Do you still use tinder, even tho you're in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Do you ever like, stop flirting/sexting or do you even cheat? I don't really know if my long-term boyfriend, is actually a narcissist that has gaslighted me for so long, that I truly do not understand how this works. Accordning to him, all dudes like dat. According to me, (I ONLY refer to myself here) I couldn't stand the thought of doing this to him.
Please tell me that I'm wrong.
Also. Did he use Tinder to cheat on me, or not you think?

[serious]

Well, I have always been single. No I have never been on any dating apps. Never used them and I have no idea how they work etc etc.

The answer to your situation is NO. Absolutely not, this is not normal at all. Your boyfriend's opinion is totally nonsensical. Not all men are like that. In my view once you are in an exclusive relationship then there is no place for flirting/sexting with someone else be it online or in real life. The person should know their limits and set their boundaries and follow them. If they cannot do this then they don't deserve to be in a relationship.

For your situation if he is sexting/flirting with other women then he might intentions to cheat even if he has not cheated already.

[JHNS98]

Last December, I had a friend with benifits. I did use a dating app, Badoo in my case, during the entire time. But I'm too average to even be remotely successful on the online dating scene.

As for the detail text, I react strongly to your use of the words "gaslight" and "narcissist", both of which are very strong/serious and are being overused on the internet in general. I hope that you know what both of these terms actually mean, and contemplate werther they really apply to your situation before using them to describe it.

[FictionalCharacter]

We should mince our words carefully when it comes to definition and terminology. For instance, you’re not a Fboy. You’re just looking for friends with benefits.

[Asker]

Oh believe me, I have. I am completely sincere when I say that I seriously, and literally don't know because I can't trust myself or my own memories. Realising that, is scary as shit and it makes you study properly on the subject.

[WAJDI_XWX]

we all know what people uses tinder for so if he currently active on it dump his ass and him sayin all dudes like dat is not trues cause if he really do love u he will only see u in his eyes.

[Asker]

I'm getting a little teared up. But I think I just don't wanna see true, but fuck him. I can do better

[WAJDI_XWX]

thats the spirit show him that u dont need him and he ill come back apologizing and if not he dont deserve you anyway

[Asker]

It's probably people like you I seek, the ones who makes me change my doubts and beliefs when I lost my hope.
I thank you for your kind but yet raw answer, it was very much needed! And just as much appreciated

[WAJDI_XWX]

i speak with a bit of harshness because some times people need a bit of reality check cause i know for a fact that u love him and that makes ur judgement a bit not reasonable cause u have feelings for him so ur heart gonna be playin tricks on u and u will start tryin to find excuses for what he did and thats totally okay i understand that and thats why i approach subjects like this this way... and with pleasure we here for u any time u need us just ask

[WAJDI_XWX]

srry out of subject but r you African American or hispanic by any chance?

[TommyMountainFigure]

Nope, but then I never have. In fact if it wasn't for this place? I never would of even heard of Tinder.

[Jamie05rhs]

Unless I'm in a relationship, everything -- and everyone -- is still on the table.

[Asker]

And if you are in a relationship? (Curiosity)

[Jamie05rhs]

If I'm in a relationship? Then everything is OFF the table!! Lol

[Wise4myage]

I certainly wouldn't do that.

[Iron_Man]

That’s a sex side I don’t use that

[In_Trance]

I would not