Those who are single, why are you single?

Question

Trust issues? Waiting for the right person? Don't like to be in a relationship? Single by choice? Only interested in sex? What’s your reason.

juniorJack · Accepted Answer

Relationships are never straightforwards, there is always give and take and you can never just base it on sex, it becomes a hollow relationship!
I have been single for a little while, not currently looking quite happily just ticking away and doing things I enjoy, after all one life live it.

SolitarySolace · Accepted Answer

- Trust issues.  - Resentment issues.  - Am Single by choice: Am too content being single and not having anyone to share my life with.

Genie23 · Answer

Because I don't want to. After having nothing but only horrible experiences in every relationship, I became from too trusting and forgiving to having trust issues and not being able to forgive and forget that much. I've been lied to, cheated on. Manipulated (I guess I was naivé/innocent). I felt controlled and suffocated. I was taken for granted and wasn't treated good soon after I got into a relationship. When you show you are vulnerable to a wrong person, they can really take advantage of it and hurt you bad.

Besides, I was very much happy until I got into my first relationship. I've realized I feel happy and free whenever I'm single than I am in a relationship.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I am single beause I got divorced and I have not met anyone who I wanted to be my forever partner, though my current girlfriend is a very strong contender.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Don’t leave the house and don’t know enough guys my age - most of them 10 years younger than me.

Slartybartfast · Answer

Never got anything in return for what it cost me but pain and misery.
Dating isn't fun, approaching is nearly impossible, online dating will ruin a man's self esteem and it seems so one sided with all the risks, expense and responsibility on the mans side and absolutely nothing in return. It's like men have to beg just to have a conversation, it's humiliating and I refuse it. F### that!!

When I hit 30 and all I could expect is an obese, tattooed single mom with way way way to many exes, looking for a payday. Women I wouldn't have sex with for $100,000,000,000 walk around with giant egos, like they are some prize. It didn't matter that I exercise everyday, it didn't matter that I was financially secure , No children for me, I'm expected to raise some other guys children for them and accept their flaws while I'm held to a higher standard. A standard no women I know could live up to or could even come close to meeting. In other words , I get nothing I wanted from them no sex, no children, no support or love, not a partner in life, just a grown child with an endless list of demands. I'm just used as a paycheck and a servant with no respect.

MCheetah · Answer

Too short to find a compatible woman (sure, I can find gold-diggers, scammers, and drug addicts at my size, but not an actual good, decent, compatible woman who I'd be interested in and she'd be interested in me; it is impossible). This is the biggest reason why I'm single. If I was 6'5", I'd be happily married by now.

I'm also overweight though, and women don't like guys who are chubby the same as men don't like girls who are.

I'm ugly in the face.

I'm dark-skinned.

I'm now old (have been for eight years now).

I'm not rich/successful.

Lastly, I'm unwilling to be arrogant or treat a woman like sh*t. As a man, I know that's pretty much the key to getting a woman (if you look like I do), but I don't want to be a cocky douchebag just because women are drawn to that like flies on sh*t. So because I'm modest, women think I must be "low value" or some nonsense, so I'm not willing to play the game in order to attract or impress females.

I'd like to be in a relationship. Then again, I'd also like to be 6'5". But we can't all get what we want. However, those desires are ephemeral. Nothing more than an illusion and fantasy.

Ray1980 · Answer

Trauma was my excuse for the longest time. I eventually decided enough was enough & I had to deal with those daemons. I had a way of subconsciously burning those that got too close.

I think I'm finally on the path to recovery now as I've had several shorter term relationships without issue. Still waiting to meet that one girl that really lights my fire:) I think I may have but only time will tell.

The way my moms nurse looks at me is beginning to become maddening & I can't stop thinking about her. She's always giving me those dreamy eyes & don't even hide it from her co-workers. I can tell you that head nurse hates me with a passion, lol.

She's been giving me all the signs, even took my BP when my ornery self asked what about my BP? I was just joking but she took the opportunity to get close & was more handsy than needed.

Next time I see her I'm going to look dead in her eyes, give my most charming smile & ask for her phone number. I'll do it right in front of the whole office:) I'm still kicking myself for not asking her then & there but my mom was there & was REALLY awkward.

