You need to do some very genuine and dedicated work on yourself, hun. It was sad reading this because of how hard you are on yourself. Rather than relying on a boyfriend to uplift and make you feel good or worthy, you should actively start working to instill that in yourself. Because what you’re bringing to the table is a lot of baggage that you make up for with funding every aspect of your relationship, as if you’re paying for his love and that’s not right. What makes his love better than yours? Why do you fight so hard to cling on to someone who isn’t doing that for you? It’s time to put some value on not only your time, but your presence in someone’s life, period. Seek help if you haven’t already, stay single (don’t go groveling to that man), and heal from your past. That’s where your focus should be, not shitting on yourself to feel worse than you already do.
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This is going to be fairly brutally honest.
It sounds like you were trying too hard, why would he need to try hard with you when he knoew he can doing whatever he wanted and you'd still be fine with it. Your insecurities are mostly to blame for that, as you're more scared of loosing him than he is of loosing you. Because of that, you allowed him to walk all over you and not respect you, and ultimately get tired of you. You sound very clingy too, a huge turn off for most guys.
I think you need to work on you as a person, and become more confident in yourself, get some therapy to deal with the insecurities otherwise this is likely to happen again, and again, and again. And stop picking losers and users because you think that's the best you can do.
Honestly, he doesn't seem like much of a catch either. What I'm gathering from you is that he mooched off of you. It seems like he was looking for a mother not a partner. Someone to look after him and take care of him. He seems like a child, very immature. Threatening you when he doesn't get his way. Now you're free to find a partner who greatly values you and appreciates what you do. I'd say, good riddance on that part.
You have to work on yourself too, though. It's not a good thing to start constant arguments and fights due to having a low self esteem. You're going to continue to push every single partner away, if you don't get help or work on yourself too. Best of luck to you.
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" I admit that I have some pretty severe self esteem issues..." "... He never took any steps to make it possible. He wouldn't even get a job for me and he was in his 20s..." You definitely have some serious self-esteem issues. How were you raised?
If it's possible, see a therapist and talk about this. I was in the same place in my 20s and ended up in a disaster of a marriage before I finally got some help. It got better. Now I'm happily married.What is wrong is not what you think. You are to loser guys, and the results speak volumes.
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