To all single people, why are you single?

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Justneedtokno · Accepted Answer

Because I’m so focused on what I don’t bring to the table yet.(the insecurity of not being enough) Not very trusting. Very used to doing things on my own.

lovedejj_xo · Accepted Answer

I dont know Im not worried though

markml · Answer

Two reasons:

1. I'm not good at meeting people. I wouldn't say I'm completely anti-social, but I'm really shy, not an extravert, and I don't know how to meet the kind of women I would want to date anyway.

2. I'm really scared of having my heartbroken. My limited experiences with love have all been such unpredictable disaster stories that I could write a novel about them. Like truly unbelievable stuff that you wouldn't think would happen to you in a million years, and has happened to nobody else I know. Let's just say I've been on medication for years after one girl I dated for only a few months, and doctors still can't explain what happened to me, but there's a theory that certain stress event can actually trigger chronic physical symptoms.

I sometimes feel like I'm the most unlucky person in the world. I know that's not literally true. There are people who are starving, or live in war-torn countries like Ukraine, but when it comes to love and relationships, I feel extremely unlucky.

NovaCourier · Answer

Little interest in my teenage years. I was approached once and I turned her down as I was depressed and grieving the deaths of 3 close family members, including my dad. I was also 14 at the time and knew I wouldn't have a clue what I would be doing if I tried dating at that age. Dating at 14 is about bragging rights more than anything else and by 16 until one's early to mid 20s, it's mainly about sex.

I hate being overconfident as I always pay dearly for it, so dating for bragging rights seemed like a bad idea. Also, I hit puberty quite late and, even now, I have a naturally very low sex drive, so sex doesn't matter much to me either.

Other than that, I always prioritised my education first.

Now, I'm in uni. Again, my main focus is on my education and finding work. Once I have that in order, I may start looking to date girls, but I've never been very convinced that I'm boyfriend material.

For this reason, I don't even really know exactly what kind of girls I would want or be able to date, as I've never given it much thought.

I don't catch flirting by girls easily and I refrain from flirting myself because I don't want to risk creeping a girl out, or doing something she might mistake for an intentional violation of her boundaries. Perhaps I'm over compensating for the irresponsible behaviour of some men, but I can't help but react this way, due to the stereotypes about men being sex craving lunatics.

Lionman95 · Answer

There are too many reasons.
1. I've never been in a relationship and I don't have the social circle for offline dating and not enough money for online dating.
2. I still kind of don't feel ready for a relationship because I still don't have a proper job and I'm not sure if I'm ready in terms of character to date since I'm not very outgoing and rather a day dreamer.
3. I've been a porn addict most of my youth and I've a fall back in the lock downs of Covid. I feel my picture of women and my self confidence is too distorted to date. I feel like any woman I like would reject me so I never approach anyone just to avoid any embarrassing situation. I'm a complete failure when it comes to read body language and chances are high that I wouldn't get it if a woman flirts with me therefore I can't tell if and when something like that happened.
4. I take what feels like years falling in love, I never had a situation where I knew quickly if I could imagine a relationship with a woman quickly.
5. I have a hard time because I'm actually not very interested in sex since I'm infertile due to a genetically dysfunction (klinefelter) which is a problem because the Christian girls I met so far what kids of their own they have protected with their husband while many I met online either where size queens or rejected me saying that they are not into skinny guys.
So I currently workout to look like Jason Statham or at least have his arm power to increase my strength in general.

idk87334F · Answer

WELL!! Because all of the guys that I had a crush on rejected me to put it bluntly. But I realized them that I liked them for shallow reasons, and God protected me from getting my heart broken, so I'm super glad everything turned out the way they did. I also believe being single is a good thing, and that we can't necessarily grow a lot as compared as having someone by our side always. Some people choose to be single the rest of their lives, and some don't. Either way I hope they're happy! God bless you!

Wsx2wsx2ws · Answer

I want to be friends first. Thing is everyone is so wrapped up in themselves they don't seem to want to bother with real flesh and blood people.
In our brake room everyone is looking at their phones. I talk to anyone and they sigh, roll their eyes, look sternly at me like I am talking during a cinema movie. But I still do it. I want them to know I care about them personally. A few struck up a conversation with me since. But the techtrance is pretty powerful.