She even mentioned "I think that girl really likes you", lol/

JamesDiaz11 · Answer

The reason I am single is because I messed up the 4-year relationship I was just in. I'm generally not open with my feelings, which is from my combat-deployments in the Marines (etc.); so, I wasn't open with her when I was going through difficult times. Instead I turned to flirting with other girls, which crossed the line, and when she found out she rightfully left.
I want a relationship, and want to be married (and have a family), but I just don't connect with women like I did with her. I'm dating/ sleeping with half a dozen girls right now, and I honestly don't even like any of them (despite them being attractive).

Levin · Answer

That's a complicated question. A lot of it is definitely my fault.

Long story short, I've spent a lot of time working on myself. I have reasonable standards - Like I want more than just to get my dick wet with a a girl who sleeps around. And well, I've fucked lots of things up.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I'm not single, but as a dude that been married for over a decade and never had a hard time getting some... I wish I choose the single-by-choice route because I'm only interested in sex, brought on by trust issues, I've come to believe women are all the same so I don't believe in a "truly" right person and the relationship is only designed to restrict your options... while they look around and have all the courts on their side to take half your shit and bounce just because. ... yeah, just being real, as a male in America at least, you're being pretty wise by just enjoying your video games or whatever you like to do instead of ending up working your ass off and going on vacations you would have never wanted to take instead of playing video games (or whatever you whish you could've of actually done with your life).

HighValue · Answer

I haven't realistically had the time to maintain a relationship the last 2 1/2 years.
Before that it is because a lack of women good enough.

They usually have one or more of these disqualifiers: Used drugs, heavy alcohol drinker, have kids from a past relationship, have an unacceptable past, are fat, older than 30, have too many tattoos or a large tattoo that ruins their looks.
The majority of women have no chance of being a good match for me. There is no point in dating someone that I don't respect or like.
I am only interested in a LTR, not casual stuff.

The very few that seemed like a good match lived too far away.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

I enjoy being single and I am not ready to get into a new relationship again

pass_the_celery98 · Answer

I think most girls don't want to date or be in relationships these days, these just prefer having a career, a pet and their own privacy in a condo or something. Which I totally get. But there's something special about meeting someone who loves you on a physical and mental level. Its on me as well, I don't go out as much as I should. We've had a pandemic for 2 years so I feel weird trying to go up to girls wearing a mask. I don't want her thinking I'm a mugger lol :- those would be my reasons, hopefully it changes. Going to really good shape, work on myself and just keep trying and being positive. I don't want to be a simp or some bitter guy because those are just ugly traits for a guy to have.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Because i was hopeless romantic from young age but i had this caring nature lol most girls saw a brother figure.

And i also don't speak unless i am spoken to 🤣.

Its kinda tricky also the one i liked never liked me and the ones that liked me wasn't attracted to them.

One of my friend on here told me lol you always like what you can't have and i said it seems like i always choose instinctly that i know could never have.

Its so comical once i liked a girl and spoke to my friend that this girl looks so fab.

Then he said what she's so dusky your taste sucks.

After few days i got her name googled
She was a freaking model and MS Green Earth.

I know i always chose like out of my reach kinda girls.

Coming to think of it it feels so weird how i have spent my life without a soft touch and love of partner and we'll nobody had that sort of interest in me so meh anyways life goes on..

melanieeeB · Answer

I don't want to have a relationship right now, it's too exhausting to date around until you might get lucky and all the shitty people that you meet on the road and all the lies and playing games and the same as boring conversations... ughh I'm already exhausting by thinking about the process

DermalPunch · Answer

I am single because I am not looking for a casual "let's go with the flow" relationship that men like to lull women into low-comittment sex with. Also, I want to be with someone that I am attracted to whose actions and words match up which is basically no one.

Yucy_Gluttony · Answer

I don't interact with people! Not enough at least... What is love? What am I supposed to feel? I can get guys to like me, but I can't get myself to like them back. All while there is nothing wrong with the man. Once I solve that mystery I'll commit to dating actively again once more

Spongeboblol · Answer

Coz i haven't any femboy, they are all masculine men with hair all over their bodies like a jungle hotdog , euww grossss, they even never care daily skin care routines, leaving their skin unkissable, unsmooth, unlickable , disgusting , im so dominant on bed and like to suck all over body, these feel like receiveing a burger with no meat but only the bread , empty burger 🤮

its_amelia_c · Answer

No interested in being in a relationship. Not interested in being with anyone, full stop!

The whole idea of being with anyone does not appeal to me. It actually makes me feel sick.

It does not bring me joy or happiness. Being alone and not with a partner does not make me feel lonely.

