What is going on and what should I do?

[Lone910]

I have been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years now and the last 3-4 months have been the absolute worst. Every move I make seems to piss her off, every word I say seems to be fighting words, she is genuinely disinterested in sex, doesn't want to spend any 1 on 1 time together and has been talking to some random dude on TikTok. We have a kid together and another on the way and I have done everything I can to fix this I don't know what else to do.

[lightbulb27]

Am confused. Have one kid… another on the way…not married or engaged and the issue is your sex life?


What is she saying to you?


Hormones have changed… stress is high… and some emotions are aflame. she’s seeking someone to listen and comfort. Can you do that and acknowledge what she’s saying?


All too many relationships blow up around this time. Hang in there…although it’s probably very painful.


Listening… supporting… reassuring… all good things. Defending … arguing… bad.

[In_Trance]

Have you had a conversation with her about any of this?
What did she say?

[Lone910]

She flips it on me. Like I'm the bad guy for asking about our sex life or questioning the relationship of TikTok dude

[Subarugirl]

Have you talked to her about it? Have you gone to couples counseling?

[Lone910]

I've tried but if I bring it up I'm the bad guy and she refused counseling out right

[Subarugirl]

Well if she’s not willing to put effort into the relationship, the relationship is already over

[Guy13]

Not married. Done with you.

[Lone910]

We are engaged

[Guy13]

🤔. Marriage jitters. Might want to have that conversation. If you have t started planning then that may be it. Talking to other men is over-the-top though. How are you feeling about marriage these days might be good discussion

[Lone910]

I want to get married she has been my best friend for 16 years. this was all very out of the blue. She started talking to this dude on TikTok and ever since we have been having nothing but issues. Any attempt I make to talk about it results in a fight

[Guy13]

Talk about the marriage not the guy. Get that straight as far as everyone’s attention then let TikTok play itself out. No regrets that way?

[Lone910]

That... actually makes a lot of sense thank you

[Guy13]

👍. Best in your endeavors

[spartan55]

Sounds like she has checked out dude. Sorry.

[dazzinu69]

Maybe it run it's course