Usually there is this idea and discussion that men should earn earned more money for the relationship compared to women, and most people usually talk about a relationship if the girlfriend or wife earned more money in their job compared to their boyfriend or husband. So my question to you gentlemen is if you were going out with a girl but she tells you that she made more money than you how would you react? Ladies if you were on a date with a guy who was starting to behave strangely because he found out you earn more money than him how would you girls react in the situation?
Guys have you ever felt intimidated by dating a girl who makes more money than you? And ladies have you dated a guy who was intimidated you earn more?
you're still young... and you have little or no experience
so, when you say that "men should make more money than the woman" is a discussion people have, that is not accurate... people don't discuss or have these ideas, only some idiotic inadequate people have these ideas, and they usually mess up their lives arguing about with other dumbass people who think that money is the most important factor in human relationships
so, forget about that... just don't go there, because most people... the BEST KIND of people, the people that are worth to have around and with you, they really don't care about who makes more money
now, yes... money is a factor, but is not a deciding factor, and it does not have to be reduced to the fact that just because you have a penis or a vagina, you should earn more or less money in comparison... and that if you do NOT, then you are worth less as a person
that is just stupidity that some inadequate people have and use as an excuse to sabotage their own lives, so don't do that... forget about that
I didn't said that men should make more money, I just kinda noticed that some people immediately think that I honestly don't know why there are some people who has that mindset
I have never dated anyone who made more than I do. That women make less them men... That is not actually true. Women do not make less money then men circumstantially. I watched a statistician slaughter a feminist with facts. Basically a person who starts at a company and stays there for years makes more money then one who just started. And the statistics show this regardless of gender. Men's and women's pay where equal. The difference showed that women who stayed home to raise a family because they saw that was far more important, and then joined the working field out side the home made less because of the time frame they entered to company. This was true of any men who "role reversal" , where laid off, changed employment...
I have changed Jobs many times due to moving. So I am on the lower end of pay grade. My life is extremely simple with very little waste. So I don't care to make loads of money and devote all day to a job. I could really care less what any woman I would date would make. Except love.
I don't discuss earnings with boyfriends :) if he asked I Might tell.. a few have asked... but... I don't ask him.. ever... and I don't care. And I don't go into details.
I know a few boyfriends who wouldn't care but even be happy I earned more.. and I know by the fact of how they encouraged me at certain job opportunities... even the Muslims, MODERN ones, don't mind AS LONG AS I'm not showing off, constantly talking about it (who tf does that anyway? Oh I know who)
And as long as I don't act like he is my child and can't take care if himself... offeringbubsolicited money 😆... .
It depends a lot on the woman's attitude and also the guy's own insecurity... but the woman's attitude goes a long way. For me income amouny will never be a source of pride. But perhaps for more men it will be.
In 2018 and 2019, a lot of egos were bruised because the guys didn't like that I made more. I just hate that. My money is mine, theirs is there's. That shouldn't have anything to do with us being together aside from us being able to cover our own selves on a date or our own portion of the bills
Yes I logically never understand the mindset that the men just have to make more, I mean as long we are willing to share or help do our own potions why should it matter if either the man or woman earned more.
Yeah; but what do "bills" mean? And what does "live comfortably" mean? Those concepts will be different for different people. That's why you sit down and discuss it and plan together.
@Jamie05rhs yea and we would of course. But it doesn't have much to do with our work life and finances. We just give eachother a set number and we split those expenses. My point is that we’re paying more attention to the bigger picture rather than how to get there. But i do get what you both mean now by the business partnership
@DizzyDesii Well, it does have SOMEthing to do with your partner's job. I mean, if my girlfriend asked me how much money I made, I would consider that to be a legitimate question and I would answer it.
@Jamie05rhs im referring to serious relationship as well. But im saying i need even more than just longterm. I need a fucking engagement ring at the least to discuss what i make
All my girlfriends supported themselves. I know that one of them made the same money as me because we worked at the same jobs in high school.
Later in life, I assume that I made more money than the rest of my girlfriends but the question of money never came up. We weren't thinking about money.
I can't imagine being intimidated by a woman who made more than me. It would only be a plus. All that matters is that we like each other enough to want to be in a committed relationship. We admire each other physically and intellectually, and have similar values, attitudes, lifestyles and goals.
No, If I married a woman who makes more money than me, then I shall make more than her, and even if she didn't do a job or had a career, I shall teach her how to do so, I want a queen who can rule in the absence of her king.
Traditionally speaking, men find difficult to stay with women (who makes more money) Because money equals power, power and the one with power controls the relationship
Centuries of programming have made a man to be a "man" who always holds power...
You should be never look at a realationship as who is the richest , you should marry or date in the view of 'for richer or poorer 'sickneas and health ' these days people make up there own vows , also there's the prenpshule agreement , you have to sign on this line , then sign on the other line ,, to me of your not willing to sign the second one first then your not really commited to making it last , the idea of a golden diamond ring was for the woman to feel save if things did go down hill , she would always have something to fall back on
Men have been and usually are taught that the only thing they really need to contribute in a relationship is financially, so it isn't uncommon for men to feel emasculated by a female partner who earns more than he does. That just means that he can't use money as a way to compensate his lack of contribution to the relationship in other ways.
True. It's the way boys taught, not in words, but by observing role models and society. I think the reason is because it was the tradition for centuries when women had no legal rights and were dependent on men for survival.
If she earns significantly more, then I'd be wary about her spending habits. Personally, I despise status symbols, branding and such; and I refuse to be the typical ''consumerist''. So it is possible that our life styles and values don't match.
The mere fact that she has more does not take away from my own -well sufficient- means. ''Wealth'' does not impress me; so it can't ''intimidate'' me.
No I've would never be intimidated dating a woman who thought she 'made more than me'. But then I've never shared with any woman what my salary was, If she thought she made more than me and it made her happy why should I disabuse that what she thought was completely wrong.
I actually do not quite understand why a man would feel intimidated by that… he should be happy, cause then we have more money coming into our household
Dont care. When i was a young man i dated some women who had more money than me. Never gave it a second thought. But now i doubt i could find any woman who makes more than me and if i did id not be interested in a woman who was so career oriented. I like home maker girls.
No, if I marry a woman who makes more money than me, I will make more money than she does, and even if she has never worked or had a career, I will educate her how to do so; I want a queen who can govern without her king. Men have traditionally found it difficult to stay with women (who makes more money)
It's not a big deal that a girl makes more money or that she brings in more money than me I would discuss with her, what I bring in money so she knows.
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