I am reading a few female comments they're too affectionate. I hope you don't give that up. It just needs to be tempered at first so its not blinding the other qualities people need to see. I love affection, snuggling, cuddling, little whispers. But a friendship needs to develop first if the rest is going to work, in my humble opinion.

DoctorSex · Answer

As my name suggests, I've been with a lot of women. Before I hit 27 I was round about 100 women in.
I believe once you get over the thrill of sexual intercourse as a man and move past that into a spiritual space, you don't crave women. I sincerely don't crave women at all, I prefer the company of men.
I do want to get married one day and my overall goal is to be a father, but this spiritual journey I'm on at present is a delightful!
Besides, there's nothing much out there in the dating market that suits my needs.

kind regards,

DoctorSex

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

I'm focused on my own life atm.
I've had two long term relationships previously and I learned a lot about myself during them.

For now, I'm happy spending time making myself and my life something I'd be happy to date if I were looking.

And I'm focusing on expanding my network in the sapphic scene, since I'm not interested in dating another cis straight man. Bisexual men at the least, but ideally I'm looking to date a woman or enby.

I'm less than 6 months out of breaking off my engagement to my ex-fiancé (just in time, he's gone full off the white boy conspiracy deep end as he moved back into his mother's basement where she watches only Fox).

I'm not in a rush and I'm not emotionally ready for another relationship right now, anyways.

For the next year or so, probably, I'm just gonna focus on me. Keep growing into my full authentic self to share with my future partner.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

A number of problems. I’m not really interested in casually dating, I have high belief and religious standards and I’m afraid to put myself out there because even if I meet the right person I feel like something with happen that will ruin it. Seen almost everyone’s stable happy marriages crumble over the last couple of years. There is too much financial incentive to break off a marriage instead of working through issues. So not only do you have to worry about heartbreak but being graped through the courts.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

As for me I’m single & accepting applications & when it comes to being single I’m single because I simply choose to be. On the flip side if love happens to kick me in the ass & I meet that special wonderful someone I’ll welcome a relationship all the way.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Got me!!
Any girl that had me was QUITE happy with me, at the time!! I'm VERY loving and loyal, I don't cheat or lie, I take care of her as well as I can. What's NOT to like? Oh, yeah!! I forgot! Women prefer guys that beat them up!! THAT'S the biggest reason I don't have one! I don't do violence!!
Otherwise, maybe, to them, I'm too tall, too ugly, or they're afraid my dick is too big for them. All 3 girls I was with loved my dick and had no problems with it.
Most often, they're already spoken for!! Strange, isn't it? There's now 3 girls for every guy on the planet but I can't find a single one that's not spoken for!! At least not 18 or over!

ChiTown33 · Answer

I have no compelling reason to not be. Don't get me wrong. I want companionship as much as the next guy. Most ladies reaction to me appears to be lukewarm. Relationships take effort. I'm not going to enter into a relationship just for the sake of being in one. I'd rather stay single for the rest of my life then be in a relationship that we both didn't want to give a full effort to.
If I meet a likeminded woman that shows me she wants to be part of my life. Not me being just an accessory in hers then this will change until then I'm quite happy being single.

libsaretards · Answer

I am career-focused. My reply is lengthy but related to the question if you read all the way through so bear with me.

I just took another Correction's position and am currently in the first of an 8-week academy. I will graduate somewhere in the week of August 18th then a 6-month probation that last until February before my position is considered secure. I have yet to decide if I will remain in Corrections or go for my original goal of being a police officer. The county I am in is Corrections and Civil Warrants only due to us having a major city that handles all policing in the county and this county pays very well and has many opportunities to explore.

I will know in a year or so whether I will stay with the County or go for the Police Department. Once this final move has been made and I get the last of my financial issues straight, I might feel more comfortable devoting time to dating.

FootfetishistBoy · Answer

Many reasons.
Im still a student, and i have a hard time being with people when im busy.

I dont think im mentally prepared to be in a relationship, especially because of anxiety and stress problems.

I would say I have a good looking face, but generally my overall physique is not one of the most favorable ones for women, cause im 5'5, and not very muscular, so fear of rejection and performance is in my head.

