We are exclusive, having sex and dating, but he says he is not ready for a relationship yet, nor is in a hurry to be in one. What is happening? (Page 2)

[DaisyM23]

I dunno, sounds like he's got a few problems if you're practically in a relationship in all but name

[Lionman95]

I think he is afraid of taking a further step into making it official.

[Imkass]

No point in being in a relationship you guys should’ve waited before you had that title

[Ezure]

If you don't feel the same way or if you have feelings for this guy, I'd say move on.. You wouldn't wanna get hurt

[BoobMan]

Isn't what you're doing the definition of a relationship?

What now about $30K? That seems to have come from left field!

[chulo1992]

He does not want the headache and the stress of a relationship. He probably has a full time job and does not want another one.

[007kingifrit]

men would be content forever in this state. you are already giving him everything he wants. you need to MAKE HIM

[Asker]

Make him...

[007kingifrit]

yea, tell him what you want, if he doesn't want to give it to you your relationship is over

[sheikalana]

You're basically in a relationship already he just doesn't want to label it.

[ODC2112]

I don't understand these American things. In my view, after two or three times you have sex with a partner you are automatically in a relationship.

[TruthBringer]

This isn't an American thing only. It's more of a western thing. This is quite apparent here in western Europe as well. The issue is that today's society doesn't value relationships as our grandparents did. The mistake this girl (OP) made was giving sex to a guy who hasn't committed to her, in the first place.

[Becky316]

Sorry but he's using you as a place holder and/or a side piece as he looks elsewhere

[noohair]

He is in a relationship and does the comprehend it. And you are an idiot for staying with him.
If I was your dad, that is what I would tell you.

[SignedAutographs]

If you're exclusive, then he's afraid to finally put the label on it, because that means he's then lying about it

[LivingExample]

It sounds like you are in a “Relationship.” You need to ask him what his definition of a “Relationship” is!

[Oliverklozoff]

Sounds like only one of you thinks it's actually exclusive. His options are still open. More like friends with benefits's.

[Asker]

Not a situationship?

[Asker]

We discussed from the beginning we want a serious relationship. We discussed the future while dating and having sex, how much children we want and in how many years time. We always looked at money aswell, he lost his job and has dept, finally got back a job too.

It's just recently we had a discussion saying he is not ready for a relationship yet and I dunno what that means.

[Poppykate]

He is still shopping… 🛍

[Jamie05rhs]

What is happening is you're giving out free pussy. Congratulations.

[Jamie05rhs]

Re: update: I always recommend doing a background check on anyone you're planning to have sex with.

[Staximus]

Sounds like you two are already in relationship and he's in denial

[Jay3344]

After one year of dating and having sex…you’re in a relationship

[Agape93]

He's using you

[lucas262]

I think he's already there except in name only I mean if it's exclusive

[RandomGuy1030]

Sounds like you found a second version of me. So what he means is relationships are literally useless. He is emotionally and financially independent

[JamesRandiDebates]

He's in a relationship whether he wants to admit it or not. Obviously he just doesn't like the word, so don't push it.

[Anonymous]

This is a relationship, even if he doesn't say so. Have you cheated or dumped someone for being poor in the past that he knows of? It's hard for some people to invest time they won't get back

[VoteForLarryHussey]

You should tell him that you will not change if you have a wedding ring. Women do change into bad people when they get married.

[DermalPunch]

Dearest -- he's wasting your time.

[Anonymous]

o sadece senin vücudundan faydalanıyor. seks yapmayı bırakmalısın

[Opinion Owner]

he's just taking advantage of your body. you should stop having sex

[Anonymous]

you are just a pussy for his desires. He cares less for you and if you get pregnant , you will never see him again

[itsalyssaagain]

he's using you. He will never commit to you.

[bamesjond0069]

Just using you for sex. Its a tale as old as time.

[TacosRAwesome]

He's comfortable / you're too available.

[HawkPerception]

Did he pay for your meal on a restaurant date?

[Asker]

He always would til he lost his job

[HawkPerception]

Well that answers my question

[Asker]

Which is?

[doe9de]

he's probably just looking for something casual.

[Asker]

Meaning?

[red324]

He means you aren't the only girl he's fucking.

[red324]

Something isn't right here. If you're exclusive then you're in a relationship.

[Asker]

We discussed from the beginning we want a serious relationship. We discussed the future while dating and having sex, how much children we want and in how many years time. We always looked at money aswell, he lost his job and has dept, finally got back a job too.

It's just recently we had a discussion saying he is not ready for a relationship yet and I dunno what that means.

[doe9de]

Do you really want me to say it sex he's looking for sex.

[Asker]

So all the talk about the future is just bs?

[red324]

I'm getting tired of this honestly. We look for more than that. Do you really think every human being just wants to be lonely and by himself all the time? We need love too.

[Drumlin2001]

Sounds like friends with benefits

[Asker]

How? We date, i met his friends...

[Asker]

We discussed from the beginning we want a serious relationship. We discussed the future while dating and having sex, how much children we want and in how many years time. We always looked at money aswell, he lost his job and has dept, finally got back a job too.

It's just recently we had a discussion saying he is not ready for a relationship yet and I dunno what that means.

[mb120101]

maybe he wants to keep his social media clear

[exitseven]

He is having his cake and eating it too.

[Daniela1982]

Exactly!

[Fireguy17]

News flash, that seems like a relationship to me.

[penteractgaming]

You are exclusive, he doesn't plan to be.

[Asker]

doesn't exclusive mean only seeing u?
Or does it mean something else?

[penteractgaming]

"doesn't plan to" refers to the future not the present. Not wanting to commit comes off as wanting the security of a relationship without being beholden to it.

[Asker]

We discussed from the beginning we want a serious relationship. We discussed the future while dating and having sex, how much children we want and in how many years time. We always looked at money aswell, he lost his job and has dept, finally got back a job too.

It's just recently we had a discussion saying he is not ready for a relationship or feelings yet and i dunno what that meant.

[penteractgaming]

Well what would it mean if you said that to someone?

[Asker]

So he is lying?

[TallAnon]

Commitment issues

[Asker]

He ex of 10 years hurt and robbed him.

[TallAnon]

Adds up

[Asker]

So u think he's using me for the sex

[TallAnon]

Nah, he doesn't know what he wants. He's healing.

[Lis-the-librarian]

I dont think he likes you all that much, sorry

[Anonymous]

He doesn’t want to settle.

[Jltakk]

You're not exclusive then.

[anon15]

I don’t know why she thinks they are exclusive

[Asker]

@anon15 he says he is only seeing me

[lovedejj_xo]

He plays games that’s what happened

[driven159]

he is not grown up yet

[baserunner611]

If you want to wait 4 or 5 years for a decision

[Chaopakhi]

He is playing you. He is toxic.

[cookiecrusher]

He played you. Only wants sex.

[BLP11520]

He is with you for sex

[Cherrylicious]

Exactly like all men are.

[BLP11520]

@Cherrylicious Maybe not all men, but a large percentage for sure. So saying ALL is not wrong.

[ACR130]

He used you. That simple.

[PJH359]

He’s not in love

[Anonymous]

That’s a relationship.

[evaevaeva]

He wants to see other people

[TX651]

He's in a relationship with you already.

[fireforeffect]

dump him.

[OddBeMe]

Sure he’s exclusive?

[dolemite89]

he has other options

[flirtygirl111]

He is a player