How to get over someone you can't have?

[MakeUpModel91]

So this man is my absolute dream.
He is smart, funny, gorgeous..
Everything I have ever wanted.
My Mr right. In a perfect world he would be mine but unfortunately I can't have him and I can't tell him. I feel such a connection when I'm with him. I'm completely in love with him. Has anyone experienced this if so how do I move on from this? This feeling sucks! 😔

[bongo]

How to Get Over Someone You Can't Have?

We've all been there before. You meet someone and you hit it off immediately. There's a strong connection and you can't get enough of each other. But then something happens and it all falls apart.

Maybe they were already in a relationship. Maybe they're not interested in you. Maybe they're just not ready for a relationship. Whatever the reason, it hurts. A lot.

If you find yourself in this situation, you're probably wondering how to get over someone you can't have. Here are a few tips to help you move on.

1. Give yourself time to grieve.
It's important to allow yourself to feel the pain of the loss. Don't try to bottle it up or push it away. That will only make it worse in the long run. Cry if you need to. Talk to a friend or therapist about what you're going through. Write about it in a journal. Do whatever you need to do to process the emotions you're feeling.

2. Accept that it's over.
This is probably the most difficult part of getting over someone you can't have. You have to accept that the relationship is over and that you'll never be together. This doesn't mean that you have to like it or be okay with it. It just means that you have to accept it as reality.

3. Focus on taking care of yourself.
When you're going through a tough time, it's important to focus on taking care of yourself. Eat healthy foods, get enough sleep, and exercise regularly. These things will help you physically and mentally. You may also want to consider seeing a therapist to help you deal with the emotions you're feeling.

4. Find ways to occupy your time.
It's important to keep yourself busy so you're not constantly thinking about the person you can't have. Spend time with friends and family, take up a new hobby, or volunteer for a cause you're passionate about. Doing things that make you happy will help you move on.

5. Be patient.
The healing process takes time. Don't expect to get over someone you can't have overnight. It may take weeks, months, or even longer. Just be patient and give yourself time to heal. These tips can help you get over someone you can't have. Just remember to be patient and focus on taking care of yourself.

[MakeUpModel91]

Thank you so much 😊

[Anonymous]

Realize that there are roughly 3.5 billion of their gender on this planet. In that sense they're not special. And if they don't value you then why are they worth your effort?
It's really that simple!
The problem is when we develop feelings for someone (which at it's most basic form is just hormones in your brain that makes you feel that way) so it's not real. We just interpret it that way lol.
So in reality your brain is lying to you to making you feel something for someone, that logically they don't deserve. Why? Biology.
If we didn't get those chemicals we'd never stay infatuated with someone long enough to form a deeper bond (love). And that's just biology. Animals reproduce and typical mature fast. Humans take 18 years. It's kind of important for a man and a woman to be bonded for a long time, for the benefit of the offspring.
Sorry I kind of rambled here.

How do you move on? You need to break the chemical cycle in your brain that causes "limerance". This guy is NOT perfect. You need to tell your brain that. I always tell people that are trying to get over someone, remember all his bad faults (he most assuredly had them). Play them over and over again in an endless loop. Fabricate some if you have to. This isn't wrong because your brain is lying to you. Lie back to it lol. If you have to see this person on a regular basis. Don't talk to them. We've all been there. Where you talk to them and try to find meaning in the things they say. And to make matters worse maybe they have no problem with stringing you along. The more you feed your brain this negative narrative about the more your feelings for them will diminish till they become just a bad memory.
Good luck!

[MakeUpModel91]

Thank you so much. You are so right! I really needed this advice. You have really helped.. thanks so much 😊

[Anonymous]

Sorry to be so blunt, but it's called "being a grown up". Also, the words you're choosing to describe your emotions indicate that your attraction is nothing but fantasy, not real love. You're "in love", or you are just swimming around the idea of what love would be like with him. Snap out of it.

