Yes, if you know for a fact "S" isn't worth losing "M" over, you're in the wrong. End those feelings and let it go.
If "S" is worth burning a bridge over, then drop "M" immediately. Don't "propose" it, stand on your own feet and just end the relationship.
But this isn't lasting long either. At some point, when the honeymoon is over, "S" is going to realize that in the right situation, you'll do the same to him, at which point, he'll have a decision to make as well.
"M" doesn't sound like the type of guy that will be fine with an "open" relationship, but you know him better than me. If you feel safe enough asking that question, feel free.
You're not coming out of this situation squeaky clean and innocent, the only thing you have control over is who gets hurt the most by you. In that situation, it's best to hurt the person you'll never come back to.
I say that, because you don't sound too enthusiastic about progressing with "M". If you were, you wouldn't entertain "S".
Also, what is "S" going to do? Doesn't this move end his friendship with "M"?
And with him "being randomly aggressive" , are we sure we want to drop "M" for his friend?
Because "M" loses twice in this scenario, if you consider "M" to be emotionally immature and can't regulate his anger, he won't take this slight easily.
Just my opinion, I hoped it sparked further questions, be safe and good luck.
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Liking the best friend makes some sense. People usually become good friends with others a little like them. Liking two similar people is quite logical. The best friend while alike probably has a more new-toy shine.
Not like we can really tell you what to do. If you can't choose you can float the idea of something open tactfully. Most guys wouldn't go for it but who knows.
If you can choose, choose. Just commit to it before taking action. That is, if you want to go for the friend dump your guy. Make things clear. Then do it. You are not forced to love someone forever, but personally I feel anyone you have loved still deserves your respect.
I don't believe in monogamy, and this is a perfect example of why. But I also don't believe in a fully open relationship, because that would be chaos. I think both partners should be allowed to have a special friend on the side. If that was your arrangement, this problem would be solved. Throw out the suggestion and if your boyfriend doesn't go for it, then leave.
break up with the boyfriend. he sounds like a dick for one, but you're also literally asking if you should jump ship which shows you've checked out the relationship yourself anyway.
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Am my opinion open relationships are just asking for drama not worth it
The relationship sounds incThe relationship sounds vary insecure and on the rocks for sure.
Grow up, break it off, and try with the other, fuckin' hell.
Lol and you wonder why most men do not respect women any more.. Don't cheat on the guy, just break up.
Slave and master huh?
Naughty girl. Poor M gonna lose his girl
And itβs going to hurt.If boyfriend calling you a bitch leave him but you go to A that drama baby
Get rid of the boyfriend. He sounds like a jerk.
Why cheat? That's why men can't trust women anymore.
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Break up with him
Good luck with that
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