Those who are single, why are you single?

[Anonymous]

Trust issues? Waiting for the right person? Don't like to be in a relationship? Single by choice? Only interested in sex?

What’s your reason.

[juniorJack]

Relationships are never straightforwards, there is always give and take and you can never just base it on sex, it becomes a hollow relationship!
I have been single for a little while, not currently looking quite happily just ticking away and doing things I enjoy, after all one life live it.

[ghost1224]

So singkr because everyone women I date is toxic or turns toxic. I put up with too many toxic behavey for months that then turns me into a toxic person for a short while

[SolitarySolace]

- Trust issues.
- Resentment issues.
- Am Single by choice: Am too content being single and not having anyone to share my life with.

[Genie23]

Because I don't want to. After having nothing but only horrible experiences in every relationship, I became from too trusting and forgiving to having trust issues and not being able to forgive and forget that much. I've been lied to, cheated on. Manipulated (I guess I was naivé/innocent). I felt controlled and suffocated. I was taken for granted and wasn't treated good soon after I got into a relationship. When you show you are vulnerable to a wrong person, they can really take advantage of it and hurt you bad.

Besides, I was very much happy until I got into my first relationship. I've realized I feel happy and free whenever I'm single than I am in a relationship.

[n4meAL]

Are you really hurt or are you the one who hurt the man? Honestly, many women lie, when in fact they hurt the man.

[n4meAL]

😴😴

[Genie23]

@n4meAL What the fuck? Are you really that stupid or just pissed because I didn't respond to your messages, so you decide to talk crap to get rise out of me? I guess, it's because I refused to speak to you after you said you don't want to block someone even though you complained that she's harassing you as you do not want to remove her as a follower since you want to gain followers. SMH.

[maverick2022]

This may sound like a stretch but have you ever considered blaming yourself for your bad judgement and selection of men which led to your trust issues? I mean, you picked out the men in the first place. Who do you have to blame really?

[Aakash_Hangargi]

@Maverick2022.

I really don't know much about her.

But in our country daughters are loved more and cared for by most families.

There is certain disconnectivity with real world and people.

The life style is also very different and girls are guarded very much.

So that creates a gap for experience
Here dating is very different than in western countries most girls never date as well.

I believe in such cases emotional people are manipulated and there innocence takes time to understand to differentiate possesivness or abuse and people can manipulate and cheat no matter how carefully you choose.

It takes days months years to trust someone and yet it could be just an act and once they have used and bored they make reasons and leave they enact so well the person whose fallen in love can't understand what or where something went wrong.

I can understand what she means but it also don't depends on the circle of friends who introduce them in first place

[Lookingforthetruth]

in other words, dated Chad and got played and now have trust issues with men.

[OlderAndWiser]

I am single beause I got divorced and I have not met anyone who I wanted to be my forever partner, though my current girlfriend is a very strong contender.

[jennifer_bloom]

Don’t leave the house and don’t know enough guys my age - most of them 10 years younger than me.

[Slartybartfast]

Never got anything in return for what it cost me but pain and misery.
Dating isn't fun, approaching is nearly impossible, online dating will ruin a man's self esteem and it seems so one sided with all the risks, expense and responsibility on the mans side and absolutely nothing in return. It's like men have to beg just to have a conversation, it's humiliating and I refuse it. F### that!!

When I hit 30 and all I could expect is an obese, tattooed single mom with way way way to many exes, looking for a payday. Women I wouldn't have sex with for $100,000,000,000 walk around with giant egos, like they are some prize. It didn't matter that I exercise everyday, it didn't matter that I was financially secure , No children for me, I'm expected to raise some other guys children for them and accept their flaws while I'm held to a higher standard. A standard no women I know could live up to or could even come close to meeting. In other words , I get nothing I wanted from them no sex, no children, no support or love, not a partner in life, just a grown child with an endless list of demands. I'm just used as a paycheck and a servant with no respect.

