I believe my girlfriends temperament issues come from past trauma. She doesn't like to talk about her feelings and when I get worried about her she sometimes gets pissed off. I'm generally a logical person so I use logic for most heated situations. However logic doesn't calm her down; it usually makes things worse. Ex.
My girlfriend was looking for a college admissions office while on the phone with me. She said she was lost and asked for help so I suggested going to the closest building and asking for directions. She didn't respond to my suggestion; I thought she didn't hear me so I said it again and she got pissed and told me to just stop. I shut down like I usually do when people are upset with me. My girlfriend then asked a girl on the sidewalk for directions, she followed those directions but they didn't help. She assumed the girl purposely gave her the wrong directions and got upset. I told her the girl probably just made a mistake. My girlfriend asked why I can't just take her side. I didn't think there were sides to take; I was just thinking of the most logical explanation.
That being said, should I try to be more in tune with emotions when trying to calm my girlfriend or stick to my more logical side or maybe something else?
My girlfriend was looking for a college admissions office while on the phone with me. She said she was lost and asked for help so I suggested going to the closest building and asking for directions. She didn't respond to my suggestion; I thought she didn't hear me so I said it again and she got pissed and told me to just stop. I shut down like I usually do when people are upset with me. My girlfriend then asked a girl on the sidewalk for directions, she followed those directions but they didn't help. She assumed the girl purposely gave her the wrong directions and got upset. I told her the girl probably just made a mistake. My girlfriend asked why I can't just take her side. I didn't think there were sides to take; I was just thinking of the most logical explanation.
That being said, should I try to be more in tune with emotions when trying to calm my girlfriend or stick to my more logical side or maybe something else?