Nidal_AA · Answer

In my country there is no such thing as getting a girlfriend/boyfriend... It all begins with marriage... And im not ready for marriage yet... Will need to finish my education and save up some money... So im guessing ill need 3 more years to begin looking for a partner

ThinkFitness23 · Answer

For most being single is one of the following:

1. You don’t attracted the right type of person.

2. You are not open

3. You have grown use to your own company

4. You have never really been in love, most that have know the feeling long for that feeling again, to share a bed, to share a meal to share experiences and make memories like holidays.

Switch91 · Answer

I'm terrible at speaking online and my dating app profiles are just the worst. Maybe getting a match every couple weeks, which is usually a bot 😂
I'm better IRL but it's difficult meeting new people. Meeting someone who actually finds me attractive is even harder.
It's cool though, I'll find someone some day 🙂

Irunya41 · Answer

I'm not brave enough to come out in person and hope there will be another girl who makes the hate worth it, and long distant I don't know I can maintain

rini02 · Answer

I single because being single makes life less complicated. One thing is that I am in love with someone (one sided) and he's never gonna consider me as an option. So if I get into a relationship I won't able to love that person. Therefore the best choice for me is to stay single.

CoffeeBeanBlack · Answer

Well my last major partner broke things off and my most recent attempt at partnership also didn't stick. Other than that, I'm in school, am significantly less confident than I was 5 years ago, often dispassionate about putting myself out there, don't trust myself to choose good long term partners (need to go to therapy for that, pretty sure I'm overreacting to the emotional pain). Sustaining a desire to pair feels somehow taxing, but id love yo give it another shot.

ARWINGx1 · Answer

"Trust issues?" for one, yes.

The other is... well, in short, I strongly prefer a more unorthodox type of relationship, but won't bother get my hopes up due to non-traditional relationships being rare. (as far as I know)

As well as that I feel that I barely know myself, and could inadvertently 'cause "pain" to whomever I'd date.

n4meAL · Answer

there are 2 girls she likes me but lol she not my type😔 , why i never got my ideal type😴😴😔 and also problems my mom allowed me to have a girlfriend when i graduated from college

my mom said "you are still a kid and still dependent live with me aren't you ashamed!!"

oh damn those are very painful words he spoke in front of my big family when i was joking i have a girlfriend

BossLady16 · Answer

It's been over 10 years since I've been on th dating scene. (Split 2 years ago).. I've tried dating apps and even streamed live for a bit. However, I only got pervs and scammers. Guess, I should make more of an effort to meet people but Netflix in bed is my comfort zone.

maverick2022 · Answer

I rarely find myself attracted to a woman both physically and mentally. If such a woman exists, she is also most likely already taken. In the end, I'm not motivated enough to go looking because the odds look far from great. Some people are more willing to compromise their own values just to not be alone.

Dburns1268 · Answer

I'm a 51 yo white single female.. have had a friends with benefits for 6 years. This works for me cuz I have multiple sclerosis that has progressed and I have mobility issues. I could never ask a guy to commit to me when I have this disease.

kinggeorge007 · Answer

Mostly trust issues, then I have high standards, and then with the time, I realised I can be on my own without someone else. I see the hassle other people in. So yeah it's a mix of everything. I haven't closed the doors. But not everyone's gonna get passed through either.

Anonymous · Answer

I have health issues and it does make it a bit harder for me to put sustained effort into dating, but currently, it's 100% my own fault. I have put zero effort in, and as a result have gotten zero effort out. Guys, the sky, the universe...they've done nothing to put me in the single lady position, so I can't be upset.

Anonymous · Answer

Most guys are just liars, cheaters, manipulators, selfish and they only wanna hook up with me, play games with me, etc. I have trust issues, resentment issues, I’m fed up. I’ve been hurt, abused in a variety of ways, lied to, cheated on, used, taken advantage of. So I’m done until I find the right person (or they find me). I care, love and trust too much and hardly anyone appreciates someone with a good heart like mine nowadays

Slim57 · Answer

Lots of reasons, don't really care enough not to be, can't find a girl similar enough to me whatsoever, most girls in my age range within 10 years older or younger aren't interested in me and I'm not interested in most of them, biggest reason there's too many people nowadays that lie, cheat, and get bored with the relationship easily when it gets tough

ghost1224 · Answer

I stayed ina toxic relationship with a mental ill person.. she got better but then I turned metal ill from dealing with her bs and blowup. I ended up finding the perfect girl ex come back i was in a open relationship.. toxic ex girlfriend fucked with my mind and I fucked everything up. I should have just stayed with the new girl im currently going no connection to work on myself and helping the new girl comes back ... I never met someone so perfect and most likely never will agin

DevinAM · Answer

Avoiding dating during my school years certainly didn't help any. Of course not many women seem to be interested in a guy who can't drive & lives with his parents, I'm working on those though.