But all that will change in time, im a hardworking fella, but for now my studies is the first priority

scott04sa22 · Answer

I just don’t have the energy or the stamina for relationships anymore. Since middle school until now 2022 I just can’t find anybody good anymore because I been hurt way too many times and all the pain has finally took a toll on me and the sex always exhaust me now and the healings takes longer for me now. I just can’t do it anymore and months i been trying to telling people I’m unable to have any romantic relationships because I been hurt way too many times and I don’t drive at all for right now.

Fuentes · Answer

By choice, I like peace and not dealing with random female outburst of emotion and attitude when nothing is wrong and that ruins your day cause now your stuck playing mental gymnastics with her until she decides to go back to being herself again.

And I don't like to think for other people it's super hard to find a girlfriend who has common sense and normal daily thinks I do not need to explain to her about or doing something she should clearly know would ruin the relationship, if I was doing that.

BHooper · Answer

Solely based on my insecurities and anxiety that doesn't allow me to put myself out there. There is one girl who I could actually see myself asking out (for the first time in my life. I've never had this confidence before.) but she's in a relationship already. We're good friends though.

TenderFantasy · Answer

Too busy with school and trying to get my career off the ground

Guys suck. At least from my past experience with them and I don't mean the good kind of suck (the sexy kind) but the ass hole kind, the jerk kind!

MCheetah · Answer

I've stated this before on GAG.

- Too short
- Unattractive face (ugly)
- Chubby
- Not financially successful (wealthy)
- Unwilling to simp, bribe, or beg a woman to "pity-date" me
- I'm a smart-ass and sarcastic
- I'm not cocky, arrogant, or egotistical, and I don't want to be (even if it would help a bit with women)

Cherry234 · Answer

I don't even have a job yet so I'm not going to bother dating anyone. Plus, I haven't met anyone yet where an actual relationship would work out and who also feels the same way about me as I do about him.

BlueStripedSoul · Answer

I'm single because, sadly, I have just never met "The One" - my soulmate. However, I am also a very different kind of person with different interests, worldviews, outlooks on life, etc. (not in an extreme or intentionally contradictory way, just... different), so it's just never been easy for me to find someone to connect with on a deeper level. With that said, my eyes and my heart are always open, but it just hasn't happened yet. *sighs*

NathanDavis · Answer

because that was my choice... been single since shortly after the pandemia started, and then as it all happened I got REALLY busy with business, and then I just have not been looking for any of the sort since then...

and I'm not in a rush either... whatever happens, will happen, as it always has been... lol (=

qwert1234 · Answer

My ex and I broke up couple of months ago, and I have not kept my body on "dating figure".
And add that to my current work-at-home status, I don't go out much hence not able to meet new people.
Maybe after fixing my life and getting confidence back.

blissinanarchy1 · Answer

I have the intention for whatever relationship I get in to be the last. My standards are too high for most women, and it isn’t even about looks.

Has goals, open communication, emotionally supportive, puts in effort, hasn’t fucked a bunch of people, doesn’t talk to anyone she had sex with in the past, no only fans or anything similar, has her own car, has the same intent to make her relationship final.

FinneasWilson · Answer

Because I'm fed up with people treating me like garbage,

I've learnt throughout my life that I don't need nor want anyone in my life. I do get bored and lonely at times but I'd rather that than all the drama of being with a partner.

Had a partner dumped them over a month ago and the creep won't leave me alone so yeah don't need or want anyone.

RACSKC0B · Answer

I gave up.  Women I date, hate me shortly after we start dating, and then I start hating them back. It sucks. So I stopped trying.

Xrynx · Answer

Well to put it short i have been occupied in life with certain things and dealing with my own mental health plus i have never asked a girl out or been asked out before so thats my answer.

ChillTime101 · Answer

Because every guy I like either doesn't like me back or is too shy to tell me how he really feels. And to be honest I have high standards because of guys I've seen on tv. I also feel clingy so maybe that's why as well.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

I always fall prey to the Big 3 Bs: Batshit, Bots, and Bullshit.

She's either Amber Heard levels of crazy, a bot trying to steal my money, or I find myself living in an extra-sadistic Nicholas Sparks novel.

It gets exhausting.