[MakeUpModel91]

I appreciate your answer but unfortunately yes I am in love with him. I'm a 30 year old woman with children so I have experienced mostly every emotion we can have. I have a deep connection with him. Just because we have to grow up in life doesn't mean our emotions dissappear. I am just being honest in how I feel for him.

[Opinion Owner]

Are you married? Is HE married? Involved? Are you certain it's impossible?
Well let's say it is impossible. Then answer is you never get over it, you live with it. But what you SHOULD be thinking about is how your so called love for him affects your being a mother and wife as well as what it does to your own head. Do you actually want to live your life yearning for something you can never have? Does that sound like a life worth living? Think hard about that, and that's how you get over it for yourself, and for those you have to take care of.

[MakeUpModel91]

I would say its probably a definite no go as he has been with this woman for a while. Unless they broke up I wouldn't be able to even try and win he's heart. I don't want to come inbetween a loving relationship. I don't let my feelings affect my parenting or my life but I do think of him everyday. I will try to move on slowly it's just very difficult.

[Anonymous]

I’ve had this happen. I decided to confess my feelings to him and then walked away, completely cut him out of my life. I told him about my feelings bc I wanted to walk away without any regrets - that way I could walk away and live out my life in peace. He’ always have a place in my heart tho…

[MakeUpModel91]

If you don't mind me asking what was he's response to your confession. I would love to just be free of these feelings 😔

[Opinion Owner]

He told me that he felt the same way (maybe more) and that he wishes things were different. He has the ability to make things work but I wasn’t gonna ask and he didn’t seem like he wanted to try so it made it easier for me to walk away.

What’s stopping the two of you from getting together tho?

[MakeUpModel91]

Ah that absolutely sucks. I'm so sorry you experienced this also. He is already taken that is why I can't even let him know. I wouldn't even attempt to be a homewrecker. I just wish things were different.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh same thing with me lol he was already in a relationship which is why I decided to just walk away, I didn’t want to ruin his relationship too but I needed some closure for myself. I hope you’ll be able to move on, I’m sure you’ll find someone else that’s way better than him!

[MakeUpModel91]

Thank you so much 😊❤

[TheMajesticKing777]

I know how it feels but you didn't have a chance, I think I fucked up my chance so hopefully that makes you feel better, the good thing is that the pain goes away lol

[MakeUpModel91]

Thank you 😊

[Fireguy17]

It just takes time.
Try not to dwell on it, and you think of them less and less.

[MakeUpModel91]

Thank you 😊

[Pudsmucker]

I have learned that there are other fish in the ocean of dating. Let him go there will be others. You will always find somebody better.

[MakeUpModel91]

Thank you so much. I can't see anyone as perfect as him coming along but fingers crossed 🤞🏻🤣

[Pudsmucker]

I thought I found the perfect person 45 years ago. She dumped me and three years later I married the most perfect woman in my life.

[MakeUpModel91]

Ah that's amazing. Well done you! So there is hope for me still 🤣 thank you so much 😊

[Uptowngirl88]

You need to just move on with ur life instead of being a psycho. He's not interested

[MakeUpModel91]

Well I know he isn't available I have already said that. Also not a psycho if he isn't even aware but thanks for the input 👍

[KrakenAttackin]

Welcome to the world of men. Suck it up and move on.

[MakeUpModel91]

Yep. First time for a unrequited love for me. Absolutely sucks!

[KrakenAttackin]

Wow, you are 30 and have never been rejected... just wow.

[MakeUpModel91]

I have been rejected in the past but I was with my ex partner for a good part of my life. This is the first time I have ever liked someone first that I can't have.

[UniquelyBasic]

Why can't you have him? Is he even real?

[MakeUpModel91]

I wish sometimes he wasn't real but unfortunately he is real and he is already taken which is why I can't have him. I would love to just stop my mind from thinking about him all the time. I seriously believe he was made for me but he isn't mine. I don't understand this life we live.