[MCheetah]

Too short to find a compatible woman (sure, I can find gold-diggers, scammers, and drug addicts at my size, but not an actual good, decent, compatible woman who I'd be interested in and she'd be interested in me; it is impossible). This is the biggest reason why I'm single. If I was 6'5", I'd be happily married by now.

I'm also overweight though, and women don't like guys who are chubby the same as men don't like girls who are.

I'm ugly in the face.

I'm dark-skinned.

I'm now old (have been for eight years now).

I'm not rich/successful.

Lastly, I'm unwilling to be arrogant or treat a woman like sh*t. As a man, I know that's pretty much the key to getting a woman (if you look like I do), but I don't want to be a cocky douchebag just because women are drawn to that like flies on sh*t. So because I'm modest, women think I must be "low value" or some nonsense, so I'm not willing to play the game in order to attract or impress females.

I'd like to be in a relationship. Then again, I'd also like to be 6'5". But we can't all get what we want. However, those desires are ephemeral. Nothing more than an illusion and fantasy.

[Ray1980]

Trauma was my excuse for the longest time. I eventually decided enough was enough & I had to deal with those daemons. I had a way of subconsciously burning those that got too close.

I think I'm finally on the path to recovery now as I've had several shorter term relationships without issue. Still waiting to meet that one girl that really lights my fire:) I think I may have but only time will tell.

The way my moms nurse looks at me is beginning to become maddening & I can't stop thinking about her. She's always giving me those dreamy eyes & don't even hide it from her co-workers. I can tell you that head nurse hates me with a passion, lol.

She's been giving me all the signs, even took my BP when my ornery self asked what about my BP? I was just joking but she took the opportunity to get close & was more handsy than needed.

Next time I see her I'm going to look dead in her eyes, give my most charming smile & ask for her phone number. I'll do it right in front of the whole office:) I'm still kicking myself for not asking her then & there but my mom was there & was REALLY awkward.

She even mentioned "I think that girl really likes you", lol/

[JamesDiaz11]

The reason I am single is because I messed up the 4-year relationship I was just in. I'm generally not open with my feelings, which is from my combat-deployments in the Marines (etc.); so, I wasn't open with her when I was going through difficult times. Instead I turned to flirting with other girls, which crossed the line, and when she found out she rightfully left.
I want a relationship, and want to be married (and have a family), but I just don't connect with women like I did with her. I'm dating/ sleeping with half a dozen girls right now, and I honestly don't even like any of them (despite them being attractive).

[Asker]

This is deep. You definitely cared bro. I can tell.

[JamesDiaz11]

Thanks, man. I'm not always an a$$hole on here :D

[Asker]

Haha I’m sure you’re not. Some of us here I’m sure can see that.

[Levin]

That's a complicated question. A lot of it is definitely my fault.

Long story short, I've spent a lot of time working on myself. I have reasonable standards - Like I want more than just to get my dick wet with a a girl who sleeps around. And well, I've fucked lots of things up.

[Asker]

Good way to put it, I agree 109%

[Asker]

*100%

[D_Bone_Steak]

I'm not single, but as a dude that been married for over a decade and never had a hard time getting some... I wish I choose the single-by-choice route because I'm only interested in sex, brought on by trust issues, I've come to believe women are all the same so I don't believe in a "truly" right person and the relationship is only designed to restrict your options... while they look around and have all the courts on their side to take half your shit and bounce just because. ... yeah, just being real, as a male in America at least, you're being pretty wise by just enjoying your video games or whatever you like to do instead of ending up working your ass off and going on vacations you would have never wanted to take instead of playing video games (or whatever you whish you could've of actually done with your life).

[HighValue]

I haven't realistically had the time to maintain a relationship the last 2 1/2 years.
Before that it is because a lack of women good enough.

They usually have one or more of these disqualifiers: Used drugs, heavy alcohol drinker, have kids from a past relationship, have an unacceptable past, are fat, older than 30, have too many tattoos or a large tattoo that ruins their looks.
The majority of women have no chance of being a good match for me. There is no point in dating someone that I don't respect or like.
I am only interested in a LTR, not casual stuff.

The very few that seemed like a good match lived too far away.

