How do I talk to my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend,(we'll call him J) have been together since March and he's been away on a trip for 3 weeks now, barely being able to talk and in that time I got numb to him not being there and I developed feels for someone else (we'll call him F ) while still having feelings for J, I've told F everything about how I feel and all of that but I haven't told j because all he does is send me memes when we do talk he's still on vacation and I don't know what to do

Updates

1 y

Just wanted to add today he had completely ignored me, he has been for those 3 weeks and I heard from our friend group that he is watching porn with our friends (male), We are also long distance

[Changiis07]

Have you develop feeling because J isn't there as much as you would want him? Does he not treat you how you want to be treated..

[Asker]

J is never there and f is there whenever plus j just disappears even on important days, if I need someone he's gone but if he needs someone I'm here.

[Changiis07]

You should have a talk with J if you want to be with him or not. It's best to talk about it now and that way what needs to happen will happen. Both should be happy and spending time together and the relationship should always be growing

[TenkRealist]

Tell J. Leave the poor guy alone. Break up. He deserves someone better.

[Avicenna]

Tell you boyfriend it’s important that you talk to him

[TommyMountainFigure]

The right thing to do is wait until J gets home, then tell him the truth... From then on you're free to be with F.

[The_Naughty_Guy]

Whom do you love more now? J or F?

[Asker]

I don't know, I think I love f more but I haven't been able to talk to J at all to see what's going on

[Iron_Man]

You have to find courage and just speak your mind