MrPickles13 · Answer

Tbh I don't know I've never really had enough interaction with dating/trying to know for sure. But mostly I think it's either my appearance, my shyness/anxiety issues or just something with my inability to write a profile or possibly even just who I am.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I tend to be pretty self sufficient and I am usually happier being without a partner. Although the right one can come along. Not actively looking to date right now. There are a few women who I "hang out" with but I'm not actually dating any.

Still-alive · Answer

bad financial situation currently, still have to live with my parents, and also frankly i haven't really tried yet.

Sour-rose · Answer

Because I've been in this city too long and somewhere I don't wanna stay. Also don't do long distance relationships, no one talks to me longer than a few weeks. Or less, a day.

Zeus_66 · Answer

To all married people, why are you married? Yet another insanely ridiculous GAG question.

Drik_Triztn · Answer

i was a victem of bullying... been in a few bad relationships that left me traumatized...
as a result I lost an odd number of years coping with things like depression and anxiety and as such I was basically... emotionally unavailable...

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

I've never really bothered trying TBH, I don't fancy my chances. Even if a girl has some interest, she'd have to be pretty direct with me.

Whatever2929292 · Answer

Really hard to get out anymore. Kind of in hard times. Don't talk to a lot of people. Refuse to do online dating.

GurlMaster40 · Answer

Because 3 months ago I broke up with my ex, and I am kinda trying to get closer to the guy I like and seems to like me back.

AviatorTom · Answer

I'm not single now, I'm in a committed relationship, but the most recent time I was single was because I had just gotten divorced. and I wasn't looking to settle down just yet.

beebella · Answer

A lot of reasons, but I'm also just used to being single at this point. I can't really imagine what I'd be like in a relationship, tbh.

Birdlegs · Answer

Cuz after I graduate I want to move across the country and I don’t want to have to bring someone along with me if they don’t want something like that

MountAverage · Answer

Because me and my ex eventually accepted that while we love each other, we don't work as a couple anymore. We'll continue to be close friends, maybe even more, whatever feels right for us. But other than that, we both need to do our things for now.

Crankor · Answer

Aside from not minding it. I don't go out for the purpose of socializing with random people. If I did, it would have to be through an activity not just sit and talk. I keep myself plenty busy for it to not be a big deal either way

Guardian45 · Answer

My marriage crashed and burned in flames! I'm gun-shy now.

SiberFox · Answer

Working on myself, haven't spent much time looking lately, have to be better to get better.

EarthRealm · Answer

Because i have No sexual attraction no sexual desire no sexual Orientation it took me 2 years To cure myself of sexual orientation but I did it and I’ve never felt better  About something

TacosRAwesome · Answer

It's too soon and I want to get in shape before dating. I know the usual bs of the right person will like you as you are and what not but I want to look my best.

Dawn183 · Answer

Because I don't put myself out there. I'm more focused on my studies

Hawner · Answer

I stopped looking for someone and I am not interested in anyone looking for me.

Lucy68 · Answer

Cause I'm overly affectionate in relationships and can be a little clingy unfortunate

TexasRed95 · Answer

I'm very awkward and can't manage to communicate with someone long enough for them to get to know me. And it's also just way too stressful trying to date.

zagor · Answer

I haven't met anyone who's convinced me to change that status. An object at rest remains at rest, an object in motion remains in motion, unless acted on by an outside force.

Crafteroon · Answer

"Oh my god, Karen, you can't just ask why they are" ... single.

JakeS00 · Answer

I'm open to it, but I'm growing more in my career right now.

TwiNshichamp1 · Answer

Ummm, Iam single because I focus on my studies and Basketball carrier now. I will get my girlfriend on college and when I want to get one.

driven159 · Answer

If I didn't have to take care of my wife, I would be single and travel all over America and fish as many bodies of water that I could and catch as many types of fish I can

countrygirl8754 · Answer

Just broke up with my ex fiance for cheating on me.

CloudMassacre · Answer

I have poor self esteem and anxiety so I just don’t feel comfortable trying to be with someone

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Just tired of female bullshit. Seriously, at my stage of life I don't have the energy to repeat high school.

madetostroke · Answer

the girl has to believe in Christ  and most women do not  so basically their are barely any girls I wanna date for sex their are plenty of girls

boobliker · Answer

I love myself first then others second so my SO says

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