[Little_Bumblebee]

I enjoy being single and I am not ready to get into a new relationship again

[Asker]

Aww it’s the little bumblebee!! Hey! Sorry I’m just a big fan haha

[Asker]

We exchanged a few words before lol!

[Little_Bumblebee]

Ah yeah,, hey!

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Because i was hopeless romantic from young age but i had this caring nature lol most girls saw a brother figure.

And i also don't speak unless i am spoken to 🤣.

Its kinda tricky also the one i liked never liked me and the ones that liked me wasn't attracted to them.

One of my friend on here told me lol you always like what you can't have and i said it seems like i always choose instinctly that i know could never have.

Its so comical once i liked a girl and spoke to my friend that this girl looks so fab.

Then he said what she's so dusky your taste sucks.

After few days i got her name googled
She was a freaking model and MS Green Earth.

I know i always chose like out of my reach kinda girls.

Coming to think of it it feels so weird how i have spent my life without a soft touch and love of partner and we'll nobody had that sort of interest in me so meh anyways life goes on..

[pass_the_celery98]

I think most girls don't want to date or be in relationships these days, these just prefer having a career, a pet and their own privacy in a condo or something. Which I totally get. But there's something special about meeting someone who loves you on a physical and mental level. Its on me as well, I don't go out as much as I should. We've had a pandemic for 2 years so I feel weird trying to go up to girls wearing a mask. I don't want her thinking I'm a mugger lol :- those would be my reasons, hopefully it changes. Going to really good shape, work on myself and just keep trying and being positive. I don't want to be a simp or some bitter guy because those are just ugly traits for a guy to have.

[melanieeeB]

I don't want to have a relationship right now, it's too exhausting to date around until you might get lucky and all the shitty people that you meet on the road and all the lies and playing games and the same as boring conversations... ughh I'm already exhausting by thinking about the process

[DermalPunch]

I am single because I am not looking for a casual "let's go with the flow" relationship that men like to lull women into low-comittment sex with. Also, I want to be with someone that I am attracted to whose actions and words match up which is basically no one.

[Yucy_Gluttony]

I don't interact with people! Not enough at least... What is love? What am I supposed to feel? I can get guys to like me, but I can't get myself to like them back. All while there is nothing wrong with the man. Once I solve that mystery I'll commit to dating actively again once more

[Spoder]

Love is not a feeling, it is a decision. It's like a child who is fascinated by planes and would like to be a pilot when he grows up. When he becomes that pilot, he feels something completely different than when he was a child. The feeling of fascination gradually faded as it turned into something better, something more mature. It is a decision to learn and acquire pilot skills. Pure love is a decision to love someone unconditionally - even if we don't feel it.

[Yucy_Gluttony]

@Spoder Can I DM you? I need some scolding and schooling on luvvvvvvv

[Spoder]

Sure. Ask whatever you want. I will try my best.

[Yucy_Gluttony]

@Spoder O boy O boy O boy! :)

[Spongeboblol]

Coz i haven't any femboy, they are all masculine men with hair all over their bodies like a jungle hotdog , euww grossss, they even never care daily skin care routines, leaving their skin unkissable, unsmooth, unlickable , disgusting , im so dominant on bed and like to suck all over body, these feel like receiveing a burger with no meat but only the bread , empty burger 🤮

[its_amelia_c]

No interested in being in a relationship. Not interested in being with anyone, full stop!


The whole idea of being with anyone does not appeal to me. It actually makes me feel sick.


It does not bring me joy or happiness. Being alone and not with a partner does not make me feel lonely.

[Nidal_AA]

In my country there is no such thing as getting a girlfriend/boyfriend... It all begins with marriage... And im not ready for marriage yet... Will need to finish my education and save up some money... So im guessing ill need 3 more years to begin looking for a partner

[ThinkFitness23]

For most being single is one of the following:


1. You don’t attracted the right type of person.


2. You are not open


3. You have grown use to your own company


4. You have never really been in love, most that have know the feeling long for that feeling again, to share a bed, to share a meal to share experiences and make memories like holidays.