass without discussion.
I had an ex who did that. At first I would ask her if we could talk about what was bothering her but she just ignored me or said something like nothing was wrong. Once I figured out what she was doing I would just ignore her too and it drove her crazy. That relationship didn't last for obvious reasons.
Omg I would absolutely hate it. My mom used to do that shit when I was a kid, sometimes for days... if any future partner would even try to do this, I would leave right then and there !
This was my husband's go-to method of letting me know he was upset about something. I learned to enjoy the peace and quiet and now it's ineffective.
Well, it's on. I'm embracing the quiet break, but I have to admit that the immaturity of an adult refusing to talk does get under my skin a bit.
I feel abused. I rather get slapped than endure silent torture, lol, either way, physical or emotional abuse will face repercussions on his path...
Oh my husband likes to do this. It's mental/emotional abuse. Years ago I would take it to heart but now I know his game. I shake it off..
I feel like shit obvious but I respect their space and let them be until they are ready to talk again.
I think it depends on the situation. Sometimes it's good to just not talk and give each other time to cool down and think.
I dont know if that's coz I am a aqua or I am cursed but if someon stops talking to me I dont give a shit, if they talk I talk if they dont I dont
I dont belive in astrology I dont belive in God shit alien shit mind control hypno shit Balck magic shit
You are right now like this probably
https://youtu.be/V33wrGG3sGQ
I have ZERO tolerance for it.
I'll ask once or twice at most what is wrong, and if they don't tell me, I go out and have fun, letting them know I'll talk when they're ready to act like an adult.
If it's something they do more than a few times, I'll end it.
It's a childish game and I won't have it in my relationship.
It's annoying and childish of a manipulation tactic. I'll leave you if you start that shit.
Ah, I had one of those in my early 20's. I broke up with him after 8 months of that bullshit.
I was with someone who did that. It made me anxious. I would wait a while and ask her what was wrong. Then be ready to take an emotional beating as she told me. I am glad I am not with her anymore.
definitely one of the best reasons to walk away from women. Any man with self-respect doesn't put up with such bullshit. If you have a problem open your stupid fucking mouth and say something.
i think it's childish. someone who uses this method is clearly very inexperienced in conflict solving. i'd probably not date a person who does this.
It just creates more questions if it isn't resolved quickly
Conflicted. Because while the silence is enjoyable. It's like water building up behind a damn. You know at some point it's going to burst if the pressure isn't relieved.
It works wonders without raising your voice The woman realizes she messed it up And comes back humbled
I often say a Still tongue turn away wrath. I give them space and honor them for not saying something. That you can later regret for saying.
normally im the one giving silent treatment. but i would react by giving them space.
I don’t think so but others consider me to be incredibly lazy so if you’re in a relationship with me silence is a given
I break up with her. This is inacceptable behaviour.
That does NOT work very well as a longterm strategy!
I feel bad that she is so angry that she won't talk to me, of course I want to "FIX IT" and she just wants to process it... so now I just wait to see what she wants to do, pushing only makes things worse...
Its great you can finally get some peace and quiet around you 👍
The silent treatment means a man can actually have a bit of peace and quiet.
I like silent to much chatter over nonsense quit would be nice for a change
I don't tolerate it. either talk to me so we can move on. or hit the road sister
Initially irritating but now welcoming...😁 and I ain't jokin...
It’s immature, childish, and unproductive. It never solves anything and will make things worse
I don’t tolerate childishness from my partner. They are an adult, they need to act like one.
Silent treatment would quickly be called out and they would be told to grow the fuck up.
I just ignore her when she does that and before long she either gets mad at me or just stops playing the game.
It's more a reward than punishment honestly.
Just testing something
I don’t like it. At all.
I think it is a foolish tactic. It causes damage.
I act like a huge bitch and ignore them
I don't have boyfriend
I enjoy the peace and quiet lol
Childish
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