RandomGuy1030 · Answer

Literally a waste of time not to be single. Unless you have to work 12 hours a day and just want free sex every day

Vick2828 · Answer

Truth be told, I was in a relationship with the mother of my kids. Broke up and have been single since. I tried being with multiple people, but they are in this what I called figuring it out stage. Some are immature and selfish and don't understand anything at all. I have recently been talking to this girl, and it was a nightmare. I'm single cause people just don't know what they want.

vita00 · Answer

It’s funny but everytime I met someone that might be a potential lover they end up moving abroad; in the other hand if they don’t move abroad there’s no chemistry/ don’t have the same relationship goals.

Anonymous · Answer

Partly by choice but adding my lacking finances, ruinous range of health conditions and being unattractive

McKellar · Answer

Probably because they don't feel a connection with me, & I'm not their type. The next girl I meet will be no different.  So I just flip the bird to them all and say "To hell with them".

cth96190 · Answer

When I was younger than 30, females did not want me. They wanted exciting sociopathicc bad boys. By the time that I was 35, women wanted me, but I was too bitter and resentful to be interested.

Anonymous · Answer

I am single because I choose to be.
Women have poisoned the dating world with entitlement, endless shit tests and games, insane expectations, false victim bullshit, etc.

I don’t see females as beneficial to me relationship wise. I will have sex with them from time to time but nothing more.

GagsUgliestMember · Answer

Many reasons lol, low self esteem, feeling ugly and like I don't deserve a girlfriend.. social anxiety, awkward... Introverted... No social skills.. coward and scared to go outside...

IDontBelieveIt · Answer

not out of choice, too many takers one sided, not loyal, can't trust...

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

The same pussy day after day gets old fast. Variety is the spice of life.

JoyGirl · Answer

@themajesticking777 So, this is the only single friend I know at the moment, and I will speak for him. 😌 He just has his guns up his a$$. That is all. 🤪 🚪🚶🏾‍♀️

Splatmate22 · Answer

It at the moment is a choice. Had a very bad experience with previous ex boyfriends that had cheated. Some friends that were some younger girls just gain my trust to temp some guys that did have a relationship.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I was single before 22, because I had trust issues and the fear of falling in love with, that’s because I’ve only had bad examples in my life and I didn’t want the same in my life.

Apulu_Imback · Answer

I'm not really looking for relationships in this young age. I will be ready to face it but I'm not willingly looking for a relationship. And I'm focusing more on my passion.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I think I tend to do better by myself. And I don't have to deal with another person's issues, or their family... LOL... But I am open. I might change my mind if I meet the right woman.

Anonymous · Answer

Girls do not love me. I really don't know why they don't love me 😐🙁🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

padreflint · Answer

Single by choice right now. Getting divorced and don't see any upside to having a long term relationship anymore. Not when future ex is looking to take everything.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

My financial situation isn't ideal for me right now to be in a relationship at my age which is marriage. Hopefully soon see a increase that I desire. 🙏

BareTruth · Answer

Came to the realization I was in an abusive situation for 4 years to which it came to 10 people being a part of it then other girls I met want to be my girlfriend but don’t want to get married and have kids

kuladiamond · Answer

Mostly waiting for the right person, plus i need to get my own life sorted out before i can even start thinking about things like that, its complicated.

Fukaroo · Answer

Single by choice. I'm selfish and choose to focus on my business and myself. I've been with a lot of women honestly. All of which were great relationships at the time. It doesn't bring a sense of purpose like my business does.

zyxacb · Answer

I'm still waiting for a woman I can date, around my age, without competing with a computer (and usually a 2nd on their wrist) for attention throughout the duration of the entire relationship... still searching.

Better_off_here · Answer

I am single because i have autism, and i hate that i am not able to talk to women and i feel lonely and i hate that i am not able to get a date but i do want one i do want to be with a woman.

bolverk · Answer

By choice, I travel a lot with work and decided early on that I would stay single.

Phoenix-gb · Answer

I'd say it's not meeting the right person, but the effective feeling is that I'm just not good enough.

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